Do you have a relationship role model?

[skygazer]

My mom died when I was young and my father was not a good role model as far as having a loving relationship goes. I've wondered if that's why I had some poor experiences.

My daughter told me several years ago that she wanted a marriage like her dad's and stepmom's - that was her model. They have a really great, solid and loving marriage.

I just wondered if other people look to certain relationships as what they want for themselves. :shrug:

[WritingIsMyReligion]

1. My parents' relationship is all right, I guess.

There're probably better out there, but it's lsted for 20 years now with only the occasional "joking" threat about divorce, so it must have something going for it. But I've never seen a relationship that really made me think, "Wow, that's amazing." So I guess I don't have a relationship role model. I have role models, sure, but not when it comes to relationships.

[skygazer]

2. Yeah, I thought it was neat that my daughter had something specific in mind

I think in some ways it kept her from getting too deep into relationships that weren't that good. She had higher ideals. And she seems to have found it - she got married last year and she and her husband have a really great thing.

[Droopy]

3. Nope. I will probably always be single

I do not desire to be in a relationship. When I was in my late teens I did want that and I had a girlfriend there for a little while. But when I was 20 I became severely mentally ill and since then I've had no desire to be with someone.

Some people might see that as sad, but I'm okay with it. I have friends and that's enough.

[billyskank]

4. I just want my own.

Maybe I'll screw it up, maybe I'll do alright. I wouldn't mind finding out, though.

[Deep13]

5. Nope, we are the role model. nt

[Tikki]

6. Everyone in my husband's family....his grandfather even..

was the minister who married us.
These are and were special folk.
Everyone was married forever and they all had a great sense of humor. :)


The Tikkis

[Cabcere]

7. My great-grandparents

were married for 70+ years and survived wars, illness, financial hardship, and the deaths of all of their children (many in horrible ways - my grandmother died of leukemia at age 36, and my great-uncle suffered and died from cancer brought on in part by alcohol abuse, which is another story in itself). They were wonderful people, and you could tell just by watching them together that they loved and respected each other very much. They made it through a lot of horrible stuff together, and came out strong on the other side, so I would say that they are definitely my role models when it comes to relationships. (And many other aspects of life, too - my great-grandmother was an incredibly caring person and an eternal optimist whose favorite saying was, "There's something good about everything," and my great-grandfather was one of the strongest, kindest, and most hard-working men I've ever known.) I figure if my marriage ends up half as strong as theirs, I'll be doing all right. :)

[skygazer]

11. Wow, they sound like amazing people

I don't recall anyone in my family who had something like that. My aunts and uncles seemed to have good relationships but nothing out of the ordinary. There was no one I could look at and see how much they meant to each other.

[Cabcere]

12. They really were.

:) I was a lucky kid to get to have 15 years with them (although I'm not sure I realized the full value of their lives until they were gone - I guess that's how it goes, though). :hi:

[supernova]

8. No, I can't think of one offhand

who is a model. But I have given a lot of thought to what kind of relationship would feel right for me. I just hope that I get the chance to find out. And I would be happy to be dating now.

[Wapsie B]

9. No. Not at all.

My parents had their 50th anniversary two years ago and it was a joke. By my mother's own admission she wanted to leave years ago. Chalk another miserable existence up to religious guilt. I admire anyone in their 70's & 80's who, despite all the peer pressure of those "simpler times" :puke: and said enough's enough and put a stop to their marriage.

So no, I have no role model, in marriage or in life. I'm flying alone here.

[Nikia]

10. My paternal grandparents had a good relationsip

My father said that they weren't that good of role model for him though because they never argued in front of them so he did not know how to handle conflict within a relationship/marriage. I have a hard time knowing how to handle conflict in my marriage too. My mother constantly fought with anyone who she had a relationship with, although less so with her current (third) husband who basically goes along with anything she says at the first sign of conflict. My maternal grandparents fought a lot despite my grandmother basically doing everything for her husband. My father doesn't appear to have anything upset him until he blows up.
Sometimes, I wish that I had a good relationship role model.

[skygazer]

13. I'm glad my daughter did

I'm glad she saw it as one - my other daughter married a lazy fat slob of a Republican ( :puke: ) so I guess she never looked at it analytically. ~sigh~

Yeah, I sometimes wish I'd had some solid, loving relationship to look to as something I wanted to aspire to. I feel like I have that now but it's took me until I was 40 to find it.

[JohnnyLib2]

14. My inlaws! (R.I.P.)

54 years, starting in the depression and living in the Mississippi Delta.
Gentle devotion until death parted them, and then my MIL alone was a role model in aging, accepting help, and holding her own.

Lucky man, aren't I?

[Left Is Write]

15. My parents.

They are about to celebrate their 48th wedding anniversary. Still together, still dig each other.

[RetroLounge]

16. My Paternal Grandparents (R.I.P.)

70 years of happily married is pretty damn cool...

RL