This thread comes to you courtesy of reyd reid reed...........

[CaliforniaPeggy]

Where she was talking about burning bridges.......

I always try to not burn any....

But, recently I did.......

I decided to not renew my RN licence.........

I will never work as a nurse again, as long as I live...

Have you burned any bridges?

Tell me!

:wtf:

[idgiehkt]

1. I don't just burn them, I blow them up.

:nuke:

I have done this my entire life, so my goal is to not do it so much.

Sorry to hear about your nursing liscence, but it sounds like you are at peace with that. I think that is what matters, whether there is peace or not with the decision. :hi:

[reyd reid reed]

2. See...I've always been nonconfrontational...

Heaven forbid I rock the boat. Ever. And, even though it's out of character for me, and it really was hard to do, this time, I did more than rock the boat. I blew the damn thing sky high.

:nuke:

I should prolly go back to not burning bridges.

*sigh*

Safer that way. Dunno if it hurts less, but it's a different kind of pain.

:shrug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

4. Aw, sweetie........

I hope you don't mind my borrowing your thread as inspiration....

Because you truly did inspire me!

I want your pain to vanish!

:loveya: :hug:

[idgiehkt]

7. I'm sorry, it's a damn weird night, isn't it?

I don't know why I do what I do, but everything has to have a huge dramatic ending, full of fireworks and all that. I'm trying so hard to, as I've been told "don't just do something, sit there". But in your case maybe it was what you needed to do and it was probably long overdue if you are the non-confrontational type. Another :hug: .

[reyd reid reed]

12. Heh...I tend to hear the opposite advice...

"Don't just sit there, DO something."

It needed to be done...and in the end, I'll get over it. Losing one of my best friends is the hardest part of it.


I think.

[idgiehkt]

20. I'm sorry.

I know that has to be rough.

Yeah that "don't just do something, sit there" is a reversal of the old saw you quoted, re-tooled for bridge blower-uppers like me. I guess the key is to use both tecniques when they are appropriate.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear idgiehkt...........

Blow them up?

Yikes!

I am completely at peace with my decision........I truly am!

I have no desire to put myself in that market again.......

It is for the young and agile.....and I am no longer either one!

I am quite happy........:hug:

[idgiehkt]

6. I keep hearing that.

I am thinking about becoming a PCA. or maybe getting a CNA, but everyone says it will mess my back up. I cared for my grandmother for 3 years, and it's been 3 years since I did that so I think I could do it again now...I just don't want permanent back trouble.

[crim son]

5. I've found that unless I burn my bridges, I will inevitably

try to cross them again going in the opposite direction. I am the person most afraid of change who experiences a lot of it, being a bridge-burner by habit. It doesn't always work in my favor.

[idgiehkt]

8. wow.

I've never heard that, but that's part of why I do it, my rate of retrition is too great if the bridge is still standing. Good point.

[crim son]

13. I'm not being flippant.

I go about it pretty deliberately because I'm a freak :7

[idgiehkt]

18. I do it as well

Always have. I think it's because I waffle right before I light the fuse, thinking, hmm, things really weren't so bad over there on that side of the bridge, were they?

so *kablooey* is the only thing that works for me too, most of the time.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

10. My dear crim son........

I can see where going back over them in the opposite direction could cause trouble!

I like to leave my options open.......and that means not burning them down!

Sometimes it's hard to see what your options truly are, though.......:hug:

[Generic Brad]

9. I live a scorched earth policy

I have burned bridges with two of previous employers. Both times I was treated unfairly and could have successfully sued if I had decided to go that route. A personal punctuation mark in their lives sufficed for me instead. On a personal level I have burned multiple bridges with family members who demanded that I abandon my principals or go away.

For many years I could have best been described as 'milquetoast'. No longer. I'm older and I no longer give a rat's ass what people think of me. If I am required to change to be in a group, it is not a group I consider worth being a part of. And the best part is that none of this has come back and bit me on the ass.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

14. My dear Generic Brad!

I hear ya about scorched earth policy!

There are certainly times when that is appropriate!

And I agree that you do well to not worry about what other folks think...

There is a time to stand.....as well as a time to yield!

:hi:

[Generic Brad]

22. Thank you, CaliforniaPeggy!

Your encouraging word mean a lot to me. Over the course of the past year I have felt more at home here at DU than with my own family. Everyone here is so much more accepting and honest than my family was.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

24. It is one of my roles in this life to encourage folks.........

I'm trying to live up to my sigline.........

And it's what I want folks to do to me as well......:hug:

[wickerwoman]

11. I'll probably never live in the U.S. again.

It's not even because of any anger or bitterness... I've just discovered how easy life can be somewhere else. I certainly don't miss the poisoning of politics with religious dogma and it's nice to be able to make a living wage with minimal skills. And I learn something new just walking out my front door every day. And I can pick and choose how much boring, whitebread U.S. "culture" I want to let into my life (as opposed to being bombarded by it 24/7.)

I may be back to visit now and again and I'll certainly still vote, but it would take a *lot* to get me to actually live in the U.S. again.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

21. My dear bezdomny...

Well, you know.......sounds to me as though you've come to a peaceful decision, just as I have...

And...good for you!

Glad to hear that you'll still vote, though......

Enjoy your life abroad!

