I don’t know why, but every Thanksgiving turns into a battle between my husband and my son. It seems that every year my 33 year old son will come up with something that p*ss*s my husband off and suddenly Thanksgiving is ruined. My son just paid off the car he has now and instead of keeping this car and reaping the benefits of not having a car payment, he announced yesterday that he is trading it in for a 2004 Miata. He will be making $340 a month payments for the next seven years to pay off $24,000. Now, the car he has now he bought used for $5,000 and just paid it off. The problem is that he never wants to keep a car more that 2 or 3 years. He had a Jeep before this and took a loss on it when he paid it off and then sold it at a loss. In a few years he will get tired of this Miata. It is a 2 seater convertible with no space to carry anything.
My attitude is that I tell him one time what I think of his decisions and then, I let it go. I point out the disadvantages to doing what he is doing and then I figure that he is an adult and will do what he is going to do. But, my husband will not let it go. He will keep arguing with him and will not stop trying to change our son’s mind. They were on the phone last night for over an hour discussing it. My husband, of course, could not change our son’s mind and he barely got any sleep last night because of it. Now, he just told me that he wanted to cancel Thanksgiving. I cook for everyone on Christmas, so on Thanksgiving we usually go out to eat. I told my husband that I would not cancel our plans and if he did not want to go--fine.
I don’t know why my husband feels that our son has to agree with everything he says. They are so much alike I wonder if that is the problem. He can’t seem to acknowledge that our son is an adult who will make his own decisions, just like he did when he was that age. I can disagree with my son and then let it go. My husband can’t do that. He will keep arguing with our son trying to get him to change his mind. They are both the most stubborn people I have ever known.
So , now my Thanksgiving will be with just my son and his girlfriend or will be canceled all together. Something like this has happened just about every Thanksgiving. Now, I’m fed up!
Sorry, just had to go :rant: