If a loved one...

[LeftyFingerPop]

does something that hurts you to your core...and they say are sorry, and you believe they are sorry...but what was done hurts you so bad that it is driving you mad...

How do you reconcile it in your mind?

Do you just forget it?

This has happened to me, and I have been awake all night in shock and anger.

No, it's no one here. No lounge drama.

Have you ever been hurt so badly that you literally cannot bear it?

What do you do?

[VenusRising]

1. I would probably become extremely depressed.

I don't deal with being hurt well, at all.

I ended up cutting off my mother and her whole side of the family for the years of abuse with no apology.

Let me just say that I am so very sorry that you are hurting and angry.

I hope whatever it is eases soon.

Take care of yourself, and know that you are loved here.

:hug::loveya:

[LeftyFingerPop]

2. VenusRising...

Your words touch me, and I thank you. :hug:

I fear that my sensitivity may be making this whole thing worse.

It was a relatively benign issue that perhaps someone else would not take so hard, but it has crushed me.

This is all so foreign to me, because I have never felt like this.

Nothing else could hurt me like this...and to most people, it would not seem as bad, and I have no idea how to cope.

[VenusRising]

3. I have cursed my hypersensitivity many times.

Ultimately, I'm glad that I'm sensitive.

I would hate to not be able to feel or understand what others feel.

Lacking compassion and mercy is barbaric to me.

Embrace your sensitivity. Learn the lessons and let it go.

I wish that I would help you more.

I hate that you are hurting. :hug::hug::hug:

[MissMillie]

4. this is going to sound simplistic

once, I needed to forgive someone because it was hurting me too much to keep carrying the hurt.

I put on my running shoes and headed to the track where I told myself I was going to run to forgive that someone. And I just ran and ran. I cried for quite a few of those laps too.

When I was spent, that was pretty much it for me.

Sure, there was some hurt thereafter, but I just kept reminding myself of my run and that I could no longer expend any energy being hurt.

In time, it went away.

I'm sorry you're hurt. :hug:

[Dragonbreathp9d]

5. Yes, I have

It sucks for a great while, but just be with the person to see that they really care for you and know that if they really do care for you, they really didnt mean it. I read into things too much and take off-hand remarks far too personally, knowing they didnt really mean them doesnt help at first, but knowing they still care for me for who I am makes me feel alot better.

[LeftyFingerPop]

6. Thank you all...very wise words...

and I appreciate you responding,

philboy

[MonkeyFunk]

7. yes

it has happened to me. It ended up destroying the trust I had in him, and we were unable to remain friends. I spent so much thought and effort TRYING to forgive but it was ultimately not doable. It was only when I realized that that I was able to cut him out of my life and start to heal.

[LeftyFingerPop]

8. Thanks MonkeyFunk...

I'm sorry this has happened to you.

This person will never be cut out of my life, that is not an option.

But I understand that it sometimes has to happen...

In this case, this person is stuck with me however LOL

[cynatnite]

9. It took me a long time to get over it...

I still have some resentment. My sister has since apologized, but I think she still feels justified in what she did which is partly the reason why I've never fully gotten over it. Sorry, I can't get into the details. It's very personal and hard to discuss.

Time is the only answer I've got for you.