A Question for DUers with Partners and Children

[bertha katzenengel]

"Go ask Daddy" -- "Mommy will be home soon" I'm sure phrases like these are common in your homes.

Does the habit of calling each other mom and dad for your children lead to calling each other mom and dad? Or Mother and Father? Did your parents address each other this way?

I ask because I have heard (I'll tell you where later) that this can have a negative effect on couples' sex lives.

What do you think?

[Maestro]

1. In my family

I'm dad and my wife is mom or any other variants thereof. No negative effects on sex lives so far.

[LynzM]

2. We never call each other mom and dad.

We have a lot of 'pet' names we use... mostly babe, or dude, from me... :)

Edited to add: We do refer to each other as mom and dad when talking to our kiddo, but we never call each other that when just talking to each other.

[SarahB]

3. We're a blended family.

I'm mom. Their step-day is Pat. Their dad is dad. My husband calls me Sarah. My ex-husband calls me Sarah. My step son calls me Sarah. My parents called each other by their first names with the occasional "your mom" or "your dad" like I do. Never noticed it had an effect on the sex part.

[bridgit]

4. you mean because "mom and dad" are sexier? wow, imagine if your kids start calling you...

Mater & Pater a couple might never get it up again :rofl:

Mother & Father are the higher end expressions, i'm sure every culture has them; though as a practical matter even the bible mention honoring your Mother & Father over say...

honoring your mom & dad ;)

[crim son]

5. Despite the fact that we call one another Lisa and Chris

we've had no sex life for well over a decade. :hi:

[SPKrazy]

6. I don't know

maybe that's all that's wrong :silly:

I know it always was weird when Ronald Reagan called Nancy 'Mommy'

[JVS]

7. *shudder*

[skygazer]

8. I've never referred to any partner as "dad"

Or any other variation. I've been married twice, had 9 children and step-children between them and in all that time, the kids called me either mom or my name, called their fathers or step-fathers dad or their name and we called each other either our names or some pet name.

I've never known anyone who referred to their partner as mom or dad.

[davsand]

9. It is "Ask your dad."

I can't imagine ever calling my husband "dad" or "daddy" or anything even like that. He is Kevin. He is my partner and my choice. Material Girl calls us variations on Mom and Dad but not usually by our first names. I'm not sure I'd like it if she DID start using my first name all the time--never really considered it till now...

I HAVE a Dad and he lives with my Mom --not with me and my husband. Calling my husband "Dad" would feel kind of creepy to me.



Laura

[thefool_wa]

10. Not in my house

And not in my parents house either it seems.

I do see where this could have an effect on a couple's sex life (either way depending on your own personal set of baggage), but I call my wife sweetie, or Clare (her name) when talking to her, and only call her mom/mommy when reffering to her while speaking to the kids.

[nosillies]

11. No effect on sex life, but we did realize just a few weeks ago that it had one drawback.

We asked our soon-to-be-three-year-old if he knew what Daddy's name was. He did, because even though I often refer to him as Daddy, I call him by his name just as often.

But he had no clue what my name was. When I don't get called "mummy," my husband usually calls me a pet name, like "doll."

After a long time mulling over it, when we forced him to take a guess, my son finally guessed that my name was Doll. When we told him what my real name was, he seemed skeptical. When asked my name now, he answers correctly, but you can tell he's not buying it. Lots of sighing and eye-rolling.

[Withywindle]

12. I always wondered how this worked!

See, I was raised to call my parents by their first names, as I still do. (They hated the idea of being called by a title or biological relationship as opposed to, y'know, themselves.) And naturally, I just picked that up from babyhood by calling them what they called each other. I always wondered how kids who call their parents "Mom" and "Dad" and the like even get started doing it!

[seemunkee]

13. Don't call each other mom/dad

Not even when the kids were little.

[InvisibleTouch]

14. My maternal grandparents...

...called each other Mother and Father, even when not talking to the kids. For years I thought those were their names!

[huskerlaw]

15. I think that is SO creepy

My maternal grandparents used to refer to each other that way and even as a child I thought it was really odd.

Neither of my parents do. Nor do any of my sisters, all of whom have spouses and children.

I think it might be a generational thing???

As for the negative effect on sex lives, geez, I would think so! I wouldn't want to have sex with anyone I called dad, daddy, father, or anything of the sort. Skeevy.

[InvisibleTouch]

16. I think it is a generational thing.

I can't really comment on my grandparents' sex lives, because by the time I knew them, both their kids were adults, and there was no further evidence to go by. :)

I was very surprised, though, when a few years ago my grandmother let slip that she had "been together with" my grandfather before they were married - in a time and place where such a thing was definitely not accepted. But then she's a pretty independent lady.