S/O's mother horror stories?

[HEyHEY]

I was just thinking about what a cow my last girlfriend's mom was. She was always trying to get her daughter to leave me. And I can see why; I'm a well-mannered, nice young man with a cool job and a bright future. Plus, I treated her daughter like gold. Fuck, I'm surprised she didn't get a restraining order.
I think the reason behind it was I threatened the influence she had on her daughter. Her Mom gave traditionally BAD advice and was probably scared if someone gave her daughter GOOD advice she'd stop getting listened to.

Oye, don't miss that woman.

[QMPMom]

1. Well, I'll give you one.

DH and I got married in 1985. The hell started immediately outside the church after our wedding ceremony with my MIL. Many things happened over the years and MIL died 17 1/5 years and 2 children after our marriage.

Up until the day she died she regularly gave my DH information on how to become a priest.

Yes, you read that right. She was giving her son, my husband (age 55 at the time MIL died) and the father of our 2 teenagers, information on how to join the priesthood.

Yup, she really liked me.:sarcasm:

[philosophie_en_rose]

2. Some parents need their children to fail.

Some people subconsciously (or not) undermine other people, in order to be in a superior position - either as a rescuer or as a snot.

[BlueIris]

7. Finally, some one else around here who gets that concept.

Sick bastards. Why can't parents decide to fix themselves when they realize they're that messed up?

[mykpart]

9. You have just described my mother to a T.

She has competed with my sister and me our whole lives. Now she is in her 80s and needs help, but can't allow herself to accept it because then that would mean that we are stronger than she.

[skygazer]

3. I once dated a guy whose mom was schizophrenic

I was 18 and he was in his 30's. We were living in his parents' driveway in a pop-up trailer which was not the best situation to begin with. His mother insisted on calling me "little 17-year-old" to which I'd always snap, "I'm 18". She also had weird hallucinations and would stand out in the yard yelling about how she could see people across the road setting up giant batteries for surveillance.

In retrospect, it strikes me as sad but at the time, I was scared to death of her and stuck alone with her all day while her husband and my boyfriend were at work.

The relationship didn't last long....

[idgiehkt]

4. I don't have one to share

because I've been lucky in that dept, but I do think you are right on about the reasons behind that woman's behavior, exactly. You 'threatened the influence she had on her daughter'. That's all it was. Sorry you had to go through that. :hug:

[femmocrat]

5. Not really a horror story, but, for nearly 30 years they called me,

"his wife." Never by my name, just always "(son's name)'s wife". How weird was that?

[QMPMom]

10. We've been married for 21 years now and DH's family that is

still in Germany address all mail to "Georg and Wife". They have never used my name.

[femmocrat]

13. I thought maybe it was an Italian thing... but Germans do it, too!

LOL

Welcome to DU!

[BlueIris]

6. Both my SO's moms were self-loathing, long-term alcoholics.

Who were also profoundly abusive to their sons. Both hated me virtually on sight.

Yes, I should have run from said families like the plague. Lesson learned, though. No more SOs who haven't cut loose their dysfunctional relatives in a big way.

[idgiehkt]

8. I once realized

that every woman I had ever dated was raised by her alcoholic father after the death of her mother or after a divorce, and all the women were around the same age when they went into the care of their fathers, too. It completely and utterly freaked me out, because my mother was raised by her alcoholic father after her mother died when she was ten. I mean, what are the odds of that just happening by sheer coincidence...

:scared:

[Maine-ah]

11. I'm lucky in that department, I like my MIL, and she likes me..

on that note, my Mom's MIL (aka Satan, my g-mother) was a total c****, (I don't normally use that word, it's saved for the "special" people in my life)

My father's family is catholic, my mother's family is mainly congregational, so when they got married the only way satan would go was if they got married in the catholic church. My father then vowed that would be the last time he ever stepped foot inside a church.

So, then, they started having kids (four of us, btw) and my parents decided that they would let us choose as to which religion (or none for that matter) we wanted, so they never got us baptized. Satan would corner my mom at the house and ask her "did you get that child baptized yet?" and when mom said no, satan would go on a tirade of how we were all going to hell, ect....(lol, she should have known it wouldn't have been hell, it would have been limbo, if she had been paying attention)

nice woman. I went to her funeral a few years back. It was hard not to smile through it.

[Pushed To The Left]

12. The night I proposed to the woman who dumped me 6 months later

she and I were both pretty excited. We were at Mimi's Cafe and both the customers and the staff were congratulating us. It was one of the greatest moments of my life for about 15 minutes. She called her parents to tell them the good news..and they were NOT happy. Her father went into a rage and her mother was sarcastic with her. I didn't hear the other side of the conversation, but she told me what had been said and our night was pretty much ruined. Her mom apologized a few weeks later, but was once again against me towards the end of the relationship. Apparently, she told my fiance that she didn't want to talk to me and said she would ignore me if I came around. This was someone that used to be very kind to me and I used to feel very close to. I think a lot of it had to do with the way my ex-fiance was portraying me to her family and friends. Her father apparently said some very nasty things about me like "Fuck that loser!" behind my back. I guess that explains why my ex-fiance called me a loser when she dumped me over the phone. I'm glad I'm out of that entire situation!

[kedrys]

14. We don't hang with my in-laws

The s.o.'s dad is a cool guy, but their relationship is still strained from the nasty divorce. The s.o.'s mom remarried, to a beast, and the s.o. got out of there just in time.

My parents are the best, but the s.o. is still puzzled that people can stay together and obviously still adore each other after almost 50 years. We'll be visiting them in Florida for 2 weeks at Christmas. :bounce:

[Christa]

15. On my wedding day

my mil told my husband "you know, you don't have to go through with the wedding. Nobody will blame you if you leave her standing at the altar".

Old bitch. We have been married for many happy years now, and she died long ago. When she was terminally sick with cancer, I was the one who told my husband that we should go and visit his mom. None of the other children wanted to be there.

[tigereye]

16. my MIL was very cool, liberal, funny and tolerant

She always made me laugh. I miss her. :(

[graywarrior]

17. My first mother in law is handcuffed to Satan and enjoying burning in hell