Why can't people just say they're no longer interested in going out?

[Deja Q]

Hell, this isn't even a relationship! It's going out to lunch together as friends. I should have figured it out last time with the 11th hour floor tile issue, but now it's a friend with an inconsistent schedule and apologized for not getting back to me sooner because she didn't know if she opened the e-mail or not. (and between sending the e-mail and now, it's been a day and a half...)

There have been so many times and I'd rather have the honesty than a game.

[Radio_Lady]

1. I feel bad for you, HypnoToad. People should not give friends or loved ones the run-around.

[Hosnon]

2. All excuses based on email malfunctions are bullshit.

One little tidbit I live by.

(And yes, I've used it and been called on it. It is the lowest of lows, in my opinion.)

[Deja Q]

3. That reminds me, should I really want to confront her?

And I have been fathoming my own emotional state as well; I'm probably just making her feel uncomfortable.

[Hosnon]

5. You mean confront her about the email excuse?

I dunno...it is a very easy excuse to defend. The internets are just nebulous enough to make a lot of random misfires possible. I just don't think those misfires happen often regarding email.

[Deja Q]

7. Agreed... I was just hoping she'd use the usual "Errands" reason...

Knowing her circumstances, that one is always understandable. It's these new reasons, always at the last moment, they worry me.

And with the other coworker having penciled me in for one day, I got down that day and she wondered why I was down so early... Is it not normal for part of me to become paranoid and think nobody wants to be around me anymore? (Of which I shouldn't be surpised, but still... :D )

[Midlodemocrat]

6. I actually did have email malfunctions happen.

They were getting hung up on the Comcast server, so someone had to go in and manually release them.

So, it's not impossible. And, it is a great excuse.

[Hosnon]

9. Perhaps not impossible...but highly improbable. NT.

[GirlinContempt]

11. I missed about 15 emails from work over 6 months

That just... disappeared. Some came through, others were just gone. Never did figure out what happened.

[Radical Activist]

4. There's one girl I really don't get.

She always says we should get together, suggests activities, invites me to come hang out at her place sometime. But, every time we make plans she cancels and every time I suggest we get together at a specific time she says she's busy, often with a lame excuse. Even after I got tired of it and stopped calling her she would call me and do it again. We weren't dating but its still annoying as all hell. If she doesn't want to get together with me, then she shouldn't suggest it!

[Tyrone Slothrop]

10. I think I know that woman!

Well, probably not, actually. But I know a woman (friend of a friend) who does the exact same thing to me. And, I'll admit, I was interested the first couple times we met, but I'm not anymore. Still though, every time I see her, she's always suggesting all these things we should go do.

Of course, when I actually take her up on one of them, she always cancels/backs out/says she'll call/etc.

I've decided that, like a lot of people, she's just a flake.

[Radical Activist]

14. Maybe she's a flake.

She seems like an organized person otherwise, so I'm not sure what's going on.
At least I know there are other people out there like that!

[mainegreen]

12. Sounds like my cousin-in-law!

She's a hoot, but we always make backup plans when we plan to do something with her. Something to do with plans falling through 80% of the time with her.

[alarimer]

17. I met a guy like that a while ago

Twice we made plans and both times he called to cancel. One time he was helping a friend move and time got away from him and I can't remember the other excuse. I don't think it was a very good sign and eventually I stopped calling him and he never called me so that was that. I cannot stand it when people don't do what they say they are going to do. Don't say you are going to call if you don't plan on it. Some people are just flaky like that I guess.

[sniffa]

8. afraid of an insane reaction maybe?

[TK421]

13. Maybe she's intimidated by your huge schlong

:hi:

[Radical Activist]

15. lol

That's really the best answer to that and many similar questions. I think I'll just assume that's the problem with any woman who rejects me from now on. ha

[Deja Q]

16. !

:spray:
It is the other of two prominent bulges I have on display... :rofl:

[patricia92243]

18. E-mail her and tell her toe-mail you back if she really had rather not see you again. Sometimes it

easier to be truthful and blunt in writing.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time, you seem to be such a nice toad :)