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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 08:57 PM Original message |
If a friend of yours is going to get married really soon, would you be honest with her? |
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Nicole (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:00 PM Response to Original message |
1. No, I would not. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:01 PM Response to Reply #1 |
2. i told my best friend she was being stupid. i was right. but we are still friends. |
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Nicole (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:07 PM Response to Reply #2 |
6. Well we were younger then. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:08 PM Response to Reply #6 |
7. ahh i see. thats kinda funny. |
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flvegan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:02 PM Response to Original message |
3. Honesty and friendship go hand in hand, regardless. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:03 PM Response to Reply #3 |
4. thanks. i think i will. as i said, we arent very close, if we were i would not hesitiate |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:06 PM Response to Original message |
5. someone needs to break the tie. |
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lizerdbits (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:10 PM Response to Original message |
8. I'm staying out of my cousin's upcoming wedding |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:18 PM Response to Reply #8 |
10. both, person she is marrying is a jerk, called her a whore, |
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lizerdbits (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:22 PM Response to Reply #10 |
13. Seems likely to escalate into physical abuse |
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CBHagman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 09:53 AM Response to Reply #10 |
40. The mention of isolating her set off warning bells. |
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dembotoz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:13 PM Response to Original message |
9. after it was all said and done |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:19 PM Response to Reply #9 |
11. well i hinted that this might not maybe be the best time for a wedding |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 11:48 PM Response to Reply #11 |
31. I was going to tell you not to say anything until I read this... |
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Generic Brad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:22 PM Response to Original message |
12. Nope |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:23 PM Response to Reply #12 |
15. nope, far as i know he has not cheated on her. doesnt really seem the type. |
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AlCzervik (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:23 PM Response to Original message |
14. if you aren't that close then why do you think it's a mistake? |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:25 PM Response to Reply #14 |
16. well because she talks about it a lot, this is some i see atleast 4 times a week. |
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AlCzervik (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:31 PM Response to Reply #16 |
19. well thats not cool of him and she shouldn't let herself be treated like that, i understand |
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Lil Missy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:26 PM Response to Original message |
17. No. It would make any difference in the outcome anyway. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:27 PM Response to Reply #17 |
18. its not really presumptious. i hear about their lives everyday. |
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Blue-Jay (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:35 PM Response to Original message |
20. I wouldn't say anything. No way. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:37 PM Response to Reply #20 |
21. excellent point. i had never thought of it this way.. |
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Blue-Jay (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:56 PM Response to Reply #21 |
23. I know that you want to do the best for your friend. |
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jobycom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:46 PM Response to Original message |
22. Be there for her. |
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Critters2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 09:59 PM Response to Original message |
24. After my divorce, SOOOO many people |
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Blue-Jay (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 10:01 PM Response to Reply #24 |
25. If you were in "LOVE", you probably wouldn't have listened to them anyway. |
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Critters2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 10:09 PM Response to Reply #25 |
26. Maybe. BUt it was frustrating to hear their "I saw that coming"s after the fact. nt |
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Blue-Jay (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 10:15 PM Response to Reply #26 |
27. Sure it was frustrating. |
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Critters2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 10:18 PM Response to Reply #27 |
28. Look, I hate it when you're right!! |
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struggle4progress (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 10:18 PM Response to Original message |
29. Only if (1) she asked unprompted for my advice and (2) indicated she did ... |
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dropkickpa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Apr-28-07 11:22 PM Response to Original message |
30. In this situation right now |
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LibDemAlways (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 01:12 AM Response to Original message |
32. I wish someone had talked some sense into my |
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bridgit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 01:16 AM Response to Original message |
33. what has left you with the impression they are making a mistake... |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 08:12 AM Response to Reply #33 |
35. I dont think your future spouse calling you a whore and alienating you from you friends and relative |
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bridgit (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 10:17 AM Response to Reply #35 |
41. in american culture, and perhaps in some neighborhoods even sadder still... |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-30-07 07:18 AM Response to Reply #35 |
65. I see. |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 02:01 AM Response to Original message |
34. nope, I would not |
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billyskank (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 08:13 AM Response to Original message |
36. I would not dare do that. |
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gbate (900 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 09:26 AM Response to Original message |
37. No way. Even in many years from now, if you are still friends I'd keep my mouth shut. |
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SmokingJacket (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 09:27 AM Response to Original message |
38. No -- you might be wrong. |
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electron_blue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 09:46 AM Response to Original message |
39. depends... if she's being abused, then yes. Otherwise no. |
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bettyellen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 10:51 AM Response to Original message |
42. i had a close friend i regretted saying nothing to, many years and a divorce later she wishes |
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skygazer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 11:14 AM Response to Original message |
43. I certainly wouldn't word it like that |
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bigwillq (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 11:19 AM Response to Original message |
44. I wouldn't say anything |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 11:50 AM Response to Original message |
45. I think you should seriously consider it |
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salin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 12:24 PM Response to Original message |
46. Reverse the roles |
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Rhythm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 12:43 PM Response to Original message |
47. I turned down the invite for my best guy-pal's wedding after... |
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dysfunctional press (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 02:36 PM Response to Original message |
48. why do you think that her marriage is a mistake? |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 08:22 PM Response to Reply #48 |
58. her fiance called her a whore, she has no close friends left etc |
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Missy Vixen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 02:38 PM Response to Original message |
49. Absolutely not |
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GalleryGod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 05:33 PM Response to Reply #49 |
55. I Agree with Julie. No Way. and how presumptuous anyway . |
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davsand (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 02:56 PM Response to Original message |
50. I think I would say something --but do it carefully. |
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militaryspouse (198 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 03:12 PM Response to Reply #50 |
51. People |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 03:53 PM Response to Original message |
52. No way. |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 05:02 PM Response to Original message |
53. No way...no how...even if I had known her from birth...even if she was |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 07:47 PM Response to Reply #53 |
56. i firmly disagree with you on this one. if she were my friend from birth i would tell her., |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 09:09 PM Response to Reply #56 |
59. You did not say anything about abuse in the original post. If I knew |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 10:05 PM Response to Reply #59 |
60. i was just giving examples under which i would tell a friend that their choices are stupid/unhealthy |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-30-07 05:00 AM Response to Reply #60 |
63. And I was answering. As you stated it in your OP, I wouldn't get involved |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 05:29 PM Response to Original message |
54. It depends on your reasons. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 07:48 PM Response to Reply #54 |
57. its the latter. |
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Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 10:16 PM Response to Original message |
61. So six years ago my brother-in-law married the Succubus... |
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SammyWinstonJack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-29-07 10:22 PM Response to Original message |
62. Do her a favor and tell her. Since she is a relatively new friend, it won't hurt that much if she |
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Bridget Burke (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-30-07 07:03 AM Response to Original message |
64. It sounds as though she's already discussing the matter.... |
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zanne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-30-07 07:27 AM Response to Original message |
66. ALL you can do is say... |
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