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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:06 PM
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My sister said that the majority of USA females hide FOOD from their male housemates! Yes or no?
Edited on Tue Jan-01-08 12:36 PM by Breeze54
:shrug:

I'm not talking about candy!!! I'm talking about real food!! Meals!

I'm looking for the data to back that up and I'm looking for that steak & cheese calzone I bought last night! :grr:

:P

If you can prove it, that what she says is true, please post titles and links, if you're in the mood. ;)
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:08 PM
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1. Why would the majority of females be hiding food?
:shrug:
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fizzgig Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:11 PM
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2. i did with the previous SO
he would polish off a bag of chips, a box of cookies or a pint of ice cream in one sitting. hell, i'd eat half a candy bar and put the rest in the fridge for later and he'd eat that

i also had to hide any alcohol from him for the same reason

one of many reasons i'm glad he's my ex
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:21 PM
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26. Sounds like my house, kagehime!
Thanks for your honesty!
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kath Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:25 PM
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29. I do that, too. With snack-type food, and for the same reason. But not with "meals".
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LaurenG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:11 PM
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3. I have never hidden food from anyone
It seems like a funny thing to do.
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RetroLounge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:12 PM
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4. not to mention controlling...
:hi:

RL
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laylah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:14 PM
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8. Now...now.
What is wrong with wanting to keep a bit o' something for later instead of having it horked up and gone the next time one gets a "hankering" for whatever it was? :shrug: Just askin'
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kath Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:28 PM
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31. RIght - a few months back, when one of the kids made chocolate chip cookies, I divided them up
equally into 4 Ziploc bags. BOY oh boy, did my hubby and one daughter HATE that concept. That's because they usually snarf 'em down so quickly that my other daughter and I (who consume goodies at a more reasonable pace)get very few.
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LaurenG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:15 PM
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10. I'm glad you are home safe and sound.
and yes that would be controlling. :hi:
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:22 PM
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27. It might be 'funny' unless you're hungry and then
it might be survival. ;)
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lost-in-nj Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:12 PM
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5. I used to hide junk food
so it would be there when I wanted it....
Also because he didn't need to know how much I REALLY ate....

but that was long ago, in the beginning of our marriage......


lost

I would like to know if anyone did a study on how much MORE a couples shopping bill came to
when the male S/O went grocery shopping with the wife/gf ???


I know mine went up!!!
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TheFriendlyAnarchist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:29 PM
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19. Ours went down considerably when my Dad and I started going and my mom stopped,
She always wanted to get what looked good at the moment, while we only get what we put on the list before we went.
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:24 PM
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28. That's why people hide it, so it will be there later!
Very good poll question about female vs male shopping! :D

You should run that poll!

I'll bet men buy nothing for their money but spend a lot on it and then there's nothing to eat! ;)
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skygazer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 05:18 PM
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49. That's too much of a generalization
I hate these sexist assumptions that women know how to shop and cook and men eat out of boxes or buy fast food.

I work in a grocery store. There are a huge number of men who shop and you can tell by what they're getting and the questions they ask that they cook. I, on the other hand, would forget to eat for a week and a half if my SO didn't cook like a 5-star chef. He also does all the shopping and believe me, can get more for a buck than I could on my best day. And he's not alone.

I don't cook. I hate to cook. I hate to shop. I could cheerfully live on toasted bagels for the rest of my life.

Christ, its really discouraging that its 2008 and people are still separating men and women into their little pigeonholed gender roles. :banghead:
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laylah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:12 PM
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6. Yup...
anything sweet. Sweets can last me forever but GAWD/DESS forbid they should get older than a few hours around him!
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fizzgig Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:14 PM
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7. he's getting better
he just finished the chocolate orange from last christmas just in time for the one this year
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laylah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:15 PM
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11. oooops honey...
wasn't talking about daddy. :rofl: daddy never was a horker. like you, i could take a bite out of a candybar, put it up in the fridge, and it would be there when i went back for it. sometimes, that would be weeks later! i brung you, your sister, and your dad up right in that area.
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fizzgig Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:17 PM
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12. lol
:rofl:

gotcha
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SOteric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:14 PM
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9. I don't know about hiding food in general,
but I'm not opposed to hiding the high quality, 'spensive chocolate from anyone. Heck, if Jesus came back and was sitting in my living room, I'm not sure I'd volunteer any of the stuff to him. Maybe. But I'm just not sure...
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:20 PM
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25. LOL! Don't tell him or Santa where the good stuff is ever!
Edited on Tue Jan-01-08 01:20 PM by Breeze54
;)

Keep it for yourself! :D
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:21 PM
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13. My dear Breeze54!
I don't recall ever having done that...

