Question for practicing heterosexuals:

[madinmaryland]

Is it something like making a pie crust where you only have to practice at it a few times, or is it more like playing the piano which requires years and years of practice before you are any good?

:shrug:

[Redstone]

1. I never had to practice. It just came naturally.

Redstone

[Drum]

2. piano

[XemaSab]

3. I'd say it's more like ice skating or ballet

Only a few really have the talent to get good, even with lots of practice. :P

[bridgit]

37. sometimes thin ice...

x(

[LeftyMom]

4. It's like cooking. I was really good at it from the start and got better with practice,

Now, I could teach classes and write a how-to book. :evilgrin:

[crispini]

5. I would say a moderate amount of practice will suffice....

for everyday purposes, but for special occasions, more practice will certainly behoove you. :evilgrin:

[madinmaryland]

6. It is what it is.

no practice required.

[Left Is Write]

7. It's like riding a bicycle.

You never forget how.

[idgiehkt]

8. it's strange, because

on the heterosexual things I would say that the way that men get really good at it is to be selfless, and the way that women get really good at it is to be selfish, when it comes to the big O. At least that's my experience.

[madinmaryland]

9. Interesting. I'll have to remember that.

:hi:

[idgiehkt]

10. well, that was just my experience on

the boy-girl side of the fence. other people might jump on here and say I'm totally full of it in a minute. I just know what worked for me.

[Gold Metal Flake]

11. Is the piano in tune?

And does the piano play back?

[madinmaryland]

12. One can only hope so.

:shrug:

[Gold Metal Flake]

13. Well then...

It's kinda like pie crust and it's like what idgiehkt wrote. Understand that because of the refractory thing, men need to forstall the conclusion. Women do not have that problem. So there is a shifting of focus and attention, which is cool because many men enjoy doing a good job, you know, at anything. Pie included. And it's damn enjoyable to facilitate. Mmm. Yeah. And, as a facilitator, one can be a guide to various... scenarios? Whatever works. But, communication is key. That includes signals, non-verbal cues, what works for good pie crust, too much pressure rolling the crust, not enough, too soon (don't rush the dough). Pie making is not about power or even sharing power. It's about combining power. If that makes sense?

[madinmaryland]

14. Wow!!

BTW your avatar looks a lot like David Rosengarten (formerly on FoodTV).

I'm still digesting your comments!

[Gold Metal Flake]

15. It's Thom Hartmann, I'm a big fan.

Just today Ms. OR made apple pie. No, real pie. She makes very good apple pie. Took a while to sort it out,but now is just fantastic. But it has to sit for a day. No, real pie. Maybe we could have a desert picture thread tomorrow.

As for our "pie", oh, my! :blush:

[madinmaryland]

16. I like pie for dessert also! My wife is make chocolate mousse. On the

other hand I worry about the encroaching desert.

[Gold Metal Flake]

26. I deserved that.

My just "deserts".

[MnFats]

17. like piano, it helps to have a good teacher....

or simply a lack of inhibition toward asking, "Do you like that?"
or something in a similar vein...

[Hissyspit]

18. It depends a lot on who is involved.

Lack of inhibitions, ability to relate to each other, lots of factors. So I'm not really sure what a good analogy would be.

[madinmaryland]

19. Love the toon, though i think

it is now

Help, Daddy... Daddy!!


:hi:

[pitohui]

20. pie crust

if you ain't happy w. your performance after a few tries you might have the wrong co star

:evilgrin:

dude, it ain't rocket science or we would not have a human species to begin with

meditate on this -- fucking park pigeons reproduce and are one of the most successful species in the darwin sense that 1) have a backbone AND 2) evolved since the asteroid messed up the yucatan

you are smarter and more sexual than a park pigeon

[madinmaryland]

21. Uhh, by the way have

you been over to free republic? They seem to be reproducing faster than pigeons or squirrels.

:scared:

[DiverDave]

22. Ask questions, be daring, and always be gentle.

It'll all work out.

[REDKING]

23. Cant remember........

it was a long time ago in a galaxy far far away...well,it feels like it...Peace.Rk:+

[wildhorses]

24. damn--this is reminding

no more fucking sex for me

i think i am nore mad aobut that than anything else :rofl:

[sarge43]

25. And by the time you get good at it, you're too pooped out to care

anymore.

[tigereye]

27. depends on the other player!

if they are skilled it is a lot easier. Sex is sex, I think.


Why, is is different for you? ;)

[caty]

28. It's an adventure.

As time goes by, you keep discovering new ways of having sex and improving on the usual ways of having sex. If you both want it to be a good experience, it will be a great experience. It's like a good wine--it gets better with age.

[Deja Q]

29. All people have to do is get past the front gates.

:7

[ZombieNixon]

30. I didn't have to practice.

It just came naturally...uh, so to speak...:yoiks:

[alcibiades_mystery]

31. Since a piano is BIGGER than a violin, I'd say piano

:crazy:

[Orsino]

32. Like playing the piano...

...except that the keys are arranged differently--delightfully so--on every instrument.

[HEyHEY]

33. It's all about soul - don't approach it mechanically

The most important part is to care that your partner gets there's. So, emotionally care about that and the rest should come naturally. The second girl I ever slept with was shocked I'd only had sex twice before.... and she found that out AFTER she phoned me the day after to say thank you for the previous night's....uh...er..... gift.

[Schema Thing]

34. It's more like geopolitics

Your partner is either with you, or against you. :smoke:

[blockhead]

35. I don't know about the piano

but my wife sure can play the organ.

[BarenakedLady]

36. I don't remember?

:shrug:

[billyskank]

38. Me neither

As far as I'm concerned it's just a few wierd lessons in biology class, and a book of my dad's of a bloke with a beard...

[lapfog_1]

39. Much like learning Aikido

it takes years of practice AND you need to learn from a Sensei.

[Lucky Luciano]

40. I think I was good right away...but what I cannot figure out

is dancing. I was always and completely confident in bed....but always and completely terrified of dancing - self-conscious beyond belief and full of anxiety...but no problems once I had a woman in my bed - total confidence. Weird...the dancing thing sucks though...It does handicap me for bringing women to my bedroom as i refuse to do it in all circumstances....so I have to rely on general cleverness, charm, and physical fitness instead! Without dancing-phobia, it would be much easier!

[annabanana]

41. It depends on the music....

IIRC (old married lady here)
With some partners, it wasn't an automatic thing. Like if you both tilt your heads the same way to go in for a kiss. . but with more moving parts.

With others (mr. banana, for example) everything went the in right direction the first time... and it still got better with practice!

[Evoman]

42. I'm Latino....I'm like a robot built for Piano building AND cooking pies

at the same time.

My girlfriend calls me "Mr. Magic Hands". No joke.