Married DUers: Do you wear your ring?

[KansDem]

Last year I ran into someone I hadn't seen since high school. We chatted and she asked me if I was married, looking at my left hand at the same time. I don't wear my ring (haven't since my wife and I got home from our honeymoon), and I wondered afterward if she might have thought I was "looking to stray." I have had coworkers in previous jobs (mostly women) who have registered disdain when they discovered I'm married but do not wear a ring. They thought I was "on the prowl." I'm not! I've been faithful to my wife of 20 years but I just don't like adornment on my fingers (plus, I almost lost it on our honeymoon).

Really!

How does the DU feel about this?

On edit: If you vote "Other" please explain...

[Dora]

1. I lost my ring two months ago.

#$*%&@ mayonnaise.

:cry:

[KansDem]

3. Sorry to hear that.

I almost lost mine on our honeymoon. I was attempting to parallel park and was "palming" the steering wheel rather quickly, rotating it clockwise. My ring was too large and we were going to have it resized when we got back home. Anyway, I stopped my hand abruptly (in the 9 o'clock position) and the ring flew off and nearly out the car window. I was lucky--if it had gone out the window it would have rolled to who knows where since we were on a steep hill. Whew...!

edited for spelling

[mulsh]

2. I wear my ring but

when I worked as a cook and in a warehouse and even when I worked in a forensic laboratory I would not wear any jewelry. too many things to go wrong too many situations that will ruin jewelry. I take my ring off if I'm doing yard work or wrenching on my bike.
My dad lost his wedding ring and college ring, mom replaced both of them twice before she gave up. my parents were married for 45 years , I don't think the ring was a big issue.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

4. My dear KansDem!

I always wear mine...

Unless I'm going in for surgery or some such, and then they want you to remove all your jewelry...

Otherwise, it's always on!

I couldn't get my husband to wear one...sigh...

You know ...his dad didn't, and mine did...

42 years, though, and he's never strayed...

[SPKrazy]

5. I always wore mine until a year and a half ago

my wife had stopped wearing hers for whatever reason long before that.

Now we're separated and I don't even have my ring as it must be at the house with her.

[Greyskye]

6. I wear it unless I'm giving a massage

Metal vs. skin: metal wins.

[texas1928]

7. I have not been able to since my last surgery when I lost my .leg.

The IVs they gave me tore up my veins, and my hand swells sometimes and my ring digs into my finger. So I had to stop wearing it. My wife still wears hers. But I can not wear mine. I am thinking about getting a chain and putting my ring on that.

[Fleshdancer]

8. I'll wear it for a few weeks, take it off for a few weeks, rinse, repeat.

I'm wearing it right now, but after a while it starts to bother me so I take it off for a few weeks. I'm just not a jewelry person.

[SacredCow]

9. I wore one when I was married...

and I still have the dent in my flesh from the 8 years of having it on.

As far as your question goes, though- if they're jumping to conclusions about you because you're not wearing a band, then they have the problem.

[noamnety]

10. Other.

The engagement ring sticks out and gets caught on things, and the wedding ring looks wrong without the notchy part fitting into it. So I don't wear my "wedding" ring. I wear a 3 dollar plain silver ring I bought at big lots, instead. :)

[trof]

11. Other: Sometimes.

I don't wear any jewelry around the house. Not even a watch.
When I'm going somewhere I do.

[Mrs.Matcom]

Me too.

Wear it to work or for going out, but I take all my jewelry of when I get home. Matt's is tattooed onto his finger! BWHAHAHAHA! no, he wears his almost all the time.

[JanMichael]

12. Other

both wear ours

[kentauros]

13. When I was married, I didn't wear a ring, nor own one.

I think I may have a phobia about wearing them (bothers the hell out of me since I don't like the idea of it not coming off or possibily cutting off circulation.) My wife understood so she was the only one that wore a ring :)

[unpossibles]

14. I usually wear it

but I sometimes don't. My wife is the same. We both work with our hands sometimes, and sometimes just don't feel like it. I've gotten that reaction too, and I usually tell them it's easier to get laid wearing the ring. Usually shuts them up.

[seemunkee]

15. I would take it off for rock climbing

It's a major ouch if you fall and snag it.

[mikeytherat]

16. I rarely wear mine, but I also don't like wearing jewelry.

I do wear my Medic Alert bracelet all the time, of course.

Mrs. Rat (aka bonecrusher) wears hers now, though when she did lab work (research biology) she did not.

mikey_the_rat

[KansDem]

18. I've got a "Medic Alert" bracelet, too...

I wear it all the time but nothing else except a watch. Don't like adornment on my fingers.

