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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 10:14 PM
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I work for someone who is seriously unstable! (Long tirade, sorry)
Edited on Sat Feb-03-07 10:18 PM by Maestro
The first two years were fine but this third year has been hell. I am an assistant principal in a tough school, inner city, even though technically the city where it is located is a suburb. We have had run-ins because she basically sees me as doing something I shouldn't when in fact I didn't or it needed to be done and she was upset that she didn't think of it I guess. The last thing to happen was this:

She apparently emailed one of the grade levels in my school with whom I had had a difficult meeting to discuss student performance and some poor attitudes exhibited by the teachers. It is one of those difficult aspects of being in a place of authority. Well, some piece of crap meddling instructional specialist went to my principal and said that the whole grade level was po'ed at me and that I was unprofessional with them. This couldn't be further from the truth. Anyhow, she sent this email without her even discussing this with me nor did she include me in the email. This caused one on the grade level to email me giving me a heads-up because he knew it was wrong. Here is the email she sent. The names have been protected. I've put in parentheses a general term instead of using the name we give our district's assessments. Notice the word, threat. You would think that something so serious would necessitate that she talk to me if I were really threatening people.

I would like to apologize for not being at the curriculum meeting on Tuesday, first, because I always enjoy the opportunity to dialog with you and second, because I have just learned of a remark that was made that I myself would have taken as a threat. I want to assure you I did not ask this person to share that message and additionally I recognize the {my district's assessments} for what they are, one piece of a big puzzle. Once we have our {math assessments} completed we will have a much better picture of our students based on improvement. I have asked some individuals to come and help in 3rd grade not because I think anyone is doing a poor job but to lift some of the burden of preparation for {stupid state assessment} and maintaining the push in Math. Please do not read negative intentions into this assistance. It is intended to be a gift so you can spend time with those that need it most. Please respond should you have strong feelings that I should hear.


So after this was forwarded to me I immediately confronted my principal. Needless to say she flies into rage saying that I had no right to say what I said even though what I said was not what she was told I said. I tried to explain to her that right after the meeting I gave her a debrief of all that was said. A district coordinator was at the meeting, the other assistant principal was at the meeting and furthermore, two teachers came up afterwords and thanked me for saying what I had said which was, in a nutshell, and I paraphrase, 'We know that you (the teachers) are doing a great job with some tough children. A 70% percent passing rate at this school reflects more on what good teachers you are than XXXXX district saying that they scored 90%. I realize the tough situation we are in, but I need for you to put personal differences aside and focus on the children. I am tired of being a referee. All of our energies need to be focused on student learning and performance. If not there will be changes, most of which unwanted.' She pays no attention and storms out of her office in tears. She's mental. I never raised my voice. I stayed calm, but I wanted to slap the crap out of the woman. The assistant principal backed me up, but I wish he would confront her like I do. He is too timid with her.

The "changes" part was taken unilaterally poorly by this meddling instructional specialist. Everyone there knew that I meant that the school would receive a poor rating, the state education agency would be on our campus continually, more paperwork not to mention meddling district personnel. Nobody took it as a threat on their jobs. My crazy principal takes the word of one person over mine, her assistant principal!

Anyhow, before speaking to the crazy lady, I went to the grade level chair and asked him if he had a problem with me or what I said. He looked at me dumbfounded. He said that he never at any time was upset with me nor was anyone else on the grade level. His frustrations were with the district (and its emphasis on meaningless rounds of assessments which barely give enough time to actually teach) and the students' performance. In fact, he was angry with the instructional specialist who tattled for no reason and at the principal. This is nothing new. This principal is so unstable she has done nothing but wreck morale all year and the other assistant principal and I have picked up the pieces. Even her secretary hates her and they have known each other 17 years, but she can't stand her any more.

To put an end to this, the grade level all responded to her either in person or by email stating that I was in the right and had done nothing wrong which caused her to give me a half-ass apology. She said something like: "Well I guess I'm the bitch. I suppose I am sorry." :mad: Here is one of those emails from the grade level chair.

I just wanted to set the record straight that I did not feel threatened or upset by our meeting last Wednesday. I do not think Mr. Maestro was out of line in any way. The reality is that our students have done horrible on {stupid district assessments} this year and, of course, administration has to address it.

I feel that the whole grade level has been upset by our students' lack of success on {stupid district assessments}. We all take pride in what we do and we expect our students to be successful. I also know that {stupid district assessments} are just a piece of the puzzle and not a lone indicator.

I also know that you know we are using the {stupid district assessments} to guage where our students are and help us see what needs to be done. I know that you know that we are working hard. I can tell you that we are working smarter than last year and I fully expect to see the results of our efforts with better {stupid state assessment}results.

I thought Wednesday's meeting with {district coordinator} was very productive. I hope that nothing said in that meeting was taken out of context or blown out of proportion because I don't feel anything said was inappropriate.

I know that the administration and staff are all in this together. We all want the same thing and we agree on how to get it.


So I am vindicated but I am still so mad I can bite nails. Is something wrong?
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philosophie_en_rose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 10:25 PM
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1. Some people need to create drama to distract others.
If everyone is sending emails or discussing things about you, then no one has to face the real issue.

"Is our children learning?"

