concerned for my dearest friend...

[Zech Marquis]

Hi DUers. Hope everyone had a good Thanksgiving--I did by making some teriyaki flavored spare ribs for my fmaily's diiner :bounce: But now i really want to ask you all for advice this evening.


i have a wonderful friend, one of the nicest women you could meet--known her since our college days for 14 yearss now. She lives in the Dc area and is currently in grad school and rennovating her house. so once she's all done, I've been invited by her to pay a visit. As Borat would say,"Nice! I like!" :evilgrin: It sounds good huh? For that impending visit, sure. BUT...

during our recent phone calls, my friend has said that she trying to figure out what to do with her life. She is a single parent now, so that isn;t what concerns me. She told me all she does is stay home, go to grad school full time, and she was trying to leave the Air Force (she's a medivac officer who slies on the C-17s bringing th wounded back from Iraq to Germany). I can only imagine what she has seen, but I am comforted that she was doing something to help all those GIs :-)

And yet, I keep geeting this instinct that there's something wrong with her. Having to be deployed at a moment's notice has been very hard. And listening to her talk is simply heartbreaking--not what but how she speaks..so sad :-( For the first time since I;ve known her, I don't feel comfortable calling her on the phone. I do email her on a regualr basis, and yet..I have a feeling that there's something going on ith her, but I honestly don't want to know the full details..

sigh :-(

[GoddessOfGuinness]

1. It can be tough being a dear friend at a time like this;

but it sounds like she may need someone to tell all the details to. It certainly can't hurt for you to express your concern for her, and suggest counseling if it seems like she needs it.

The only thing worse than feeling depressed, is feeling that nobody cares about it.

:hug::hug:
Keeping you and your friend in my thoughts and sending good vibes
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[Zech Marquis]

2. my Thanksgiving message to her

It was rather simple, Happy T-day, blah blah blah, if you want to talk about anything, you know where to reach me. I don't want to be too nosy, but like you said,I do want her to know that someone does care..