Guava Jelly
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:24 PM
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A sincere and open apology for my use of the word "girl" |
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After a conversation with a person who i highly respect I have come to realize that even though i mean "Girl" in an endearing way when i use it that it doesn't negate the fact that it is a belittlement when referring to a grown woman. I actually was caught using it twice in a conversation. And was called on it. And I needed to be. It is a bad habit and I am doing my best to stop it. My Sincere apologies to anyone i may have offended. You were right and i was wrong. I am an old dog..And I am going to try my best to learn a new trick.
Thats all carry on
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:26 PM
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:o
Ah.....what the hell: :applause:
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:33 PM
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:28 PM
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2. Ah, dude -- you haven't done anything wrong |
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I KNOW you're respectful of us, okay?
You ARE a good guy.
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:32 PM
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4. I know i am a good guy and i am ok |
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I just realized with a little help. That I need to adapt a little. Thank you for your kind words. You rock!
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:33 PM
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5. Even if your butt is scary |
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:34 PM
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9. I only had one complaint so far |
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And it was on the types of draws I was wearing. :hide:
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:49 PM
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I bet it was Midlo, right?
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Wed Mar-28-07 06:06 PM
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19. it Miss_ Strawberry actually |
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:28 PM
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Guava Jelly
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:33 PM
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I have been pondering this for the last few days. and i just wanted to put it out there :)
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:33 PM
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:35 PM
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10. Thank you Lizziegrace |
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And you are one hell of a good Lady :hug:
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:39 PM
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:36 PM
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11. I think in many instances |
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"girl" or "boy" is perfectly fine. In general, I think it's friendlier than the sometimes impersonal sounding "man" or "woman".
If I'm dealing with strangers and want to be real careful, I'll use the latter terms.
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:50 PM
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15. Exactly -- it's your audience and their knowing your intent, etc. |
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:38 PM
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as long as you use girl and boy and not girl and man, are consistent, then you are at least being intellectually honest in your verbage.
However, having been to school with feminists who would scoff and get mad if I were to hold a door for them, I can tell you that you are better off changing your ways old dog. :P
Women and men= adults boys and girls= children
at what age? age of majority is the rule of thumb i try to follow, a boy is a boy until he's 18 and then he's a man. a girl is a girl until she is 18 and a woman.
:shrug:
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:51 PM
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16. Oh hell, I use it all the time. |
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To Miz t. It's somebody's birthday and they're taking her out to lunch. "So...where are the girls going for lunch?"
And she'll say to me "You boys going fishing Friday?"
I think we get to 'tetchy' sometimes.
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Wed Mar-28-07 05:52 PM
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17. Big Star made you do it right? |
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Those songs I'm in Love With A Girl and September Girls
Or are you just a big fan of the Indigo Girls, oops, I mean Indigo Women
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Wed Mar-28-07 06:04 PM
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18. I got roasted for doing that in GD once |
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I wonder if Seattlegirl or NYCGirl gets flamed everytime they make a post?
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Wed Mar-28-07 06:09 PM
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the more I enjoy being referred to as a girl. Doesn't bother me one bit.
;)
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Wed Mar-28-07 06:11 PM
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21. LOL, I am right there with you. |
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It doesn't bother me either. ;)
A belated welcome to DU :hi:
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Wed Mar-28-07 06:13 PM
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Wed Mar-28-07 06:17 PM
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23. "girl" can be a very endearing sentiment from a friend |
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It is one of those words that requires context.
You are one of the good guys from what I see here at DU
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Wed Mar-28-07 06:19 PM
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Well, sweetie.......this girl doesn't mind being called girl....
No sir, not one little bit!
I don't see it as disrespectful at all......
But that's just me!
I know you respect me....as I do you. :hug:
Major props to you for making amends to those who were offended!
:yourock:
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Wed Mar-28-07 06:26 PM
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25. I call women "girls" and if I'm called a girl I don't consider it |
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disrespectful or belittling.
It's going to become more and more difficult accommodating everybody's individually perceived insults. *sigh*
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Wed Mar-28-07 06:39 PM
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26. It's good to take notice and try to change it around women you don't know. |
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If someone I didn't know at all or only knew casually, referred to me as a "girl", I'd be offended. If it's a close friend, totally a different story.
Unless it's like "You go, girl!!"
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Wed Mar-28-07 06:40 PM
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27. Yeah but if you call a guy a "BIG GIRL" they get mad... |
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Wed Mar-28-07 06:45 PM
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28. Well, that was nice of you but, in my mind at least, not really necessary |
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I'm not really offended when people call me girl, but I suppose it's all about the context and the familiarity in which it is used. For example, I call my girlfriends "girl" all the time....as in, "Girl, long time no see!"
I see it as endearing term, like you said.
However, I can understand how some might be offended by it. That's just not my reality.
:hug: Good on ya, though, for trying to be more sensitive. :hi:
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Wed Mar-28-07 11:19 PM
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Edited on Wed Mar-28-07 11:21 PM by HEyHEY
You used "girl" tell whoever got mad to fuck off.
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Thu Mar-29-07 05:31 AM
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Per the request of the author.
Sincerely, buddhamama-DU Mod
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