One time though...

I'd bought some really yummy macadamia nuts, and I was enjoying them...

I went back to have some more.......and they were GONE!

So, the next time I bought some, I bought some for both of us...

I told him I'd done this, and I told him to stay the hell away from mine!

He did...

But I've never hidden anything from him...

:shrug:
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:26 PM
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16. She was VP of marketing research at
Kraft foods for a while and she said they did studies and that it's true! That women hide food
from the males in the household. She said the studies showed that the men were eating as much
as possible and leaving very little for the females, unless they hid the food.

:shrug:
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:24 PM
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14. hiding as in secretive eating or hiding as in "OMG they'll eat it all!!"
if i know my husband will eat something that my daughter really likes then i'll buy 2 of whatever it is, she likes these wheat pretzels that i can only get at a harry and david type of store so when i buy them i always make sure i get a bag for him.
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:27 PM
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18. hiding as in "OMG they'll eat it all!!"
Exactly! ;)
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:32 PM
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20. ok than, i do not, i just buy 2 of whatever. My niece Nina, she's a real hoot
when i visited them 2 years ago she says "Aunt Kimmy, i want to show you something" ok, so i go with her and she unearths her stash of candy from it's hiding place, she swore me to secrecy.
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:34 PM
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21. So your little niece feels the need to hord food?
I guess candy shouldn't be allowed in the question.

I'm talking about FOOD!!

Not treats!
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:37 PM
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22. she's a chocolate hoarder but i wouldn't put it past her to hide actual food.
my bil is like a bottomless pit.
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Omphaloskepsis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:25 PM
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15. I had a girlfriend that would hide food..
Her parents had fucked her up badly. They used to buy low-fat stuff for her and they would make her eat the low-fat stuff while they ate the normal stuff. They had a cabinet in the kitchen for her. This was really strange because she was about 5'9" and 140 pounds. Her parents were crazy. This resulted in some "body issues".

So she would hide stuff so I wouldn't notice that she had eaten a whole pop-tart. I tried talking to her about this and it never really got anywhere.
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:27 PM
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17. Not in this household, but we have a gay friend that does from his SO does that count?
situational data seems clear. He has ballooned in the time they've been together. True, he wasn't a little guy to begin with, still; hubby & I routinely split food plates often taking some home in a box, while he will eat huge plates of food down to mopping up with bread, etc, so that things are known. In addition...

Quite often when calling into the household, and he doesn't have students, he'll be cooking/wrapping sushi and so on; while his SO is at work, who remains slim...slimmer.

Hope you find your calzone, they can be good :9
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 12:46 PM
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23. Nope. I'm married to an adult and I don't treat him like a child.
Everything in the house is his, too.
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:18 PM
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24. It's not about treating him like a child. It's about him eating all the food!
Edited on Tue Jan-01-08 01:18 PM by Breeze54
To the point that you aren't getting enough and so, you or another female

may take to hiding food for herself. Not an attack on males. It's really a behavioral question.

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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:27 PM
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30. He helps buy the food. He can eat anything he wants,
and so can I. And so can Ginger (within the dietary limitations of a cat diagnosed with colitis and feline urinary dysfunction). :shrug:

I don't think this is a gender behavior thing. I've known plenty of women who stash food because of their own issues rather than any genuine external threat of starvation. :shrug:
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:31 PM
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32. OK but that is the question.
;)

"I don't think this is a gender behavior thing."

But is it? :shrug:

Maybe you don't hide food but other females may be doing that and not even realize what they're doing. :shrug:
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:53 PM
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35. Here's my answer. No, I don't think this is a gender thing.
Edited on Tue Jan-01-08 01:56 PM by Heidi
I think it's a control thing. Whether that need for control is rational or irrational would, I suppose, depend on the individuals and circumstances involved. In our case, there's no control needed. If I buy something that I don't want CMW to eat, like Philadelphia Cream Cheese that I'm going to use in a recipe, I do him the courtesy of explaining that, and he does me the courtesy of leaving it alone in the fridge. :hi:
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 02:16 PM
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37. Is CMW older than 19?
:P

Because that's the problem! :rofl:

I guess he's still growing and I don't mean fatter! He actually seems
a lot taller lately and the ass in his jeans is baggier...again! :rofl:

And he's eating ALL my cream cheese and pepperoni and anything else he can find! :P
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Radical Activist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 03:32 PM
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44. It sounds like a passive agressive thing.
I wouldn't want to be in the kind of relationship where a woman felt like she had to hide food instead of just being up front and asking me not to eat something she wants or buying more food. Weird.
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pink-o Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:33 PM
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33. The only food I ever hid from boyfriends and ex-husband
was bananas. Sounds strange, but I love my bananas ripe, with brown spots on 'em so they're at their sweetest. Most people eat them up before they're ready, so there aren't any left unless I put away a stash for myself.

