DU Men: What do you do if you're in love with a woman?

[Writer]

Are you straight with her? Or do you dance around the issue until your bravery appears?

And what if you're in love with a woman you can't have?

Curiously,

~Writer~

[taterguy]

1. When I'm in love with a woman I can't have I get drunk by myself and listen to melancholy music

The next day if I'm not too hungover I take myself on a long walk or bike ride and ponder things.

Fortunately those days are a thing of the past for me.

[LeftyFingerPop]

2. Life is too short to...

not say "I Love You" to the person you love. It should be done frequently.

[IzaSparrow]

3. according to Otis Redding, among several others,

When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothing else
He'll trade the world
For the good thing he's found
If she's bad he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he put her down

When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Tryin' to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comfort
Sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way it ought to be

Well, this man loves a woman
I gave you everything I had
Tryin' to hold on to your precious love
Baby, please don't treat me bad

When a man loves a woman
Down deep in his soul
She can bring him such misery
If she plays him for a fool
He's the last one to know
Lovin' eyes can't ever see

When a man loves a woman
He can do no wrong
He can never own some other girl
Yes when a man loves a woman
I know exactly how he feels
'Cause baby, baby, baby, you're my world

When a man loves a woman.


--So I guess go make an ass out of yourself, at least she'll know--

[Guava Jelly]

4. ..

1) I dance around the issue hoping the bravery appears
2) I turn them into friends.
:D

[bikebloke]

5. Good question

It happened to me unexpectedly with a colleague visiting from our London office back in October. And she seemed interested then. But for me there was the tabboo of getting involved with someone from work, as well as a little thing called the Atlantic Ocean. Then I saw here again last week. However the night before I was thinking so hard that I'd blow it, that I didn't get much sleep. Thus I was so knackered, and not very congenial, that I blew it. Self-fulfilling prophecy. Of course she was only in the office for a day, jet lagged and busy with a deadline.

Oh well, it was nice to feel human again for a short spell.

[Writer]

6. You never expect it, do you?

I hate it.

[Deja Q]

7. I'm as brave as a rat with a streak of yellow down its back.

As for women I know are taken - I stay away.

[LostInAnomie]

8. Keep your trap shut.

Or, at least keep it shut until they tell you first.

Telling someone that you love them, especially someone that you can't have, never changes anyone's mind. That's shit for movies and romance novels.

[Deja Q]

9. Of which, "The Graduate" must surely top the list.

Mind you, seeing that movie while tripping on acid... it'd put "2001: A Space Odyssey" to shame...

[av8rdave]

10. I danced around until I had reason to believe she had feelings for me

[DS1]

11. I write anonymous craiglists posts addressed to Oompa Loompa

number 23, you know the one with the wheelbarrow, with nothing but a haiku and a photo of my erect penis.


Why?

[SPKrazy]

12. I've been

direct with it

why waste time dancing around it?

life is short

[Ivan Sputnik]

13. If it's just a crush

you'll get over it in time. Don't tell her, unless you want to look pathetic. If you really love a woman you can't have, I would settle for friendship if you can control yourself, or avoid her if you can't. I wouldn't tell her, unless the "can't have" situation changes.

[Stuart G]

14. Pray for hellp...............nt

[MrScorpio]

15. Do you really want to know how I work?

Must I spill my secrets to all?

[Pierre.Suave]

16. Well, here is what I did...

I have known my GF for YEARS. We met while we were both undergrads at the University of Michigan. We had many mutual friends that all thought we should be together. We were friends for many years, good friends infact. We would go out to dinner, laugh and have a great time. We would go to parties together, but never as a "couple." We were very close, we had agreed to be friends forever once over a great bottle of wine. We both had other flings through college that never really went anywhere.

But, to be honest, I was in Love the second I saw her. She is SOOO beautiful, sweet, kind, and gentle, etc.. I think she is perfect. There are not enough superlatives in my vocabulary to let me accurately describe her. LOL, anyway.

it took me YEARS to get up the courage to talk about more than a friendship. To put it this way, everyone knew it was inevitable, or that it should be, but me...

And now, I am going to ask her to marry me next week...

[RadiationTherapy]

17. I have never fallen in love with someone who didn't see it coming.

I have not ever allowed myself to fall in love with a woman I 'can't have'; though I have 'had' women I shouldn't have.

I don't know; I think that one is able to control with whom and when they fall in love.

It bothers my wife sometimes that I can control my love, but I have always looked at the big life picture and lack of availability is an external factor that is a deal breaker for me. g.

[Blue-Jay]

18. Percy Sledge knows the answer.