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Mon Feb-05-07 08:28 PM
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Poll question: Could you marry someone if you hadn't at least seen them naked first? |
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An earlier thread about people saving themselves for marriage made me think of this. Even if you were set on saving yourself for marriage, wouldn't you at least want to inspect the goods before you sign on for the long haul? I for one would want to at least make sure that I was satisfied with what I was signing up for, and make sure that there's nothing wrong with the plumbing.
What do you think?
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:30 PM
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1. Yes, at least to make sure there were no "I hate anyone named Redstone" tattoos. |
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Tue Feb-06-07 01:16 AM
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44. No, I don't need to see a woman naked. If she looks good in a bikini that appears good enough. |
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Edited on Tue Feb-06-07 01:17 AM by liberaldemocrat7
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Tue Feb-06-07 01:55 AM
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47. Setting yourself up for a surprise there, my friend |
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I've seen enough episodes of Jerry Springer to know what a trannie means when she says she plays "tuckies".
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Tue Feb-06-07 03:13 AM
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49. I just made a joke of it. |
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Besides it holds accurate as far as seeing a woman's body without having her take her clothes off. Since I believe in nonmarital sex I would find out anyway. Also women have natural looking faces whereas the others have a face that appears to betray their gender.
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:32 PM
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2. I think marrying somebody without living with them for some time is stupid. |
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Likewise, committing to have sex with only one person for the rest of our life is pretty dumb if you don't know that they've got what you want sexually.
Otherwise, it's a bit like buying a house because it looks cute from the curb- you have no clue what you're getting and it's pure luck if you'll love it or hate it.
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Mon Feb-05-07 09:29 PM
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16. Actually you have to go camping first. In bad weather. |
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You never know if you really want to marry somebody until you are trapped in a three man tent for three days in pouring rain and there are no porta-potties.
Marraige is NOT for wimps.
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Mon Feb-05-07 09:46 PM
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22. I broke up with somebody after a camping trip |
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Being out in the middle of nowhere for a weekend told me just how much his whining bugged the shit out of me.
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Mon Feb-05-07 10:33 PM
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27. Actually, my DH and I camped on the north side of.... |
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the Grand Canyon, during rainy 33 degree (32 degree would have been better). We had different ideas of what the best course of action is when you wake up in a puddle of icy cold rain water at 5:00 am.
Somehow, we survived. Which told us something about each other's level of commitment... :+
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Tue Feb-06-07 12:12 AM
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39. See, now THAT'S commitment. |
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because there is NO good course of action when you wake up in a puddle at 5 am and it's just about freezing. Blaming the other person for everything is all too easy in these situations and MUST be avoided. (especially if they actually screwed up)
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Tue Feb-06-07 12:51 AM
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You are a very wise Porcupine...;-)
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:33 PM
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Oh really now!
You do not have to see someone naked before you marry them!
It doesn't hurt, of course.......
But it isn't a requirement!
Lots of characteristics can be ascertained by touch alone, you know! :evilgrin:
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:43 PM
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Tue Feb-06-07 03:59 PM
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at least feel them up to make sure the parts are there. :evilgrin:
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:44 PM
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:51 PM
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:45 PM
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You don't marry "the goods."
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:47 PM
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7. By the time it came to marriage... |
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If a relationship lasts that long, We would all be so much in love it wouldn't matter what our partners look like.
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Tue Feb-06-07 10:24 AM
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59. I like this sentiment |
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:47 PM
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8. I want to know my partner well before i commit to marriage |
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Well includes the goodies!! :)
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:50 PM
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9. I'm a strong believer in cohabitation PRIOR to marriage. |
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:51 PM
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10. no. i wouldnt marry someone if i hadnt known them a while. |
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and i dont really like to wait.
