Today's Dating Question!

[Bennyboy]

Sunday I went to a Super Bowl party at a friends house. My friend's sister (Anne)comes over to watch a little of the game. She is incredibly beautiful and we talk for while. We have a lot in common (except she was showing off her new Eagles CD---YEACH!)including age, and got along well. Before the game was over she had to leave to pick up her daughter (21)and left before I could ask her out.(I am really shy in that type of situation).

As there were a few men in our age group at the party, the second she left the talk turned to Anne. Dave told us all about her and her soap opera type past. Seems she has been really really really screwed over by every man she has ever been with. The one thing he says is she is single and "and no man can deal with her" according to my friend.

Of course, that does nothng to deter me. I love the challenge and am completely opposite of the type of man she has been with before as far as the way I treat the ladies in my life.

As all the other men were there, I felt a bit uncomfortable asking Dave for her number at the party. I didn't know if I was going to ask him for her number later anyway, that kind of puts pressure on him and was not sure of that either.

He did let it out where she works and thought maybe I could go there and show up as she went to lunch and ask her out for lunch or even after work. This method has worked in the past. Big Matzoball.

Then this morning he sends me an email that originated from her work email account. So now I have her email addy. As I did not get the email directly from her, it seems kind of weird to send her an email asking her out.

So, my question is: Do I ask Dave for her number? Do I go to her work and wait till she comes out and ask her out? Send her an email asking her out?


I don't hang out in bars and don't get much chance to meet many women, but Anne seems like someone that I would like to see some more. As I am fairly new to the dating scene I am not sure what to do. HELP ME, PLEASE, WISE SAGES OF DU!

[SteppingRazor]

1. You ask Dave -- and be quick about it.

E-mails have no tone to them. You can't get your voice across, and meanings can be confused. Jokes can be taken seriously, and whatnot (how often have you seen a post here saying something to the effect of: "I think the OP isn't being serious. He's just joking.)

Showing up at her work is stalker-ish. Especially if she has bad previous experiences with men, this is your worst option.

Get her number from Dave. Then call her right afterward, because it's already been a few days since the Super Bowl, and you want to get her on the horn before she forgets about you.

[mzteris]

2. ask for the number

- just showing up seems like stalking and emailing when she knows she didn't give it to her would make her suspicious, too.

Ask for the number and call. Tell her Dave gave it to you. Or did Dave GIVE you her email addy or was it just part of a "group send" thing. If he GAVE it to you, then you could email her and start by saying so.

[Bennyboy]

3. IT was a group send thing.....

[dembotoz]

10. hey mzteris

how have you been?

Haven't seen you posting much lately, I was getting concerned

[mzteris]

14. hiya!

:hi:

I've been -um - busy with my new friend. :blush:

[Fleshdancer]

4. I vote for getting the number from Dave

It just seems easier and straight forward that way. Plus if it works out, Dave can incorrectly brag that he set the two of you up. :)

[Phillycat]

5. Honestly? Run in the opposite direction.

If all the men in her life treat her like shit, it's because she's choosing those men. We can all make a big mistake once or twice, but a pattern is a pattern of one's own choosing. She's not interested in being treated well.

Also, you saying you "like a challenge" doesn't really inspire a lot of confidence in your emotional maturity and health either, to be frank.

[Bennyboy]

6. Thanks for the psycological profile....

But if I ran away from every woman that had baggage at my age, I would be single for the rest of my life.

[DS1]

7. buy her dinner then take her to Anal Point

It's what all the kids are doing

[Fire Walk With Me]

8. You lost me in the first sentence. "Super Bowl".

Whatever problem you are experiencing, this may have something to do with it.

[MrScorpio]

9. Tell Dave to ask her if she'd like her number given to you

Make sure that he tells her that you like her and you think she's cute, plus you'd like to go out with her


Women LOVE an option, you'll seem cool if you give her one.

[Bennyboy]

11. Yeah I was thinking that myself

[Orsino]

12. Do not use her work account!

Forget you ever saw that address, in fact, unless you are absolutely sure that she uses it for personal correspondence, and would welcome unsolicited contact.

Coolest of all might be to meet her again via the family connection, and offer your own e-mail address or phone number--or ask that a friend forward that to her.

[Beer Snob-50]

13. gotta agree get the number

hanging out at the office for her to leave is very stalkerish.

[Raven]

15. Get her number and don't hang around her workplace...Yikes!