So I had 87 dvds and my camcorder stolen and pawned....

[Wetzelbill]

by somebody close to me. It's taken me almost a damn month of going through the police to the pawn shop and back and forth, but I am finally cleared to redeem all of my stuff back without having to pay extra fees or anything. Still it's 250 bucks, which will be a substantial hit for me, but I can get it back. I am relieved in a way, but it angers me that I veritably have to pay for my own stuff again. Well, I am getting some of it offset by the person, but I doubt I'll get all of it paid back.

I hope now I can let the anger go though. For almost two months I've been feeling like I'm about to pop, because that was when I found out about the camcorder. I was mad enough already and then a month later I found out about the dvds.

It's hard to wake up and wonder what is going to be missing next? Hard to wake up and watch somebody close to you destroy themselves with drugs. He nearly made me homeless a few times from stealing money etc. Nearly got our lights shut off a few times. Our phone. I had to get our cable turned off. Switch to dial-up.

I had to kick him out though. It was killing me. I feel like I've gotten old just in the last month. Gray hairs have begun to pop up. I just don't feel good at all.

But I think today marks a change. I hope so. Now maybe I can move on. I just want to get my property back and start putting my financial stuff back in order.

The stress is not nearly as bad as it was, that's for sure.

[LynzM]

1. Oh dude, that sucks.

I have a friend who's been going through this with her brother - he's back on the drugs and back to stealing stuff from her. :( I feel for you. I'm glad you've made some positive steps, and hope that your friend can get some help for the addiction. :hug:

[Wetzelbill]

3. yeah it's my brother too

I typically don't mention it right off. I usually just say "somebody I know" or something like that. :)

[LynzM]

16. I'm sorry to hear that, Wetzelbill

:hug: I think it's extra-hard with family members, because you feel a deeper sense of obligation and care for them in many cases, which makes it that much harder to take care of yourself and your needs.

[Rambis]

2. wow

:hug: Tough go-

[Wetzelbill]

4. yes thank you

I appreciate it. :)

[malta blue]

5. That's awful. I am so sorry.

Please forgive my ignorance, but if you have had the police involved, and the pawn shop knows it was stolen, why on earth would you have to pay anything?

:hug:

[Wetzelbill]

11. to do that I would have to take the person

to court, file charges and have him pay for it etc. But he's my brother and it would be hard on my parents if I did that. I just sent him back to our home state, and worked with the police and the pawn shop so I could at least get them back myself. And my parents are making sure he at least pays for some of it.

[NewJeffCT]

6. sorry to hear that

sucks even worse when it's somebody close to you.

[bicentennial_baby]

7. Awww, sweetie....that's terrible

:hug:

[Left Is Write]

8. I'm really sorry.

:(

[sakabatou]

9. I don't condone violence but

if you see him again, kick him in the balls.

:evilgrin:

[Wetzelbill]

13. that almost happened

the morning he left we about go into a fistfight in my apartment. We got into a bit of an altercation and my neighbor called the police. But he's an MMA fighter and I'm a former internationally competitive wrestler, plus I've boxed in smokers. If we really got into it bad it would be ugly, most likely for me. He's bigger and younger, I'm way past my prime, haha. I was worried his next step would be getting violent, I would literally have to fight for my life if he went off like that. He had a pro fight where he knocked out a pro kickboxer, so I'd probably be in some trouble then. :)

[helderheid]

10. damn, that sucks

sorry!

[Rabrrrrrr]

12. That's awful! Sorry you had to go through it. Addictions have awful effects on people,

and turn them into real behavioral shitpiles.

I hope some day he realizes where he is, and goes for treatment and kicks the habit.

In the meantime, it's good that you kicked him out.

Sending you many good vibes to get over the betrayal and pain in the ass of having to go pay for your own stuff to get it back.

[Bullwinkle925]

14. aww jeez . . .

i hate to hear this kind of stuff.

i feel for you. i'm sure losing your property and then having to fork over $$ to get it back is surely an awful thing to go through . . .

but i'm sure that the *trust* factor you may have had with that particular individual and the fact that it has been irrevocably broken is an even more difficult thing to deal with.


all i can say is . . . .


:hug: and, take care!

[Gormy Cuss]

15. I am so sorry, Wetzelbill.

I hope that your brother can straighten out soon.

[Westegg]

17. "Tough Love"-- and you did that. Good for you...

...I'm not saying "tough love" is always the way? But it sometimes is the best way to deal with addicts, and when it comes to literally stealing from your own sister, then yeah, that sister kicking that brother out is okay, in my book. You know you can't change him/fix him/sober him yourself. Only he can do that. What can family members do? Tough love, intervention, Al-Anon, etc. I feel for you, Wetzelbill, I really do. Please remember what you posted: "I think today marks a change...Now maybe I can move on...The stress is not nearly as bad as it was..." Remember what you wrote here when things threaten to get bad again. That DOESN'T have to happen again.

Good luck to you.