Reasonable expectations on gifts to/from in-laws?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

What do you think is reasonable in terms of receiving/giving gifts to/from parents of your spouse, in terms of what you'd give/get from your own parents?

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

1. kick

[Rabrrrrrr]

2. A reasonable expectation is whatever they feel like giving, whatever you feel like giving.

What others give or don't give is irrelevant.

[rucky]

3. We just get each of our sets of parents a household gift to/from both of us. n/t

[Gormy Cuss]

4. It really depends on their gifting tradition.

If you don't know your spouse should. It's a delicate situation. Too much looks like you're trying to impress them or some other statement. Too little and their feelings may be hurt.

My in-laws have a tradition that the adults don't give gifts to each other but the parents write checks to their adult kids. In my family, all adults receive modest, thoughtful gifts related to the person's interests or needs. We go along with each family's tradition.

[MissMillie]

5. Well, how would you want your spouse to treat her in-laws? (your parents)

:shrug: