I'm meeting my son for the very first time in 10 days!

[Samurai_Writer]

Just wanted to share my happy news with everyone. I am meeting my oldest son, who was surrendered for adoption over 28 years ago, this Thanksgiving weekend! We have been emailing each other for the past few months, and when I mentioned I would be in Houston for Thanksgiving (my mom and my youngest son live there) he asked if I'd like to meet!

I can't tell you how excited, scared, shocked, overwhelmed I feel. This is one of the MOST important days in my life. One that I've waited over half my life for (I'm 45). I never thought this day would come!

[lizziegrace]

1. You have much to be thankful for

but you know that. :)

:hug:

[Samurai_Writer]

15. Yes I know that.

It's taken a long time to get there, though. A really, really long time. I still can't believe it.

[lizziegrace]

20. I'm so happy for both of you

:hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

2. That's wonderful!

I'm so happy for both of you! :hug:

[Oeditpus Rex]

3. Oh, wow

I can imagine how you feel. I experienced this from the other end with my bio mom about 15 years ago.

Just be yourself and it'll be great. :hug:

[Samurai_Writer]

6. How did your first meeting go?

How old were you when you first met your first mom? Did you keep in contact after that?

[Oeditpus Rex]

8. I was 36

It went well, but we didn't maintain contact for very long. I guess she was just overwhelmed. :shrug:

[Samurai_Writer]

9. I'm sorry to hear that

It happens sometimes. Especially with older first mothers, I think. They have a lot of shame and guilt to work through from the old closed adoption days. She would probably appreciate contact from you again, though. *hugs*

[Oeditpus Rex]

10. If I knew how to reach her, I would

Dunno where she is, though.

[Samurai_Writer]

13. Check your inbox, Oeditpus Rex *NT*

[u4ic]

4. That is great news, RadFemFL!

I've read some of your story. I can't even begin to imagine how elated you are.

I hope you have a wonderful reunion! :bounce: :toast: :bounce:

[Samurai_Writer]

16. Thanks U4ic...

I'm sure it will be. *hugs*

[LostinVA]

5. Good for you -- that's wonderful

I know you'll probably be a nervous wreck... but it'll be fine after the first few minutes.

Good luck!

[Samurai_Writer]

7. I'm a nervous wreck already!

I'm hoping to get it out of my system before I get there! I'm excited, shocked, scared, have a stress headache, and on the verge of crying every time I think about it! My biggest fear is that I'll cry like a baby or faint when I meet him!

[Karenina]

11. I'm SO HAPPY for you!!!

:hug::hug::hug: It's ALL FINE.

[LostinVA]

45. It's okay to cry... and it's okay to be nervous

And, since you've already been talking to him for a few months, you already know him some, right? Have a great time!!! Let us know how it went, okay?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

12. I'm sure he's feeling the same sorts of emotions.......

Just be yourself, and don't worry if you do cry.........

Tears are to be expected when emotions are overwhelming...:hug:

Have a wonderful, wonderful time!

[Samurai_Writer]

14. Thanks Peggy!

I just hope I'm not the only one crying! I am counting down the days, hours, minutes and seconds now, believe me! :)

[Nicole]

17. WOW! That is great.

I hope it's just the first of many days you will spend together.

[SeattleGirl]

18. Wow, how exciting!

I hope the meeting goes well for the both of you.

[Samurai_Writer]

19. For those who don't know my adoption story...

Here's the link... it's a bit outdated... since the last update, my son sent me his first communication by letter this year, then we started emailing for the past few months.

http://www.geocities.com/CapitolHill/2991/marybb.html

[1gobluedem]

22. Your story is amazing

Thanks so much for sharing. I wish you all the best for your meeting, I hope it goes as you want it to.

[Whoa_Nelly]

21. WTG, RFF!

Hope it goes well and you both have a happy time :hi:

Haven't read through the posts in this thread, but gotta say...TAKE PICS!!!! :loveya:

[Samurai_Writer]

23. Funny thing you mentioned 'take pics'

When my son first started emailing me, we found out that we both have a passion for photography (I'm a semi-professional photographer -- check the DU Photography Group!). I think it is one of the things that brought us together.

