Kicked to the curb

[Brewman_Jax]

finally. Well, that explains the no calls, cold cards, and unreturned messages. I thought it was because of the stress of the new job and the move to DC. Silly me. :eyes:

I found that the box was the last straw. She finally had to talk to me, esp. after I sent the christmas gifts, which were a gift set of organic green tea, costume jewelery, and a tin of candy popcorn. I called to leave a message because I knew she works on Sundays, but she picked up and said, "we gotta talk!" I know what that means... :(

We aren't boyfriend/girlfriend. She had the nerve to ask, didn't you know that I was avoiding you? I said that I thought that it was because of the move and the job schedule. I should've said, sorry, if I could mind-read that well, we wouldn't be having this conversation.

In _Argyle speak, "just friends" aren't always together 1-on-1. "Just friends" don't hang around for over an hour waiting for someone to arrive to the Mexican restaurant after RenFest--Me and the rest of the cast at the Chinese buffet next door; I didn't think she was interested so I didn't tell her about that. "Just friends" don't hang out partying Halloween (Sat.) night 'til 3am, esp. when she was getting over food poisoning the past 3 days. "Just friends" don't leave the live band concert for a minor kid crisis (the sleepover fell through and she had to take him home) and then return. I told her that about 95% of the time, a kid crisis, even a minor one, usually ends the night. "Just friends" don't bring back a souvenir hooded sweatshirt. Even if she got a deal on it, that's an expensive gift. I'd bring back mugs, shot glasses, or T-shirts to give away. Forgive me for being dense, but that's dating to me. I can be mistaken. Won't be the first time and I have NO doubt that I'll be corrected.

I'll spare the gory details (mainly for my sake x(), but at least she sounded unthrilled telling me and I was hearing all of this. She wasn't happy that I had to "corner" her and she couldn't duck and dodge anymore. Came to find out that we were "just friends" and I wasn't relationship material for her. What she's looking for is a moot point, it wasn't me. I was in shock in hearing all of that. I said that I wish you said something earlier and next time, don't do a guy like that. At least she enjoyed my company and that I'm a handsome, intelligent and interesting guy--but not for her.

So be it.

The rest of Sunday was crappy, and I hid at my desk all day today. Walking in the halls, I was praying to the gods that I wouldn't get misty or a look of pain wouldn't cross my face while talking to someone. I wouldn't want to explain. :cry:

Please, no "it's her loss" and like statements. There are many different types of people, like there are hundreds of martial arts styles. It's not finding the best style, it's finding the best style FOR YOU. I'm not the right one, and that's fine. Best we find out now. The hardest thing was that I could see something long-term with her. She didn't close the door, but I see no reason to call again. Especially now that we're 600 miles apart. I have enough "just friends" here, I'm not adding one across the region.

Such is life. Thus ends this chapter. Thank you for your time. I have the Taichi association Chinese New Year banquet to rehearse for, I'll be doing sword demonstrations.


P.S. I'm not expecting a Valentine's Day card. :P

[NewWaveChick1981]

1. You need a hug...

:hug: I'm sorry that happened. :pals:

[Brewman_Jax]

3. Don't squeeze too hard

there are still some leftover tears.

:hug:

[QMPMom]

2. I am very sorry that she treated you that way.

You deserved better.

:hug:

[Brewman_Jax]

5. Thank you

and I agree. :hug:

[idgiehkt]

4. It only means there is someone even better out there for you

The universe hates a void!

:grouphug:

:loveya:

[Capn Sunshine]

6. you need a favor, dude.

PM me , I'll explain. But someone has to tell you.

[u4ic]

7. No words will help

only time...and hugs. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

8. L_A I am sorry

does it help when I tell you that if I'd live close to you I would be interested in you?

Hope you find someone soon who does love you and cares for you. Losses always suck, they are no fun.


:hug: :loveya:

[Callalily]

9. All I can offer you

is a Be sure to take care of yourself.

[ScreamingMeemie]

10. Lurking_Argyle...

It is her loss. I'm sorry but I DO have to say it. Not in the flip way, but in a way that means I'm sorry you wasted so much time on someone when you could have been out there looking for Ms. Real. She's out there.

[VenusRising]

11. I just want you to know that you are not alone.

This has happened to me, too, and it sucks. I just hope that you find someone that makes you as happy as my husband makes me. All the heartache and BS was worth it because it gave me a good frame of reference of someone who really cares. You deserve to be happy!

:hug::hug::hug: