LeftyMom
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Sun Nov-12-06 03:46 AM
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A guy tried to ask me out at work today. |
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He's nice and I really don't want to hurt his feelings. I managed to duck the question but I work with him again tomorrow, so somehow I have to let him know that I'm not on the market. I really wouldn't mind being his friend at all, he's a really really nice guy, but I know "you're a nice guy, let's be friends" is just about the worst thing you can say to a guy short of pointing at his junk and laughing. Is there a way to gently clue him in that I'm not interested in him that way without hurting him? After all, I work with him most every day. (Oh, and there's no inappropriate workplace pressure angle, this is somebody in another department who is at the same level as me, not a supervisor or something.)
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Sun Nov-12-06 03:52 AM
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1. drop a hint about your significant other. |
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like, "my 'xyz' and i are planning to go here this weekend. i think it'll be fun. what're you doin' this weekend?" if they pursue after that then you can be more direct because all they are looking for then is some foolin'.
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Sun Nov-12-06 03:59 AM
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4. I guess I could mention being excited about him visiting |
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Less than two weeks! :woohoo:
Damn it, why do men have to make this shit difficult? A woman would have scouted the terrain, asked a few mutual friends, determined there was an SO and backed off with the potential date none the wiser.
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Sun Nov-12-06 04:10 AM
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8. Why waste the time with the PI. |
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Simply tell the truth. We are boys, it comes with the territory. Ya know, ask 100, make love to one.
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Mon Nov-13-06 12:28 AM
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39. Odds are better than that. |
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Sun Nov-12-06 09:58 AM
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15. That's the perfect way to handle it |
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Or, say it to a friend of his at the office.
And yup, most women "scout" it out first...
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Mon Nov-13-06 12:05 AM
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38. Show him his Arms.... |
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That'll stop him from flirting....
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MadAsHellNewYorker
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Sun Nov-12-06 03:52 AM
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2. why can't you just say you're seeing someone already? |
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I mean, thats no reflection on him whatsoever and the truth
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LeftyMom
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Sun Nov-12-06 03:57 AM
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3. I can't shake the feeling that's a bit of a cop-out. |
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Sort of seems like using him to solve my problems, which bugs me because I have an independent streak.
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Sun Nov-12-06 04:00 AM
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6. but isn't that the simplest way? I don't think its |
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Edited on Sun Nov-12-06 04:00 AM by MadAsHellNewYorker
using him to solve your problems...its already your situation. I feel like most other excuses are cheesy, this is just a fact, lol.
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Sun Nov-12-06 04:03 AM
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7. I guess it's the gentlest way. |
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Provided I don't bust out a picture and give the poor kid a complex.
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Sun Nov-12-06 04:24 AM
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Sun Nov-12-06 09:58 AM
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16. If the truth is that you would say "no" even if you had no significant other |
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then why not put a price tag on the information? "For fifty dollars, I'll give you a one paragraph written statement that says why I'm not interested."
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Sun Nov-12-06 03:37 PM
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28. It's not a cop-out if it's true. |
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Telling a guy that you're already seeing someone and happy in that relationship is the fastest and easiest way to get the message across.
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Sun Nov-12-06 08:28 AM
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12. I like it for exactly that reason.... |
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it doesn't say anything about him being a nice guy, etc.
It *is* the truth and it does not seem hurtful to say it.
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Sun Nov-12-06 04:00 AM
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5. point at his junk and cry |
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Sun Nov-12-06 03:34 PM
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Sun Nov-12-06 04:24 AM
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Edited on Sun Nov-12-06 04:30 AM by BlueIris
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