[Redstone]

17. I've never been able to stand wearing jewelry of any kind.

Redstone

[Xipe Totec]

19. Lost it (nt)

[cloudbase]

20. I wear mine,

but take it off if there's a chance of it becoming a hazard, like working on machinery or electrical stuff.

[NewJeffCT]

21. I wear mine all the time - and I notice that women often look

at my hand to see if there is a wedding ring there. I didn't realize what they were doing at first until one day, I had an early doctor's appointment and went into the office as the first customer. The assistant there was all perky and chatty and seemed very happy to see me (I guess I looked good that day, since I was going into work right after and was probably business casual) - so, I took off my coat and hung it up and she handed me some forms. I reached up with my left hand to take them and I saw that she looked at my left hand and it was literally like Superman being exposed to Kryptonite. You could almost see the color drain out of her face... and, she went from being perky and happy to being cool & formal. I realized it was The Ring.

Ever since then, I've noticed when a woman looks down, they're probably looking for a ring.

[trof]

22. Or they're checking your 'package'.

;-)

[NewJeffCT]

24. Maybe, but

it's usually a glance to my left side.

[sakabatou]

23. As soon as I get hitched I'll wear it

[JustABozoOnThisBus]

25. Guy here. I wear it so not as many chicks will hit on me.

It gets old being treated as a sex object by all those babes.













as if ...
:rofl:

[lost-in-nj]

26. I wear mine

even though we are seperated.....

tried to take it off..... didn't work
when you have worn something for 30 years its hard to get rid of.....

but when things are finalized I have a ring I bought in Fl to put there...


lost

[theredpen]

27. No ring to wear

I don't own any jewelry.

[poisonivy]

28. My ring only

leaves my hand when I have surgery, I also wear a black onyx/diamond ring that my girls got me for Christmas.

[I Have A Dream]

29. I wear my ring, and I'm a woman. My husband wears his also.

This is my second marriage. My first husband didn't wear his ring because of the work that he did, so I didn't wear mine either. If my current husband were to stop wearing his, I might also. (I'm not really a jewelry person.)

[Deep13]

30. Neither my wife nor I wear one.

Instead we just dress alike.

[trackfan]

31. Other: neither of us have rings

[AlCzervik]

32. sometimes, it all depends on what i'm doing on any given day.

[BarenakedLady]

33. I haven't been.

[hippywife]

34. I always wear mine even during surgery.

They want you to take it off but I make them tape it and it stays on. No problems. Took me 38 years to get it and I ain't ever parting with it. :hi:

[RetroLounge]

35. I took my ring off when it lost all meaning...

and that's all I'll say about that.

RL

[Dastard Stepchild]

36. We have matching tattoos on our ring fingers

So it's pretty tough to be without our matrimonial markings. :)

[Book Lover]

37. Other

Who can afford a ring? Besides, I know that I'm married; I don't need a physical reminder. The lightness of my heart reminds me :-)

[mainegreen]

38. Always wear it. It's fun to spin on my finger.

My knuckles are large, so it's not likely to fall off.

[femmocrat]

39. Married. No rings.

I just like to confuse my students! LOL

[hunter]

40. Mine doesn't even come off any more.

Since metal doesn't shrink must be my knucle that expanded.

Last time my ring was off was when I told that to my wife -- she used baby oil and almost yanked my finger off, but she did succeed. Hah! We put it back on quick before the knuckle got any bigger.

I'd be pleased to be fossilized wearing it. If someone digs my bones up a million years from now I hope they enjoy the ring.

[Aristus]

41. I'm wearing it right now. See?:

[rug]

42. Not only do I wear my ring, but my wife's signature is tattooed on my right cheek.

[lizziegrace]

43. Wore mine all the time 'til

the day I found out what my then-husband was doing, I put them in my jewelry box and they've been there since.

[GreenPartyVoter]

44. I "outgrew" it several pounds back :^(

[Generic Brad]

51. How'd you get it off?

I had to wrap my ring finger in dental floss, work one end between my ring and my finger, then I did the slow painful unwind.

No ring anymore, but very much solidly married.

