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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 09:55 PM Original message |
I have a friend who is an abused husband and need suggestions. |
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L A Woman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 09:57 PM Response to Original message |
1. What do you mean he "can't shake her legally?" |
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Cleita (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 11:58 PM Response to Reply #1 |
36. Complications perhaps with losing his kids. |
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billyskank (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 09:41 AM Response to Reply #36 |
63. The courts would favour THAT mother? |
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lizziegrace (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 11:30 AM Response to Reply #63 |
68. Over here? |
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williesgirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 09:58 PM Response to Original message |
2. Why doesn't he file for divorce? Bad influence on kids etc. He may end up |
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ixion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:04 PM Response to Original message |
3. Cut if off clean, file for divorce, give her everything, if necessary |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:28 AM Response to Reply #3 |
43. Give her everything? Why? She's an addicted moron. nt |
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ixion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 06:30 AM Response to Reply #43 |
51. unfortunately, the 'law' doesn't always see it that way |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 01:20 PM Response to Reply #51 |
74. The law generally doesn't favor drug addicts either |
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zanne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 08:49 AM Response to Reply #43 |
58. She's a moron with a disease. |
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Nay (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:04 PM Response to Original message |
4. AFAIK, he can shake her legally by filing for divorce, and getting |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:54 AM Response to Reply #4 |
48. Thanks, Nay, he's working on it now, I think/hope. She's bad news. nt |
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MrSlayer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:05 PM Response to Original message |
5. Why can't he kick her out? |
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sam sarrha (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:19 PM Response to Reply #5 |
16. the law of LOVE. stupid love, been there done that, lived with a junkie too..fot the kids |
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MrSlayer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:33 PM Response to Reply #16 |
22. Ok but the OP is saying there is a legal reason for it. |
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sam sarrha (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:45 PM Response to Reply #22 |
27. hard to say if that is legal, maybe if she stays out a couple of days and he changes the locks |
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windbreeze (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:47 AM Response to Reply #22 |
45. How about the mental angle? |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 09:44 AM Response to Reply #22 |
64. Legally he can't kick her out according to him. Whether |
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Coexist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:06 PM Response to Original message |
6. If she is violent, she can be Baker-acted (at least in Florida) |
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kiahzero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:06 PM Response to Original message |
7. He can file for divorce. |
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acmejack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:07 PM Response to Original message |
8. No alimony in Texas, community property though. |
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jedr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:21 PM Response to Reply #8 |
17. she will use up all the assets one way or an other; |
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Ian David (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:08 PM Response to Original message |
9. Steer clear of so-called "Father's Rights" groups. However, I did find this... |
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LoZoccolo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 11:58 PM Response to Reply #9 |
35. Father's rights is the radical notion that fathers are parents. n/t |
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Ian David (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 08:19 AM Response to Reply #35 |
54. That's what it SHOULD mean. But "Fathers Rights" groups believe differently. |
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H2O Man (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 08:24 AM Response to Reply #54 |
55. Wrong. |
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Ian David (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 08:32 AM Response to Reply #55 |
56. They are NOT progressive. |
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H2O Man (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 09:14 AM Response to Reply #56 |
61. A very few may be. |
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Ian David (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 07:06 PM Response to Reply #61 |
76. The majority are not progressive. But, I do have some good news to report. |
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LoZoccolo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 10:18 AM Response to Reply #56 |
65. I believe that's child support, not alimony. |
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zanne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 08:51 AM Response to Reply #54 |
59. Yup. |
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smtpgirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:10 PM Response to Original message |
10. Abuse goes both ways |
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BlackVelvet04 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:10 PM Response to Original message |
11. He can get either a legal separation or file for divorce.... |
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kiahzero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:17 PM Response to Reply #11 |
15. I just checked Westlaw. I don't think it does. |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:23 PM Response to Reply #11 |
18. That's his/their house, and he can't afford to abandon it. That's |
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TygrBright (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 11:51 PM Response to Reply #18 |
33. For the same reason abused women have to leave their husbands... |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:06 AM Response to Reply #33 |