:hi:

[idgiehkt]

25. wow.

so China beats the U.S.? I ask that in earnest. I have a friend who lived there for 4 years. She is the most trustworthy person I know, she said that when she was over there people called her 'the priest' because she could always be trusted to keep confidences. She is the only one of my friends that kept a confidence of mine when I went through a rocky period about 7 or 8 months ago...she says she takes it so seriously because breaking a confidence over there could be life or death. I watched a GlobeTrekker once where they went through Shanghai and it was beautiful.

[wickerwoman]

26. For a Westerner, yes...

probably not so much if you're Chinese.

The difference in zeitgeist is just palpable as soon as you step off the plane. Most people in China are open and unpretentious and optimistic about the future without being arrogant. Many people in America are so afraid that you're going to hurt them or try to steal something from them that they completely shut down. And Chinese men aren't constricted by macho bullshit that tells them they have to hate everything except beer, football and promiscuous sex for fear of being called feminine or gay. Men and women can actually be friends and do things together without everyone assuming they're in a relationship.

There's stuff I hate too- rampant self-absorbtion and a level of personal and collective dumb-fuckery that is almost impossible to comprehend in its scope and magnitude...

But on the whole, my life seems to get better and I seem to be happier the farther I am from U.S. soil. Go figure...

[Heidi]

15. No more mainstream journalism for me, _ever_.

:bounce:

[reyd reid reed]

16. But did you actually burn the bridge

or are you just that strong?

I like to think that I'm strong...I pretend. I put on a happy face and all that and soldier on...but I'm not.

I cave WAY too easily.

[Heidi]

17. I stopped working in the MSM seven years ago.

When advertisers were allowed to dictate editorial policy, it was time for me to get out. That bridge is burned.

[reyd reid reed]

19. Good move, then.

:hug::hug::hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

23. My dear Heidi!

Another good decision, I think!

You've certainly found your niche, in your art..........:hug:

[Guava Jelly]

27. Yes to an old Job i had.

Your question reminds me of a song about burning bridges

GREEN DAY LYRICS

"F.O.D."

Something's on my mind
It's been for quite some time
This time I'm on to you
So where's the other face?
The face I heard before
Your head trip's boring me

Let's nuke the bridge we torched
2,000 times before
This time we'll blast it all to hell
I've had this burning in my guts now
for so long
My belly's aching now to say

Stuck down in a rut of dislogic and smut
A side of you well hid
When it's all said and done
it's real and it's been fun
But was it all REAL fun

Let's nuke the bridge we torched
2,000 times before
This time we'll blast it all to hell
I've felt this burning in my guts now
for so long
My belly's aching now to say

to say...

You're just... a fuck,
I can't explain it 'cause I think you suck.
I'm take-
-in pride
in telling you to fuck off and die.

I've had this burning in my guts now
for so long
My belly's aching now to say
I'm taking pleasure in the doubts
I've passed to you
So listen up as you bite thisssss...

You're just... a fuck,
I can't explain it 'cause I think you suck.
I'm take-
-in pride
in telling you to fuck off and die.

Goood niiiiiiiiight....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

30. My dear GoPsUx!

Thanks for these interesting lyrics...

Alas, I hardly know what to make of them, since I've never heard the song...

My education is lacking!

But that last verse sounds as though our singer is telling off the other person rather thoroughly!

Thanks for posting these today, sweetie! :hi: :hug:

And good for you with that old job.........

[miss_american_pie]

28. "When one burns one's bridges, what a very nice fire it makes."

----Dylan Thomas

That's somehow become my motto lately. :shrug: :hi:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

31. My dear miss_american_pie.........

Any time you burn something, it makes a lovely fire, doesn't it?

And sometimes the fire warms us........and sometimes it consumes us....

Or even burns us.........

Be careful, sweetie! Don't get hurt........:hug:

I've always loved Dylan Thomas.....

[WritingIsMyReligion]

29. I'm afraid of burning anything.

Therefore I cling to bridges and end up suspended somewhere halfway between until I finally go one way or the other. I wish I could just explode the damn things and be done with them, but I have an obsessive personality. I still think frequently of things from four or five years ago.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

32. My dear WIMR...........

It is hard sometimes not to think of things past.......

But I can tell you it will make you crazy if you do it a lot......

It makes it harder to move forward if you're always looking back, over your shoulder......

Wondering if you've made the right decision, or not..........

You can teach yourself not to be obsessive, but it's not easy!

I too am obsessive about some things.......and I'm still trying to learn not to be that way.....

It's tough.

:hug:

[RetroLounge]

33. Lately those bridges are getting burnt for me...

As I am in the middle crossing the bridge, the person behind me is pour gasoline on it and striking the match...

"and stay away..."

:shrug:

RL

[CaliforniaPeggy]

34. My dear Retro...........

Then, run baby run!

I hope your situation gets a whole lot better quickly..........:loveya: :hug:

[RetroLounge]

35. Oh, it has, CP, It has...

:hug:

I'm a long distance runner...

:loveya:

RL

[CaliforniaPeggy]

36. Indeed you are..........

And I am happy for you.......and her.......:loveya:

[Haole Girl]

37. Oh yes

One of the worst (bridges I burned) was a former employer. I told her exactly what I thought of her the day I left that company. It was 3 months before I could find another job. I remember my mother telling me, "I bet you'll be a perfect worm next time, won't you?" (she had a way with words :eyes:)

I didn't do it when I left any other job...realizing what a stupid move it was.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

38. Oh, sweetie......I sure understand!

When you have issues with your employer......

It is so damn hard to not burn those bridges....

And plus, it feels so good to do it!

At least, in the short term.......

:hug: