ringmastery
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:41 PM
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For divorced DU'ers, why did your marriage break up? |
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What causes people to fall out of love?
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:45 PM
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1. She caught me at a democratic orgy... |
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Edited on Sun Jan-04-04 10:46 PM by alg0912
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:46 PM
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Organized through GD2004, right? ;-)
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:45 PM
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of the verbal variety was the deciding factor in ending my marriage. It was either walk out or kill him.
I walked.
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:48 PM
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4. Shouldn't this be handled in PM's? |
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DU'ers complain of our library records being available as digital records, and yet have no compulsion about asking people about some of the most intimate and painful aspects of their lives.
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:51 PM
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8. It seems the answer is no... |
ringmastery
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:53 PM
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9. just like any other thread |
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people will reply if it interests them or ignore it if it doesn't.
Most of us are anonymous, anyway. Those who aren't can decide for themselves what they do or don't want to share on a public forum.
It's about choice.
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Sun Jan-04-04 11:10 PM
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13. Yes it is about choice, and tells the story you choose to see |
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Sun Jan-04-04 11:15 PM
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14. What, do you want to hear from my ex |
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Edited on Sun Jan-04-04 11:17 PM by supernova
about what a really, wonderful, sweet guy he is and how I was such a mean fucking bitch to leave him? :eyes: Truthfully I couldn't tell you how to contact him now.
We were asked; you get our versions.
While we're on the subject, your wanting to know all about it is less invasive than a simple direct question... how? :shrug:
edit: I don't mind being asked. I'm not ashamed of the darker parts of my story. They're there whether I tell them or not. Shinning a little light on them now and again makes them less painful and burdensome.
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HereSince1628
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Sun Jan-04-04 11:29 PM
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16. Really I seek nothing, and I wasn't writing about how biased |
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or comical the responses may be.
There is also a story in the act of asking, and its of that story I am thinking. It is a story of what we are not afraid to ask or answer behind the perception of a veil.
And since there is no one interested in pursuing that particular story, I see no point in pursuing as an intellectual question the influence of anonimity on the culture of chat rooms.
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Sun Jan-04-04 11:47 PM
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It is a story of what we are not afraid to ask or answer behind the perception of a veil.
Not for me. For me constancy is the key moreso than anonymity. There is a certain constancy to the Lounge membership. I always know that certain people will be online and read my posts, just as I will read theirs. And I'm comfortable with the other Loungers to the point I don't worry about what I say, or the subjects I bring up.
If the Lounge where a more transient place, say a Yahoo group, I would hesitate more in talking about myself.
Oh and I would be saying these same things if the Lounge were a brick and mortar place where we all congregated every evening.
:loveya: DU Loungers
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:53 PM
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10. Nobody is being forced to respond |
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:48 PM
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5. cuz i was (am) gay, ultimately |
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We didn't really love each other; were both just recovering from broken hearts and hoping for the best. Bad idea for him to marry a young lesbian (he knew). Bad idea for me to think that maybe I'd learn to love him.
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:49 PM
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6. My ex-husband and I were way too young and immature |
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when we married, but we had two great kids. Now we are both remarried to people that we are compatible with. My children are glad that things worked out the way they did.
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:50 PM
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7. I couldn't get along with her boyfriend |
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Happily married now, though!
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Sun Jan-04-04 10:54 PM
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11. Because she was crazy... |
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and she had a terrible temper.
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Sun Jan-04-04 11:02 PM
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12. My wife ran off with my best friend....I sure do miss him |
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Sun Jan-04-04 11:22 PM
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I got a gun for my wife, it was the best trade I ever made :)
:)
Marriages end for a variety of reasons. IMHO, one of the most common reasons is that two people marry who should have never married in the first place.
In the interest of full disclosure I'm am ecstatically happily married and my wife seems to feel the same way :)
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Sun Jan-04-04 11:37 PM
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17. First Time... I Was A Cheater. Second Time... HE Was A Cheater |
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Third time's the charm.
-- Allen
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Sun Jan-04-04 11:38 PM
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18. After I repeatedly stabbed him, he had issues |
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Mon Jan-05-04 03:49 AM
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20. My first husband liked to get drunk and beat me up. |
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I didn't stick around to find out what caused him to act that way.
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Mon Jan-05-04 02:03 PM
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21. I don't have a good answer |
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I married my first wife in 1994. We had dated most of 1993. We had a pretty good relationship which, unfortunately, began to unravel in 1996. I'm still not sure why it did. We separated in '97 and I eventually re-married in 2000.
We had started out as friends; I knew her in high school. We should have just stayed friends.
The divorce was amicable. We stayed in touch, got together for coffee with our new boy/girlfriends, and when she re-married, I attended her wedding, and when I re-married, she attended my wedding.
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Mon Jan-05-04 02:07 PM
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I had led a somewhat sheltered life so didn't know there were danger signals to look for.
My marriage broke up because he drank too much, he liked to use me as a punching bag and he liked to cheat on me. It was the punching bag issue that caused me to take the action to divorce him though.
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Mon Jan-05-04 02:12 PM
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23. She lied, she stole, she was sleeping with another guy |
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But when she said I couldn't watch hockey is when the real trouble began.
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