38. Thank you. I will share this with my friend. I want him to be |
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MamaBear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:49 AM Response to Reply #38 |
46. Have he and the kids sought counseling yet? |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 01:21 AM Response to Reply #46 |
50. Yes. And it always came back to my male friend who |
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TygrBright (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 11:26 AM Response to Reply #50 |
67. What kind of mom? |
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BlackVelvet04 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:22 AM Response to Reply #18 |
42. If he can't by law make her leave then him leaving is the only answer... |
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B Calm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:11 PM Response to Original message |
12. He should freeze his bank accounts. Since he has no feelings |
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Pugee (295 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:12 PM Response to Original message |
13. The domestic violence shelter call is a good idea. (not for women only, as many people assume) |
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sam sarrha (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:14 PM Response to Original message |
14. he needs to consult with a lawyer, its free. then he needs to find here stash and call the cops and |
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flordehinojos (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:25 PM Response to Original message |
19. what would he have if he does let go of her? |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:27 PM Response to Original message |
20. If that isn't grounds for divorce, I don't know what is |
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leftofthedial (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:28 PM Response to Original message |
21. D-I-V-O-R-C-E |
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lonestarnot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 08:52 AM Response to Reply #21 |
60. Yeah. What's so hard a bout that? Call a DR lawyer. |
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Horse with no Name (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:33 PM Response to Original message |
23. If she disappeared today |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:39 PM Response to Reply #23 |
24. Thanks, that sounds like sound advice, as does everyone |
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Horse with no Name (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:44 PM Response to Reply #24 |
26. It's a power play |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:56 PM Response to Reply #26 |
30. I just talked to my friend. He's convinced he needs to get out |
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sandnsea (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 11:12 PM Response to Reply #30 |
32. IIRC |
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Horse with no Name (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 01:12 PM Response to Reply #32 |
73. This must be what my friends husband did |
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kiahzero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:42 PM Response to Reply #23 |
25. Abandonment in Texas takes a year. (n/t) |
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Horse with no Name (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:47 PM Response to Reply #25 |
28. Hmmm maybe that isn't what he filed then |
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kiahzero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:50 PM Response to Reply #28 |
29. Exactly. |
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mike_c (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 10:59 PM Response to Original message |
31. divorce her ASAP.... |
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LoZoccolo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Nov-17-06 11:57 PM Response to Original message |
34. Could he call the cops on her for illegal possession of pain killers? n/t |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:02 AM Response to Reply #34 |
37. No. She must have got them and left while he was at work. nt |
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Cleita (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:09 AM Response to Original message |
39. Battered men often have a harder time than battered women because |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:19 AM Response to Reply #39 |
40. He's at his wit's end supposedly. |
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mentalsolstice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:20 AM Response to Original message |
41. Can he get a protection from abuse order? |
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Floogeldy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:44 AM Response to Original message |
44. Does your friend actually call himself a "man" in public? |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 12:52 AM Response to Reply #44 |
47. I called him that, because that's what he is. He's |
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Floogeldy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 01:00 AM Response to Reply #47 |
49. Good point. |
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1932 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 06:35 AM Response to Original message |
52. He should probably get a divorce right away or he's going to be legally responsible |
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H2O Man (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 08:10 AM Response to Original message |
53. There appears to be |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 10:48 AM Response to Reply #53 |
66. This guy is broke, and much of that has to do with trying to |
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bleedingheart (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 08:45 AM Response to Original message |
57. He does have a way out - Divorce |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 09:38 AM Response to Original message |
62. no different really from an abused wife... |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 11:32 AM Response to Original message |
69. As others have said he can leave |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 11:34 AM Response to Original message |
70. tell him to talk to an attorney NOW |
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skygazer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 11:36 AM Response to Original message |
71. Okay, first of all, this isn't an abused husband |
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Maddy McCall (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 11:43 AM Response to Reply #71 |
72. BEST RESPONSE of this thread. |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-18-06 03:06 PM Response to Reply #71 |
75. Thank you! |
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