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Raven (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:14 AM Original message |
Advice needed-spousal abuse |
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Droopy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:18 AM Response to Original message |
1. That is not normal |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:18 AM Response to Original message |
2. This is SO not normal! |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:20 AM Response to Original message |
3. She needs to get out, now. Whether she will do that or not remains |
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zanne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:36 AM Response to Reply #3 |
7. If you do open your home to her... |
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China_cat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 11:16 AM Response to Reply #7 |
19. I have to back up what you said. |
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Chan790 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:23 AM Response to Original message |
4. Your second paragraph is spot-on. |
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Raven (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:48 AM Response to Reply #4 |
9. Thanks! |
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Chan790 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 05:36 PM Response to Reply #9 |
38. New Hampshire Domestic Violence resources |
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zanne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:26 AM Response to Original message |
5. I was married to a "nice guy" when he was sober... |
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somewhere_out_there (48 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 11:31 AM Response to Reply #5 |
21. If you care for your friend, tell/help her to get out.... |
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caty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:32 AM Response to Original message |
6. Your friend needs to |
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Lars39 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:48 AM Response to Original message |
8. I wouldn't have *any* qualms about meddling. |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:50 AM Response to Original message |
10. Alcohol is not main the issue. Look for your state's anti-domestic violence coalition. |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 06:13 PM Response to Reply #10 |
42. Best response on this thread. |
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LuLu550 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:54 AM Response to Original message |
11. Been there, done that. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:54 AM Response to Original message |
12. It's not the alcohol, it's him |
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LuLu550 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 10:04 AM Response to Reply #12 |
13. With all due respect |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 10:17 AM Response to Reply #13 |
14. With all due respect |
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Kajsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 10:49 AM Response to Reply #14 |
18. NO, but it's does treat one of the |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 11:51 AM Response to Reply #13 |
23. Alcoholics who have this sort of demon are domestic abusers. |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 04:25 PM Response to Reply #23 |
34. This Is True |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 05:12 PM Response to Reply #34 |
37. True, but I don't suggest it for him. She on the other hand may benefit a great deal. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 12:14 PM Response to Reply #13 |
25. As I said, I have alcoholics close to me |
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LuLu550 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 12:19 PM Response to Reply #25 |
28. I grew up in an alcoholic, abusive home |
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CharmCity (202 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 04:31 PM Response to Reply #13 |
35. To help your friend... |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-19-07 04:38 PM Response to Reply #13 |
61. You are exactly right. |
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Scout (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-19-07 06:07 PM Response to Reply #61 |
64. "In recovery, they never do them again." Not necessarily. n/t |
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China_cat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 11:19 AM Response to Reply #12 |
20. He uses the alcohol as an excuse because |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 12:16 PM Response to Reply #20 |
26. Bingo -- I've seen this over and over again with family members n/t |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-19-07 04:37 PM Response to Reply #20 |
59. No. |
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hedgehog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 05:46 PM Response to Reply #12 |
39. It's not that the abuser drinks and the brakes come off, |
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Scout (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-19-07 03:57 PM Response to Reply #39 |
58. ding! ding! ding! |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-19-07 04:37 PM Response to Reply #39 |
60. No. |
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undeterred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 10:24 AM Response to Original message |
15. It takes people a long time to make this decision |
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Pierre.Suave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 10:31 AM Response to Original message |
16. Honestly |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 10:35 AM Response to Original message |
17. my chauffer in india was the best husband on earth till he discovered alcohol |
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Raven (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 11:41 AM Response to Original message |
22. These posts have been incredibly helpful |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 12:17 PM Response to Reply #22 |
27. Good luck -- and seriously, YOU be careful too, okay? |
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av8rdave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 11:51 AM Response to Original message |
24. Unfortunately, behavior like that will NEVER stop without professional help |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 02:51 PM Response to Original message |
29. Unless He Stops Drinking There Will Be No Change |
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Kajsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 04:22 PM Response to Reply #29 |
33. Hear, hear! |
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idgiehkt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 03:06 PM Response to Original message |
30. If you take her in, get ready to become a target |
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SOteric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 03:08 PM Response to Original message |
31. Al-anon and a good therapist. |
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Pushed To The Left (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 03:13 PM Response to Original message |
32. He sounds like bad news |
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Blue Gardener (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 04:44 PM Response to Original message |
36. If he treats her like his in public |
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roguevalley (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 05:46 PM Response to Original message |
40. she needs to leave. now. he's not afraid to abuse her in front of |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 05:56 PM Response to Original message |
41. Who Here Is Qualified To Give Medical or Legal Advice On This? |
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Raven (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 07:09 PM Response to Reply #41 |
43. I wasn't asking |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 07:14 PM Response to Reply #43 |
44. Actually... |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 08:15 PM Response to Reply #44 |
47. Message boards exist to share opinions.. |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 08:50 PM Response to Reply #47 |
49. I'm Not Suggesting Anyone Turn A Blind Eye |
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mopinko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 07:50 PM Response to Original message |
45. 3rd marriage? |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 07:53 PM Response to Original message |
46. How to come to grips with the fact that the person you may love is really bad for you. |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 08:46 PM Response to Original message |
48. Types Of Professionals To Seek Help From |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:43 PM Response to Reply #48 |
50. Thanks, SPK. This is a great post. n/t |
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u4ic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 10:58 PM Response to Reply #48 |
54. I'd be wary of clergy |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 11:09 PM Response to Reply #54 |
55. Yes, Hence My Caviat- |
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liberal renegade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 09:52 PM Response to Original message |
51. He's a drunken |
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GenDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 10:07 PM Response to Original message |
52. I'm so sorry for your friend |
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gemdem (975 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 10:51 PM Response to Original message |
53. She needs to get out to a safe house |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-18-07 11:10 PM Response to Reply #53 |
56. Good Points |
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Scout (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-19-07 03:53 PM Response to Original message |
57. definitely NOT normal. |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-19-07 04:40 PM Response to Original message |
62. if that is normal behavior then i am in the market for an |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-19-07 04:43 PM Response to Original message |
63. Don't tell her to leave. |
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Breeze54 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-19-07 06:13 PM Response to Original message |
65. She should demand |
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