It's really uncool to de-accept a T-day invite 3 days before....

[bicentennial_baby]

Oy....our guest is now going elsewhere, and it's 3 days before Thanksgiving. Turkey already ordered, meal planned....How f'n rude. C'est la vie, I suppose, but that really bothers me.... :mad:

[some guy]

1. you are correct

it IS rude.

You should make a point of not inviting that person again.

I hope y'all have a wonderful day anyway.

:hi:

[bicentennial_baby]

2. Thank You

I'm sure we will :)

:hi:

[Divameow77]

3. Try having your hijacked

A few years ago when I was still married, we had planned on having turkey day at our house, invited my mother, my ex-husbands parents and brother and everyone accepted, well the week before MIL decided she wanted to do it at her house instead, we didn't go.

[seabeyond]

5. ahhhhhhm. that is nasty. hm..... n/t

[seabeyond]

4. yup yup yup... i guess it is better to just not have an answer 3 days

prior. just found out yesterday brother family of four is coming and waiting for a family of three to answer. lol lol. makes doing the menu wait a tad. along with the grocery shopping, but better than planning and buying to have disappointment.

very rude

[RetroLounge]

6. If I could make it, I'd be your fill-in guest

:loveya:

RL

[Bassic]

7. I agree, that really sucks.

What's his-her excuse?

[sniffa]

8. something better came up

his friend is having a LittLe party - decided at the Last minute to throw something.

he didn't think there was anything wrong with what he was doing, or even his stated reason for baiLing on us. at Least Lie to us and say you have a sick puppy, or reLatives popping in unexpectedLy, etc...

[LostinVA]

11. Ugh -- that makes it even worse

Beyond rude. He appears to not even care too much about sparing your feelings, eh?

I would never invite him to anything again... but I'm half Sicilian and hold grudges until eternity.

[Bassic]

13. I'm not Sicillian, but I still agree with you. nt

[Bassic]

12. That's a fucking lame reason, indeed.

So rude, it almost deserves reliation of some kind ;)

[meegbear]

16. That's bullshit!

I'd take him off the guest list for any future events.

[China_cat]

25. It's rude as hell

but look at it sideways. He trusted you enough as his friend NOT to lie to you. That should say something about your relationship.

[LostinVA]

9. Totally and completely discourteous -- and very tacky

Having an emergency is one thing... accepting another invite isn't.

[seemunkee]

10. One of my B-i-L just did that for him and his family

Glad I wanted to do some of the shopping

[Rabrrrrrr]

14. That's modern, mannerless, self-centered America for ya.

"Sure I would love to come!" means "Since I have nothing better offered to me, I'll accept your invite as insurance against having a crappy day, but believe me, I will drop that invitation like a hot potato if something better crops up, even if I have to cancel on you a few hours before the dinner, and even knowing that you would have made a lot of food for me because - come on - you can eat the food later. It's not like it goes to waste - and besides, what's more important, you or me? I think the answer is obvious. So, yes, I accept the invitation, and I will enjoy leaving you on pins and needles the next couple of weeks wondering if it's worth buying any food for me since you have no idea if I'll actually show up."

[Crazy Dave]

15. A long time ago we got tired of having to accomodate....

...everyone else and their schedules. We're supposed to be enjoying the holiday ourselves. We (Mrs DTW & I) don't go anywhere, we don't invite anybody, we have even been known to eat Thanksgiving dinner in our PJ's around 1:00 pm in our own house then pass out in front of the TV the rest of the day.

[carlydenise]

18. my kind of thanksgiving!

I am not into the dressing up, fine china on the table, white gloves etc thanksgiving stuff one sees on TV....I wanna get up, make my meal, family stolls up when ready, they usually sleep in, eat in front of the tv, after dishes done, nap time...works for me.
Carly

[zanne]

21. Now that's my kind of Thanksgiving.

My husband and I were planning to do that very thing this year, but we don't know what to do with my aunt. She's in a nursing home (Alzheimer's) and my sister was going to have her go to her house this year, but her in-laws have been sick and everything got screwed up. SOOOOOO, I have to go out and buy a turkey and all the fixins and learn how to cook the damn thing by Thursday. I don't eat meat, so my aunt and my husband will have to eat it while I eat the mashed potatoes and squash.
Sometimes I really yearn for the days when the "grownups" did the cooking and planning and all I had to do was show up and eat. Sigh.

[carlydenise]

23. cooking a turkey is easy.......

just make sure to get rid of those packets that are stuffed inside the bird before cooking, and put a tinfoil roof over the bird up until an hour before its done, that way it wont get dry.
Carly

[grasswire]

24. only two for turkey?

I would just buy one of those nice rotisserie-cooked broilers at the local market. Jazz it up a little bit with some stuffing on the side. No point in roasting a turkey for two.

[Der Blaue Engel]

28. I've had to make Thanksgiving dinner for a "mixed" crowd before

I now have a yummy stuffed mushroom dish in The Vegetarian Epicure that I make every year, using the same stuffing recipe I use for the turkey, except with vegetable broth instead of chicken broth. People always rave about it, and it takes very little extra work. Give yourself a treat; you deserve more than mashed potatoes and squash. :)

[buddhamama]

17. uncool and uncouth

i am sorry, sister girl.

your Holiday will be a blast, your food will be be superb...their loss.

Many Blessings to the Family. :hug:

[Puglover]

19. This asshat

actually TOLD you he now had other plans? "Sorry, something better came up."? What a jerk!

[bicentennial_baby]

20. Indeed he did...

And apparently thought nothing of it...His loss, 'cause we're some kick-ass cooks! :D

[Left Is Write]

22. Quite rude, yes.

[ashling]

26. "De-accept" or "un-accept "?

which is worse . . . but then, sometimes things come up

I de-accepted a dinner invitation (not TDay) about 6 months ago. Actually, my wife de accepted for us ... I was puking my guts out at the time and couldn't talk on the phone ... I know that was rude, but ...

[Der Blaue Engel]

27. Better than having 'em just not show up and not call

Not a lot better, mind you, but that's happened to me in the past. I can't believe how rude some people are.