I mentioned to him to bring his camera for when we meet! You bet your ASS there will be pics. Lots of them!

[Fuzz]

24. Interesting and good luck! I was adopted in '67.

I've thought of looking up my birth mother a couple of times, and searched on the net a little, nothing too extensive though. I'm not all THAT interested to be honest, but should the situation come up, I don't think I would be opposed to a meeting.

The whole situation seems a bit strange to me.

[Samurai_Writer]

26. Everyone affected by adoption feels differently about reunion

Although it's not unusual for you to not really be interested. It just depends on the situation, but most male adoptees are not interested in birthfamily reunion until much later in life (30s and later). I believe my son is interested at age 28 only because I have had communication with his adoptive parents, and later, himself, since he was 13.

Here's a birthmom/first mom hug for you, though.

:hug:

[Fuzz]

27. Thanks for the hug, and enjoy the reunion.

:)

[NNadir]

25. Congratulations!

I hope it works out well for everyone.

I read your story and it is very moving.

[Ptah]

28. I can feel your excitement.

:grouphug:



:thumbsup:

[ThomCat]

29. That is amazing! I hope it goes very, very well.

:hug:

Please come back with a wonderful story after Thanksgiving. It would be awesome to hear that it went well.

[nini]

30. I can't even begin to imagine how thrilled you are

What a great thing for both of you - I wish you both years of happiness in each other's lives.


:-)

[Haole Girl]

31. Wow!

That is very exciting. I'm sure both of you are nervous. Life is short...I'm very glad you are both taking the opportunity to meet while you can... :hug:

[Shine]

32. Wow, what a heart-warming story. I'm so happy for you.

:hug: Many blessings of Love, Happiness and Connection to you both. :hug:

[BlueIris]

33. Awwww. Good luck! nt

[Flying Dream Blues]

34. That's wonderful! I remember reading your story a while back.

I'm so glad you're finally getting to meet John. I hope it's the beginning of something very special for both of you.
:hug:

[maddezmom]

35. I'm so happy for you and your son

:hug:

Hope my kids get to meet their first moms someday.

[Samurai_Writer]

44. Were their adoptions partly open?

If you have any infromation about their birthparents, you might want to start searching while they are young. It will be easier to find their birthparents instead of waiting 15-20 years. Also, if you start contact early with the birthparents, you will be prepared with whatever questions your children might have about their adoption and birth family. If you want help, let me know. I'm also an adoption searcher (part of the Search Angels online volunteer group).

[maddezmom]

47. semi-open as they say

We have contact with my son's firstmom regularly, but haven't heard from my daughter's for a while now. But since we adopted in FL and signed the registry at 18 the records are open. So hopefully, we'll hear something then or sooner. She has the attorney's address, etc.

:grouphug:

[Mythsaje]

36. Congrats!

I hope someday to be able to meet my real mom like that. I don't know if it'll ever happen, but I dream of it.

I wasn't adopted. My mother abandoned me to my father when I was a baby. I've tried to find her, but with no luck.

I've got at least one half brother or sister out there too.

[xchrom]

37. how's that for some grand news! congrats!

[buddhamama]

38. this is happy news !

and thank you for sharing. I think it is wonderful you and your son have connected! I can understand the range of emotions your experiencing, your son is probably feeling them too. You have much to be thankful for this thanskgiving. I am happy for you both! :hug: Best Wishes!

[miss_american_pie]

39. Congrats!

:hug:

[bigwillq]

40. That's so awesome!

:bounce:


I am so happy for you! :hi:

What a Thanksgiving it is going to be for you and your family.

Best wishes to you all! :hug:

[wildhorses]

41. very happy news!! how wonderful for the both of you!!

have a great thanksgiving!!:hi:

[MissMillie]

42. I'm very happy for you

I hope this is everything you're hoping it will be.

[Brewman_Jax]

43. Congrats!

:hi:

[NewWaveChick1981]

46. That is wonderful, RadFemFL!!!

:hug: I know it's scary, but you won't regret it! :toast: I hope it goes even better than you ever imagined! :pals:

[hedgehog]

48. God bless you for giving so much happiness to another family.

It must have been very hard over the years. I hope you all have a wonderful time.