[GreenPartyVoter]

54. actually I got into the habit of not wearing it very early on. The first week we were married

I woke up in the middle of the night and found myself slipping the ring off. My fingers had swelled up while I was sleeping. If I had taken it off while asleep who knows where it might have ended up? So I stopped wearing it at bedtime right from the get-go, and as I got heavier I eventually decided I couldn't deal with the pain of it being swollen anymore (even in the daytime) and put it away in my jewelry box. :(

It's too bad, too, because it is a gorgeous hand crafted ring. Aside from the two hubby and I have there is only one more out there like it.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

45. If you had this, wouldn't you wear it?

[BrotherBuzz]

46. I don't wear rings

My wife does, though. I found her wedding band on a dig in a 19th century wooden sewer line. It was black and everyone assumed it was a curtain ring, or something. I knew otherwise and chipped off a hundred years or crud to discover a very pleasant pristine gold band that fit my wife's finger. She was leary of wearing it initially, but soon got over it when I explained it was found in the hotel laundry/seamstress line; it was simply lost, and not thrown away in anger. I also found many coins, thimbles, sewing needles, and pounds of brass straight pins in that area.

[Maine-ah]

47. I wear my ring.

Hubby's was a little loose, but he felt the next 1/2 size down was to tight. Ended up losing it when he went fishing. That was a couple of years ago. We plan on getting him another ring, but we just don't have the funds for it right now. :(

[sniffa]

48. Yes. But not when I'm out at the clubs.

[Midlodemocrat]

68. Same here. Gets in the way.

[madeline_con]

49. Other.

You do'nt like adornment on your fingers?

It's just a little plain ring, right?

[KansDem]

50. Actually, it's rather thick and wide

It's rather a nice ring. And "yes," I don't like adornment on my fingers...

[Godhumor]

52. I do; my wife doesn't

A wedding band is not a big thing in her culture--they have them, but they don't necessarily wear them.

[av8rdave]

53. I do

[Mugu]

55. I wear no jewelry of any kind at anytime and never have. n/t

[no name no slogan]

56. During my marriage, I wore my ring

The only time I took it off was to sleep and to shower. Otherwise, I wore it nearly every second after it went on my finger.

The day after my ex-wife told me she was leaving, I didn't put my ring on after I got out of the shower, and it hasn't gone back on since (nearly three years now).

[rurallib]

57. Darn near lost a finger at work

so my ring is on my keychain where that can never happen.

[yellowdogintexas]

58. I can't sleep in my rings at all, my hands swell at night. I could not wear my

wedding ring for many years due to weight gain but now have lost enough I can wear it again. I wear it when I am not going to be keyboarding a lot..so mostly when I am dressed up.

It is a very wide ring so no air gets under it. But it is a pretty ring

[MrSlayer]

59. No.

I don't wear jewelry. I'll wear it for banquets and funerals and weddings and shit but that's it. Having it on drives me nuts.

[bumblebee1]

60. It depends on what job I'm doing.

If I work on the loading dock, I don't wear my wedding or engagement ring. If procession credit for customers, I do wear my rings. The rings are also removed while I do housework.

[Broken_Hero]

61. I wear my ring almost all the time, and I'm a male, nt

[Pacifist Patriot]

62. Other: I'm a strange creature of habit.

I cannot abide the feel of rings on my fingers when I am in my home. It bugs the daylights out of me. First thing I do when I get home is head straight for my jewelry box to remove it as well as all other jewelry.

But the minute I cross the threshhold to go out in public I can instantly feel its absence if I've forgotten to put it on and have to turn around and go get it. Same thing with my watch, but I waltz out without earrings constantly and then feel naked without them later.

Bizzare, I know.

I think it started with all the hand washing when my first born was a newborn. The skin under my ring got really chafed. I don't remember doing this before that. Psychologists, go ahead and have a field day with this one.

[mwooldri]

63. They can prise my ring off my cold dead body.

My ring stays ON. All the time, every time. I haven't had any surgical procedures that warrant its removal yet.

I didn't like wearing the ring at first but give it a month or two then you don't notice it is there.

Mark.

[Common Sense Party]

69. Me, too. I never take it off. n/t

[Mythsaje]

64. We bought me a nice sterling silver ring

which I lost about a week after we got it.

I don't wear rings. I lose them.

And I'm definitely not "on the prowl."

:shrug:

[PVnRT]

65. Unless I'm hitting on chicks at the bar, yes, I wear it

[sarge43]

66. Another reason people may not wear rings of any kind.

Repairing or working with electronic/mechanical equipment. A nasty way to lose a finger, hooks on moving machinery and gold is an excellent conductor of electricity.

My father was an electrician and my husband, a mechanic. Neither ever wore a wedding ring and neither ever 'wandered'.

[Jimbo S]

67. I don't wear my ring during the work week.

Too dangerous.

I put it on during the weekend.

[NewWaveChick1981]

70. I wear mine, and my husband wears his.

:)

[catmandu57]

71. I lost the first one

It was too large, we went swimming one day I had it when we got in the lake not when we came out. The new one is a size smaller and won't go over my knuckle, it will spin on my finger but that's it, so it's always on.