BF hates me again and I don't know why.

[crim son]

Calpeg or Carla call me. I'm wasted and don't want to talk about anything but my ruination. Okay; and your kids or your dog. Call me? I have no friends here.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

1. You do have friends here.

:hug:

[crim son]

7. self-edit

sorry, SA

[Starbucks Anarchist]

9. Check your PM.

[crim son]

11. Okay.

Okay.

[crim son]

27. I've been on the phone to whoa nelly for an hour... help!

cannot respond!

[bicentennial_baby]

2. You do have friends here, but...fucking dump him!

Into the trash with this loser, for the umpteenth time. Jeebus woman, get with it!

(That was tough love, sorry :hug:)

[crim son]

4. Bi_baby.

I'm lonely and he is so much like me. Doesn't matter though, does it? These past two days without him talkint to me have been so peaceful, until I went out and had a few drinks.

I said to my friend that I don't know how much of this fuckupedness is me, and how much is him. It's terrible because I know I have huge issues.

Ah.

[bicentennial_baby]

6. It's fine to have issues, he is poison to you...

You have seemed so unhappy since you've been with him. That should be an indicator. Dump the trash and move on. My Ex was a lot like me too, and he was a disaster in my life. Alikeness isn't compatibility, necessarily. Cut ties, set sail, be free and be you woman. I've been there, I know. :hug:

[crim son]

10. bi-baby. I hear what you say. So, this man is so close to me in terms

of wishes, hopes, fantasies, desires, analysis. It is impossible. But then... what? You are young and lovely and I am not. Do you honestly believe I should not settle?

Stupid question? Be me, an older woman and not getting any more attractive or even, I dare say, wiser. My mind like my will and my spirit is winding down. What choice do I have but to take the first/second offer?

I know I sound despairing. I am. I'm so tired and old.

[bicentennial_baby]

13. Never settle, ever...

And you are a beautiful woman. Age is nothing but a number, series. Fuck it, dump him, be alone, get over and through the divorce, find peace, and then see what happens. Being alone isn't death. Find yourself first. I'm serious.

Don't make me come up there and smack some sense into you! :spank:

:hug:

[GalleryGod]

36. Damn straight, BiBaby !

And I'll "ride shotgun"

[Redbear]

16. You are not old and you are beautiful on many levels

Anything that causes you this much grief cant be a good thing.

[flvegan]

23. Who the hell said you weren't "young and lovely"?

[FloridaJudy]

31. Alone is better than exploited

If the offer sucks - and it sounds like it does - don't take it. You're better off on your own. I, too, am older, but I'm not going to grab some loser to make me even more miserable. Alone isn't necessarily lonely.

And don't drink if it just makes you even more unhappy. Been there/done that, and it was a serious mistake.

[China_cat]

40. Never, ever, ever, EVER...settle

You can beat up enough on yourself, you don't have to add someone else in to make it worse.

There ARE worse things than being alone. You're living one of them.

[MissMillie]

41. that is the worst fickin' reason to accept a loser into your life

first of all, age brings beauty.... it doesn't destroy it.

second of all, your standards should go UP when you get older and determine what you're willing to put up with in your life. They shouldn't go down

I'm 43 years old. Yes, I get lonely. Yes, I am terribly frustrated at what there is left out there. As I have "raised the bar" for what kind of man I want in my life, there are fewer and fewer men available and capable of getting over that bar.

I don't care.

And neither should you.

Make your own life full. Do things that make you happy and keep you learning and growing and entertained.

If by some stroke of luck a man finds you interesting and attractive, it will because you are YOU.

If you don't get one, then you already have a full, meaningful, and entertaining life.

[Redstone]

18. Listen to BiBaby, would you? She knows.

Redstone

[bicentennial_baby]

21. That I do, my friend....

The soul sucking, psyche destroying relationships, I've had a few. I know the territory all to well. :hug:

[Redstone]

25. See the PM that acknowledges that.

Redstone

[mainegreen]

3. You have friends.

What about that other Maine guy who you got to join up. Is he not a friend?

Plus I think the other Mainers here are rather fond of you.
Hell, I'd go drinking with you except that you live in freaking BANGOR! Boston's closer for crying out loud.

Anyways, here's a hug:

:pals:

[Whoa_Nelly]

5. Sent you a PM

:hug:

[Maestro]

8. I hope you feel better soon.

:hug:

[Omphaloskepsis]

12. I will just say...

It shouldn't be this difficult. You two are dating.. Isn't this supposed to be happy fun cute time? Imagine the shit if you two got married.

You are a pretty and well educated woman.. Finding a nice man should be easy.

Edit :: I should add not easy, but not terribly difficult.

[Blue-Jay]

14. Just dump the guy already.

Listen - I'll admit that I really haven't been paying attention to the Lounge-stuff lately, but I've seen several of your posts about this guy. (I probably missed a lot of them too, I'll readily admit that)

That said... It seems to THIS casual observer that you're putting up with more bullshit than you should.

Make a list of Benefits vs Detriments, and reassess your relationship with this dude. (addendum: "He really really loves me" & "It's better than being alone" can be combined to count as ONE Benefit, BTW)

Good luck. Do what's best for you.

[struggle4progress]

15. Stuck inside of Mobile with a sack of rabid wolverines again?

Put on some calm background music, make yourself a nice cup of tea, take a deep breath, and do a good soak in the tub

The wolverines don't like that

[Redstone]

17. You need to be shut of that guy. If you want me to call and tell you why, PM me with

a phone number. You're in a toxic siutation again, kiddo, and you need to get out of it.

Redstone

[Ptah]

19. Does he not like your live video?

:shrug:

[Deja Q]

20. You do have friends here.

Don't let the filthy jerkbags make you think otherwise.

:hug:

[flvegan]

22. I've never understood why decent women stay with men that are worthless.

So many fellas to choose from, pick a winner. Dirtbags are what you take outta the vac and toss in the trash.

[Maddy McCall]

24. Dump him. Quit drinking.

Both seem to cause problems for you.

[Redstone]

26. Four words, in two sentences. And the answers are all there. Maddy, you're

an expert in concision.

Four words. Two sentences. The answers she needs.

I'm impressed.

Redstone

[crim son]

28. Thank you.

I will consider these.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

32. i am going to go with maddy on this. i loveya crimmy but its in your power to pull this together

[GalleryGod]

35. You got it, Lioness. Sage advice, Indeed!

[Pushed To The Left]

29. You have a lot of friends here. I agree with them that this sounds like a very unhealthy situation

that you have been involved in. I was in what turned out to be a very bad relationship for over 7 years and one of the best things to ever happen to me was when she broke things off the way she did. It was painful, but it was also a huge relief. Family and friends saw a positive change in me when that relationship ended. Throughout the 7 years, we were constantly talking about breaking up and going on "breaks". Relationships aren't supposed to be like that. I've only been in my current relationship for about a month and a half, but I can already see how much healthier it is than what I went through before (including that one month "relationship" I had earlier this year)

You deserve to be in a happy, healthy relationship. You shouldn't settle for anything less. :hug:

[Guava Jelly]

30. Your BF is stupid

:hug: hey sweetie :hug:
And you always have a friend here.

[GalleryGod]

37. Beyond stupidity...

[GalleryGod]

33. What Maddy said.

[GalleryGod]

34. And...

The Clock is run-ning

[Pierre.Suave]

38. Stop caring why

and dump his sorry ass.

Seriously.

[IndianaJones]

39. all thats missing are the rings. nt.