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:51 PM
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And I'm glad I did. There is such thing as marrying for love ... Do people still do that? :shrug:
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Tue Feb-06-07 05:50 PM
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75. Some people think they do, but it's the endorphins n/t |
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Mon Feb-05-07 08:55 PM
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13. It's less about seeing them naked than knowing if you're "compatible" |
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Someone might be a great guy and be a total dud, or a pervert, or both. :P
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Mon Feb-05-07 09:03 PM
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14. 'Compatibility' can be determined by talking |
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That is, if you know what to talk about, and how. :evilgrin:
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Mon Feb-05-07 09:30 PM
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I have dated guys who I had NO physical chemistry with, and guys who were HOT, and it has little to do with conversational skills. :P
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Mon Feb-05-07 09:39 PM
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19. Sure you're doin' it right? |
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Tue Feb-06-07 03:45 AM
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52. Can you get an adapter? |
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Tue Feb-06-07 10:49 AM
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Mon Feb-05-07 09:18 PM
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15. Do you buy a car without test driving it first? |
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It may not need to be in perfect condition, but I like a smooth ride.... No leaking fluids Stops when I ask it to ...and very responsive..
;-)
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Mon Feb-05-07 09:55 PM
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23. Good points to remember |
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if I ever decide to marry a machine.
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Tue Feb-06-07 06:46 AM
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54. It was written with a woman's perspective in mind...n/t |
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Mon Feb-05-07 09:37 PM
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18. Doesn't matter. How many people look good naked anyway? 7 percent? |
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If you're not a fat, rolly baby or a decidely less-fat underwear model, chances are you probably look better with clothes on.
I'm not expecting to have a bride who looks like Monica Bellucci, so I'd be content with a nice, warm smile.
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Mon Feb-05-07 10:44 PM
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31. Good point lol - but I looked a lot better nekkid before getting married and |
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procreating lol.
So maybe it helped ;).
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Mon Feb-05-07 10:58 PM
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Judging by your choice of avatar, you're groovy enough to have anyone at "hello."
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Tue Feb-06-07 12:14 AM
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Mon Feb-05-07 09:43 PM
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21. Meh, you've seen one mail order bride, you've seen em all |
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Mon Feb-05-07 10:07 PM
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24. It wouldn't matter to me. |
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Neither face nor figure. Everything is in the eyes and the kiss.
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Mon Feb-05-07 10:09 PM
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25. I don't even like to TALK to people I haven't seen naked... |
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Mon Feb-05-07 10:33 PM
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:hi: I have to make sure they don't look like a serial killer naked. :rofl:
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Mon Feb-05-07 10:49 PM
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32. What's a nekkid serial killer look like? |
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Does he have an ax for...
!!!
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:hide::yoiks:
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Mon Feb-05-07 10:50 PM
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33. I'd know it if I saw it... |
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Mon Feb-05-07 10:54 PM
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would you see it in time? :scared:
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Tue Feb-06-07 04:22 PM
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70. I'll bet he'd have a killer body... |
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Mon Feb-05-07 10:37 PM
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28. I'd probably want to do a recon mission first. |
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Scout out the territory with hands. :P
No sex, though. (REALLY! I MEAN IT!11! :)) Not without serious STD and AIDS testing first, in addition to all the protection in the act itself.
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Mon Feb-05-07 11:16 PM
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37. What the hell is that? |
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Sword? Shield? Knight? Armor? Protection?
:P
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Mon Feb-05-07 11:20 PM
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Tue Feb-06-07 12:16 AM
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I'll send some nekkid pics
then we can get hitched
;)
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Tue Feb-06-07 05:25 PM
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:rofl:
i....am.....waiting......
*tapping foot*
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Tue Feb-06-07 06:47 PM
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I sent them once
I'll send them again...
:rofl:
:evilgrin:
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Tue Feb-06-07 06:59 PM
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79. you are such a tease-- |
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Not a tease
well
maybe
a
little
bit
of
a
tease
I
finally
came
through
on
those
other
pictures
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never
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it's
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wait
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Mon Feb-05-07 10:43 PM
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But I'm afraid that if I were seen naked I'd have no chance of getting married.
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Tue Feb-06-07 12:53 AM
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43. you mean like some mail order bride, or chattel...cause i'm thinking no... |
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Tue Feb-06-07 01:24 AM
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45. A more important piece of info for me would be to find out where |
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sex/intimacy was on their scale of "things that are important in life."