Well, I guess that's not technically "hiding" but I did get to sticking them in the back of the cupboard when SO would eat them even though I'd ask him not to!
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 02:18 PM
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38. They are sweeter when they are browner but that
is hiding food! :P I guess she really didn't tell me the degree
or what kind of foods but I got the drift she meant main meals.

Thanks! :hug:



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Flaxbee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:48 PM
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34. I'd never hide 'real' food, but if I'm going to be baking, and I want any nuts
to put into the banana bread, or cookies, or whatever, I HAVE to hide them. My husband doesn't have a switch-off mechanism when it comes to nuts - he will eat the entire bag of walnuts, or pecans, and peanuts do not stand a chance to survive more than 10 minutes in our house.

He'll eat in moderation with anything else, but nuts? He has a very hard time resisting, and I like to use them when baking. So I have to be a bit devious.
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 02:24 PM
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39. Want to hear something funny?
Yesterday the store had a half off sale on M&M's etc and my son bought 4 bags of candy! :crazy:
And as he's unloading the bag, he tells me he picked up "food" but it was mostly candy and a gal.
of milk and some meat! :P Then he's looking for a place to put all that candy, so I told him to
use the big white bowl and so he does but then? He finds the lid to it and covers the candy!!
I said; "Who are you hiding the candy from? I mean it's not like I'm standing here and watching
you put it away or anything!" :sarcasm: :P He laughs! I mean there's only the two of us, so did
he think I wouldn't know where he 'stashed' it? :rofl: :shrug:
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 01:56 PM
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36. I don't hide food.
I like cooking, and I make things with the expectation that somebody will eat them.
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 02:26 PM
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40. I do the same all the time but
it's all the other stuff, i guess it's the 'good stuff' thats disappearing before I even get it out of the grocery bag! :P
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 02:31 PM
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41. I have to hide it from the kids, or me and the SO don't have a chance.
I've honestly thought about buying a kitchen safe. I still may.
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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 02:36 PM
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42. Or a chain with a lock If it's really that bad.
My parents never had junk food in the house when we were small but they'd go apple picking
and put these wooden crates full of apples in the back hall to keep them cool and we could
eat and sneak as many as we wanted to! :D We did have homemade cakes and pies and breads etc.
but with 9 people at the table, that was gone in a heartbeat! ;) Never any soda either. :(
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 03:15 PM
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43. That sounds like the way I was raised.
Mom made virtually everything from scratch and there were no sweet cereals, or crackers or chips or even canned soups, etc.

I like the lock idea. I'm trying to sell this house and so won't be putting a lock on anything, but for the next house, that's a great plan, a seriously great plan, Breeze54!
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 03:59 PM
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45. Yeah, sometimes. Either out of guilt or just plain not wanting to share.
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mentalsolstice Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 04:48 PM
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46. I don't hide food
...but I may hide evidence of something I've eaten. Does that make sense? Every now and then my husband will complain about food (usually leftovers) simply disappearing, and he can't believe I ATE the whole thing, and then I become ashamed.
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 04:52 PM
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47. i believe that
from my experience at least food would disappear

:shrug:
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Fleshdancer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 05:11 PM
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48. I had no idea people did this
I've never done it and I never will. :shrug:
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1monster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 05:24 PM
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50. Hide food from the males in my house? Like yeah, where? I have a teenager.
He can sniff out food at 200 yards!

And a handicapped stepson who can sniff out desserts at 2000 yards!


I have tried hiding food (for packed lunches) from them, but it doesn't work.

I thought maybe the fire safe I have for important documents would be a great place, but nooo! It wasn't. :evilgrin:
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Gonzo Gardener Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 05:51 PM
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51. I lived in a house with a married couple...
The Mrs. hid cases of tuna in her closet. She also, prayed earnestly to her God, out loud, asking that He deliver John Denver to her doorstep along with a few million in cash. Strange times...
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pitohui Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 06:25 PM
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52. i've hidden food
Edited on Tue Jan-01-08 06:26 PM by pitohui
not to be mean but if i have a meal planned for both of us using the food, then i don't want it to disappear as one person's late afternoon snack

my husband will not do a search and discovery mission so shoving the food behind something else is usually good enough to hide it

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Sultana Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-01-08 06:57 PM
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53. Bizarre behavior
:wtf:
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