A Major Rant About Holding Doors Open For Strangers!

[Intelsucks]

Have you ever held a door open for a complete stranger, and as they passed through it, not only did they not say a word to you, but they didn't even smile or make any eye-contact with you?

So I'm like Ralph the f**king door man here or something? Man this makes me want to go ballistic!

Many times I have secretly wished that I had let it slam right in their face, after the fact. :mad:

[ZenLefty]

1. I usually yell "What, no tip?"

F***ing cheapskates. :grr:

[GOPisEvil]

2. Ya know...9 out of 10 people will thank you.

That 10th person will be visited by some random act of bad karma, so he or she will get punished somehow.

But, the thought of yanking them back through the door to take back your good deed is a fun thought. :evilgrin:

[Intelsucks]

8. I guess I get that 10th person every time!

I guess I'll say "you're welcome" in the future. That should get the point across.

[terrya]

3. Yes, that's happened to me.

I've had people GLARE at me when I've held open the door for them. Part of me wanted to let go of the door in their face.

I share your anger when that happens. I don't expect them to cry tears of joy or anything, but a simple "thank you" would be nice.

Terry

[Loonman]

4. I kick 'em in the back of the knees

At least I wish I could.

[hlthe2b]

5. Yes.... And it REALLY is irritating...

But, what pisses me off just as much is people that are half a step ahead of you, who just let the door slam in your face, rather than holding it just seconds long enough to pass it off to you. This used to be common courtesy....?

[zanana]

6. What really gets me is...

When you open a door for somebody and they pass through with about a dozen people behind them. Sometimes I feel like just letting the door go. Don't people realize they're supposed to hold the door as they go through?

[trof]

7. I just say YOU'RE WELCOME!

And I usually get an embarassed "Thank you".

[kmla]

21. That's what I do...

Get's 'em every time...

[alwynsw]

25. I usually do that as well, but

in the case of the obviously self-absorbed rude person, i get a little nasty. My usual zing: "Were you raised to be rude or did you take a class?"

[ornotna]

39. I do the same

and it's becoming more frequent these days. :(

[latebloomer]

9. Yep, plenty of times

And another pet peeve of mine is allowing a car to enter traffic ahead of you and getting no acknowledgment-- no smile, no hand wave, nada.

[pop goes the weasel]

10. no

Not that I've noticed. What is more likely to happen is to end up playing "after you-no after you" with another person intent on being polite.

[Marymarg]

11. Random act of kindness

If you perform kindness only to receive gratitude, you will be disappointed many times. Just because the recipient of your gesture ignores you does not diminish the fact that you are being considerate to another.
For that person and for others who will do the same, I will say "Thank you, kind sir/madam and God Bless.":)

[Intelsucks]

14. Every person gets the benefit of the doubt. Not "looking" for gratitude

I just can't understand how so many ppl could be that rude.

[TXlib]

29. I hear ya.

I understand. I often do the same, like letting people change lanes, or go ahead of me in traffic. I know nobody else will.

Most of them smile and wave. A few act as though I owed it to them; it may well be that they were waiting there a long time, and felt that SOMEBODY owed them SOMETHING.

Still, I do hope all of them will eventually pay my random act of kindness forward.

[hlthe2b]

32. I've come to believe this is the best way to deal with these little

events that would otherwise be overblown into large annoyances. When I let myself get irritated, it haunts me for hours. While if I chalk it off to my good dead for the day (or whatever), it is easy to put it aside....

Besides, I am honest enough with myself to know that I've probably been perceived as rude when I was very absorbed in something else, upset, late, or whatever......

[YNGW]

16. I'll Second That.

Usually the person or people say "Thank You", but if they don't, I did the right thing anyway. Who knows what they have had to deal with that caused them to be absent-minded for the moment; maybe a sick spouse or child, or the boss yelled at them, or a friend died. I say live and let live.

[Rainbowreflect]

19. I have decided I am going to do one nice thing a day.

Something where they don't know it's me and if they find out it does not count. Nothing big, just a little gift on a co-workers desk who's been going through a lot of shit and I sent some money to someone having money problems. It makes me feel much better about myself and the world in general.

[INTELBYTES]

12. If you hadn't been scoping out her ass...

...she probably would have acknowledged you. :spank:
Intelsucks never opens the door for me!

[GOPisEvil]

13. Shhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!

The REAL reason men hold doors for women is supposed to be a SECRET! ;-)

[Cena]

15. I know how you feel.

I hold the doors open for people all the time and they're inconsiderate. It's like "Ok, fine, be that way asshole. See if I'll help you out again when you have a bag full of groceries in your arms and you need help with the door."

Recently, I have given up holding doors for people all together. People never do that for me when I'm struggling with crap in my arms and people just aren't considerate anymore.

[alwynsw]

27. Some of us are

even though I once get cursed as a chauvinist for holding a door for a FEMALE (lady is inppropriate here).

[Wonco_the_Sane]

17. I get funny looks...

...whenever I go out of my way to stomp on automatic doors myself. (Humph)...ungratefull



:)

[leftchick]

18. I always yell....

"you're WELCOME!" ....they rarely look back... :evilgrin:

[Holly]

20. I can honestly say

I don't remember that ever happened to me. I'm Canadian eh, and saying Thank You is almost a religion here. We're like a nation of those Disney chipmunks...Well, thank you....no thank you....

[PopSixSquish]

34. That Made Me Laugh Out Loud!

I'll have to come visit Canada one of these days.

[nini]

22. You must be getting all the republicans

we're expected to serve them - doncha know?

:evilgrin:

[DiverDave]

23. I did a big

"YOUR WELCOME" to a lady a while ago.
She turned and apologized profusely. I felt sorta bad, she explained her husband had been diagnosed with cancer that day.

I sure felt like a heel.
I don't care anymore if I am acknowledged or not. We don't know what people are dealing with.

[Skittles]

24. INTEL, TAKE THAT DOORMAN COSTUME OFF FOR BETTER RESULTS

:7

[HEyHEY]

26. Don't hold it against them

SOmetimes people don't notice..... I've even not noticed myself once or twice.

[TXlib]

28. 9 out of 10 will thank you

the 10th is a republican.

[geniph]

30. I've taken to mostly holding the door

for older folks or folks burdened by packages and such. They pretty much always say thanks. I do hate having a whole stream of folks pour through, but what the hell.

I always say thanks, myself. Common courtesy never made anyone break out in hives.

[Butterflies]

31. Maybe you look scarey . . .

maybe they're shy . . . maybe they're daydreaming . . . maybe they're high . . . maybe they have physical problems and can't talk . . . maybe they're too upset about their lives.

I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. It doesn't take that much energy to hold the door for a couple seconds anyway.

[ploppy]

33. Thank You Intelsucks!

I love good manners! Maybe the person behind the asshole apprciates your kind gesture. I do.

[DS1]

35. Don't hold doors open for me

I hate it. But if you don't know me and hold one open for me, I will (begrudgingly) acknowledge your effort with a smile and thank you.

But don't hold doors open for me!

[Lostmessage]

36. I am the elevator person in my building

I hit all of the buttons for everyone and I have only gotten a thank you once or twice.

[TrogL]

37. I'm sorry, that was me, I was distracted

Your stunt of saying "you're welcome" in a really sweet (non-sarcastic) voice worked perfectly.

In big cities, some people just plain don't make eye contact because that elicits further conversation that can get :scared:.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

38. I always tend to overuse Thank You.

And it kinda frustrates me when others don't. And I'm also a sucker for the elderly. I love it when I hold open a door for and older lady, and she smiles at me and says thank you. There's nothing like the manners of a lot of the elderly around here.
Duckie