Ex-husbandly weirdness

[neebob]

My ex just left here, brought my son back from his Christmas visit in Utah. We've been divorced almost 14 years, and while we've managed to get along, we don't talk much. So he hands me his monthly check along with a blank one as a backup, because last month's check got lost in the mail and it was a hassle. Then he says, "You're still on the account."

Uh ...

[PDittie]

1. Possible he's still carrying a torch? eom

[neebob]

3. Apparently

though I don't understand why. I wouldn't have divorced him if he'd acted like he loved me. Normally, when you love someone, you talk to them and try to have sex with them and stuff. I've joked that we only did it that one time, and it's not that far from the truth. I used to think that was the only problem, but in retrospect I realize we had nothing in common - or if we did, I wouldn't know. It's like he's from another planet. I doubt his fiancee would be happy to hear I'm still on his bank account, whatever that means.

[histohoney]

2. Well

1. He was some what like my husband(Still married) If the wife (ex or not) doesn't do it, it doesn't get done. Just plain didn't get around to taking you off.
2. He has great trust in you, who knows you might still be his executor for the sake of the boy.
3. He's lying big to get you in hot water.

I hope it's #2, to me that would mean his a good man who still respects you and is looking out for his son. Not all men are bad, and sometimes people get along better when the pressure to be the perfect couple is off.

What do I know, just a thought.

[neebob]

5. He had my name taken off the checks immediately

and it's not the first time he's made a bizarre overture; it's just been a while.

[Robbien]

4. Just thank Goddess there was not a hassle. No analysis needed.

Cash the checks and take care of business, that is surely what he is doing.

[neebob]

6. Good point

I should just be thankful for my nice divorce. It just freaks me out to think he regrets it, because I've never had a second thought.

[aquart]

7. I'm confused.

If your name is on the account, wouldn't it also be on the check?

[neebob]

8. You'd think.

I'm confused, too, but not enough to ask about it.

[Cat Atomic]

9. Nah. You can literally print any name you want on the checks.

You could put Mickey Mouse and Darth Vader on the actual checks if you wanted to. It's nothing official.

[ScreamingMeemie]

12. No, my parents have an account...I'm on the account, but my

name doesn't appear on the checks, and I could still write checks...if need be. :)

[davsand]

10. I took it as a way to help you guys out.

I wasn't there for the divorce, but when I saw your first post, I kinda took it as his way of letting you kmow he was there in an emergency--that he's wiling to help you out if you and his son get in a bind.

That's not a bad thing, IMO.

Laura

[SheilaT]

11. If you two were still married

you could still sign his name to the check legally. Not sure about being divorced. The main consideration is that you wouldn't be out to defraud him. If it were to write a check for support you are legally entitled to, it would probably be okay. Just not sure what would happen if he were to try to sue you over a check you wrote and signed.

[ScreamingMeemie]

13. I think he still cares deeply for you, whether it's love or not anymore.

And he seems to be a Dad taking care of business. It's good to know that he cares enough to see that his child and his child's mother are taken care of. My father in law did this and it was very admirable, even tho my MIL hated him.

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