Frankly, I think you made the brave choice to confront a challenge. Perhaps next time, your shiteous boss will consider her sources.
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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 10:39 PM
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2. Is English her second language?
Edited on Sat Feb-03-07 10:40 PM by Kali
(The person who wrote the first e-mail in your post.)
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 11:59 PM
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6. Funny you should say that.
I am constantly correcting her rambling newsletters that go home and she mangles words like nobody's business. She's the queen of the run-on sentence.
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Nevernose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 11:04 PM
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3. I would LOVE to have an AP like you.
Intelligent, coherent, and presumably rational. Your boss sounds like a total freak, far more interested in scoring points or in not looking bad than actually educating children. It also sounds like you had one disgruntled teacher who happened to have the ear of your boss portray you badly, causing her to drastically overreact in a futile attempt to save face.

It's been my, my friends', and my family's experience that the biggest problem facing education today is not bad teachers, lazy students, poor parenting, or ignorant politicians (though all of those things certainly play a role): it's lousy administrations and worse administrators.

Please, come work for my district. It sucks -- at the upper echelons it is apparently driven entirely by megalomaniacs, incompetents, and the chronically paranoid -- but at the least you would be making a more significant difference.

And you'd make a great boss.

Also, we have very nice weather.
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 11:59 PM
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5. Thanks
My life as an educator has been a great one, but I can do without the ego-maniacal twits in upper admin who have forgotten what it is like to be in a classroom.
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Nevernose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 12:18 AM
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7. So the nice weather didn't sell ya, huh?
I sometimes think that, when I get burned out on teaching/direct instruction, "I'll be an administrator. What better way to influence students than to influence their teachers?"

And then I talk to people like you. :)

And then I think, "law school," or maybe a gig editing a local weekly newspaper...

The only job in the world harder than being a good teacher is being a good administrator. Education as a profession sucks sometimes, but as a teacher I promise: we appreciate you. It's not bad news and hard solutions that we mind. It's morons in charge of the news and solutions.

And remember what they taught us (or eventually will :evilgrin:) in Narcotics Anonymous: This, too, shall pass.
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BlueIris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 02:55 AM
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8. Ding ding ding on the "educational administrators" problem.
Education administration is where human waste goes to fester.
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 04:37 PM
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18. Not all of us are human waste.
;)
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-03-07 11:14 PM
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4. There would only be something wrong if you weren't mad.
The principal responded to a childish letter by confronting you, and she didn't even bother to get her facts straight. Yes, she's a bitch and at least now you've both acknowledged it. Sorry about that, Maestro. Having to work alongside ridiculous people is one of the worst things about most jobs.
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 09:06 AM
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17. Thanks. And I know you are right.
I just hate waking up in the morning and not wanting to go to work.
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ChoralScholar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 03:09 AM
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9. Things like this make me never want to leave where I teach.
I have a great building-level administration. The principal is my game-traveling buddy, so we get to spend a lot of time together going to away ballgames and such.

I hope things get better on your end.
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 08:57 AM
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13. I'm actually very good friends with other administrators in the
district, but unfortunately, I have to report to this one.
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femmocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 08:40 PM
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20. That is great for you, but....
does the principal pay any attention to the non-game-traveling teachers?

I have know several principals like that who are all chummy with a small group and never acknowledge those outside his inner circle.
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ChoralScholar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-10-07 01:32 AM
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22. Yeah, he does.
He does well in being fair to all.
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Kerrytravelers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 04:22 AM
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10. It is the shit like this that drives people from teaching.
I had just about had it.

The only reason I'm still in education at all is because I found a very unusual job- I work from home (can you imagine) working with families who have pulled their children out of public school and are doing Independent Study at home. I have a ton of paperwork and my director and adviser suffer a bit from this insatiable need to email every ten seconds (ever see Office Space? The TPS report situation happens to me every single day.)

In the district I use to teach in, any administrator who had a backbone was chased out. All the principals and administrators are a bunch of wimps. I had a principal actually try and get me to break the Ed Code law. When confronted, she told me "Well, I don't know Ed Code." This was the principal. I'm no longer at that school, thank goodness!

It's a shame so many don't take the business of education seriously and instead act more childish than the children.
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 09:04 AM
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15. Yeah, I had really had some issue with the ways
kids were being served. I butted heads with many, but I also my supporters. In the end, the kids from my classes proved that I was doing something right. Politics though plays a huge role in education and that is wrong.
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LaurenG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 04:43 AM
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11. She's on a power trip.
She's also a half ass-ed supervisor. No senior member would write an email about something without first getting both sides. I think she's over her head and you need to explain to her that she needs to speak with you FIRST should that ever happen again to avoid embarrassment for both of you. Watch your back, I don't trust her.
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 08:56 AM
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12. I told her that in a second meeting I had later on in the day.
She was also much calmer and reasonable, but that is what is so difficult with her. At any given time, I don't know with whom I am dealing. It could be nice, logical, sane principal or wicked witch from the west. But I agree, I don't trust her. I really like my district and the kids I serve, but I am probably going to have to be principal in another district. :(
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LibraLiz1973 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 09:04 AM
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14. I'd take the emails and your side of the story to the superintendent
She's basically torturing people and thats not cool
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Maestro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 09:06 AM
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16. I thought about that, but was counseled out of it by
the assistant principal. But it is still on the table.
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femmocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 08:36 PM
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19. Well..... last summer when I remarked to a beginning teacher
to "never trust the administrators", you stomped on my post.

Hate to say, "I told you so, but...." There are some real loonies at the top. Unfortunately you have to deal with one of them.

You, however, sound like a great principal. Too bad we can't clone you for our district!
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MichiganVote Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-04-07 08:45 PM
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21. Well at least she got the part about being a bitch right...
Somethings wrong with her personal life...watch your back and make sure your friends are watching it for you also.
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hickman Donating Member (904 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-10-07 01:45 AM
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23. My big brother and his wife have been in education for years.
I wonder what they would say.
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