Sometimes....My family makes me want to scream!!

[bicentennial_baby]

Ok, so I call my parents' house to wish my Dad a Happy 64th Birthday...My brother answers. 'Hey, can you put Dad on the phone?'...'No, he's in the hospital, he asked to be admitted for that rash thing...'

(My Dad is having either an interaction with certain meds for MS or the MS is causing a neurological thing that's making him itch all over, and he scratched it very badly all over his body, even in his sleep...)

'Wait, what? When?'

(I talked to my Brother last night)

'Oh, a few days ago...'

'Well when were you going to tell me?!'

'I was gonna call you tonight...'

:banghead:

Btw, my Dad is severely immunosuppressed, so any time in a hospital full of sick people is nothing but a danger to him...sigh.

I'm so frustrated. x(

[KitchenWitch]

1. Ah yes, the circus of family dysfunction.

I know it well.

Last month when my parents (and son) and my girlfriend from MN came down to visit, I had much fun with all the little pockets of baggage.

It taught me one thing. I can handle my family's baggage, and I can handle my girlfriend's baggage. I just can't handle them both together...

[oregonjen]

2. My brother did that to me many years ago

I was living overseas at the time and my mom got really ill. Turned out her gallbladder was so diseased she almost died. My brother called me after she had the surgery to remove it and she truly almost died. He said he didn't want to worry me. x( I would have flown home in an instant had I known how serious it was. I still get upset when I think about that.

[Sugar Smack]

3. I'm so sorry about your dad.

I'm here if ya want to call me or have me call you. Just say when. :hug:

[Breeze54]

4. Sounds like my family!

My 92 yr. old Dad was admitted to ICU and my sister called me to tell me hours later

and THEN! Told me NOT to go to the hospital!! WTF? Argh!!!!

I went anyway and when I got there, he was all alone and freaking out!!

:grr: .. :banghead:

Sometimes some family members 'just' seem to have this need for 'control'!

:hug:

Make sure the hospital knows who you are so you can call them yourself.

Eliminate the middleman, like I had to do. :grr:

[Gormy Cuss]

5. Was he trying to save you the worry or just not thinking?

I moved away from home when I left high school and would find out YEARS later that a relative or childhood friend had died. It was definitely out of sight, out of mind for them even though I lived only two hours south. Seems to run in my mother's family. One of my cousins was calling her parents to let them know that an aunt was in the hospital and her sister said "Oh, when you visit auntie you can stop in on (their brother) in the ICU." :banghead:

[QueenOfCalifornia]

6. Sounds totally normal

if your brother is missing a couple of chromosomes.

Can we ask.... How old is Captain Dumb-ass?

I say we chip in and buy him this:

[Redstone]

7. BB, I'm sorry to hear this. As you know. And why.

Though I can only imagine your frustration.

Redstone

[bicentennial_baby]

8. I just talked to Dad...

he sounds really good, even though Social Workers are trying to push him into a nursing home, which he is resisting at all costs. He wants to be home with Mom, and with visiting nurses and aides, there's no earthly reason for him to be in a home. Plus, he's thinking about the financial impact on the family if he had to leave...No way!!

He sounded happy, and well, and loved my re-cap of our trip to the Pats game yesterday. I will see him on Saturday.

:hug: Thanks, my friend.

:)

[Redstone]

9. Damn, I just hope one thing, that if I ever get to that stage,

my sons will do as well for me as your Dad's daughter has done for him.

(I bet they will, so don't worry.)

Redstone

[bicentennial_baby]

10. Oh, I told him, If the Social Workers don't want to listen

to him, they can come to me, then my Brother, then Mommma. No way, no how. He said he was happy to know that I'll be looking out for him and his interests....I love my Pops. :)

And yes, I know they will too, if that ever comes to pass. :hug:

[Redstone]

11. And furthermore, just to define my current situation, since you seem (as usual)

to be interested:

I reminded another DUer who has been a stalwart friend (as you have) the other night, that if she wanted to keep one "Redstone Phrase" and carry it close to her heart, it should be this one:

"I might be sick, but I ain't dead yet."

If that phrase gives you Dad some ammunition, he's welcome to use it at will.

Redstone

[YellowRubberDuckie]

12. I'm sorry about your dad, sweetie.

And I'm sorry that your brother is a knuckle head. Some people just don't think about other people, and it's unfortunate. I know we don't really know each other that well, and what you do know of me, I'm a complete spazz, but please know that I'm thinking of you and your family, and keeping you in my prayers. :hug:
Duckie

[bicentennial_baby]

13. Thank you so much!!!

:hug:

That is really sweet of you! Good to know you now! :)

[Skittles]

14. your brother needs a righteous butt-kicking

with all the forms of communication available now that is simply unacceptable

[Clintonista2]

15. Yep, similar situation here

My 94 year old great aunt was hospitalized over the summer. Nobody bothered to tell me until about 3 weeks later.