Believe me, this is far more important than what a person looked like sans clothing.
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Tue Feb-06-07 01:45 AM
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46. I never saw John Kennedy Jr naked |
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but I'm sure i'd have married him anyway. :evilgrin:
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Tue Feb-06-07 01:11 PM
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62. but would you fly with him? |
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Sorry, utterly tasteless of me.
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Tue Feb-06-07 03:09 AM
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I would have to check out the goods to see if his "goods" were too big or too small to fit with my "goods". (trying not to get this thread locked). Especially if they were too big!!! Some things are physically impossible to fit together, so to speak.
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Tue Feb-06-07 05:40 AM
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53. Yah, some people don't like it.... |
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when certain things "go bump" in the night. Like the man said.....if the glove don't fit you must, uh, quit.
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Tue Feb-06-07 03:27 AM
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50. Tell ya what, send me her nekkid photos |
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and if you thought that was funny you might be a redneck
If you have more than one Billy the Talking Bass you might be a redneck
If you bring a six pack of canned bud to a funeral and don't share you might be.......
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Tue Feb-06-07 03:44 AM
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51. Pfft...I would never marry someone I hadn't seen naked AND slept with. |
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You kidding...hell, it somebody didn't sleep with me after a MONTH of dating, I'd leave.
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Tue Feb-06-07 10:21 AM
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55. what is this ''waiting'' you speak of? |
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and since i'm queen of sex in the back of a car -- you certainly DON'T have to get all nekkid to get down.
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Tue Feb-06-07 10:24 AM
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all "goods" look the same
I imagine seeing someone in a swimsuit would be enough to get a sense of what their physique is like.
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Tue Feb-06-07 10:24 AM
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57. After almost 20 yrs of marriage |
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Edited on Tue Feb-06-07 10:54 AM by azmouse
I can say that the way a body looks when it's young isn't the way it looks 20 yrs later.
No, I wouldn't worry about the way 'the goods' look because it'll all change with time anyway.
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Tue Feb-06-07 10:24 AM
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58. don't buy the cow until you taste the milk... |
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has always been my credo.
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Tue Feb-06-07 10:26 AM
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60. No. Of course, I'd never marry someone without sleeping with them first. |
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I also can't get married, so it's really all a moot point.
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63. Only in the unlikely event that we had lots of sex with our clothes on. |
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Tue Feb-06-07 01:21 PM
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64. I dunno. I just can't imagine not seeing them naked first |
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Or making them wait to hit this. That would be like torture. :P
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Tue Feb-06-07 01:44 PM
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65. I'd at least have to see... |
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...the feet. I can work around alot of other "flaws" if the person has nice feet. That's just me.
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Tue Feb-06-07 02:40 PM
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66. I remember reading about Jessamyn West's husband |
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who did that before they got married. This was years ago (not in this link). I do know that I read her books back in junior high. Great, great writer. http://www.jessamyn.com/jessamyn/jess.html
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Tue Feb-06-07 04:08 PM
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68. I'm not saving myself for marriage |
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nor do I plan to do so; it's a moot point.
I do think sexual compatibility is important.
However, I'm not into 'meat inspection'. A person comes as a package, and if someone's 'goods' are what the relationship hinges on, then the relationship is in a sorry state...
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Tue Feb-06-07 04:19 PM
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69. I would want to make sure they had the right plumbing. nt |
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Tue Feb-06-07 05:30 PM
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72. I wouldn't marry someone without knowing if we were sexually compatible. |
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I have some needs beyond missionary coitus that I would be greatly disappointed to not have met. Merely seeing the person in the nude isn't quite enough.
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Tue Feb-06-07 05:32 PM
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73. What If She Had A Tatoo on Her Inner Thigh Saying, "Rush Limbaugh Was Here." |
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74. I would want to know! |
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76. Two words.... Madam Butterfly..... |
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77. I don't know, because it was never an issue. |
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