geniph
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Fri Feb-13-04 02:00 PM
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A question for those of you who've lost your mates |
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My husband is working on a major remodel for a client whose partner died in December. The client invited me to come see the work John's done on his house today. I'd sort of like to take him some flowers, as this will be his first Valentine's Day without his partner (they were together for something like 20 years). My question to you is, do you think that would be too painful for him? or would that be a nice remembrance?
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Fri Feb-13-04 02:04 PM
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Edited on Fri Feb-13-04 02:28 PM by Insider
to ME, a nice arrangement. as long as it wasn't a single flower, or roses...
edit: apologies. i have NOT lost a mate. just chimed in.
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Fri Feb-13-04 02:08 PM
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2. It's a good thing you said that |
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because a single rose is what I had in mind! Yikes, I guess that could remind him of both his loss and his singleness.
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Fri Feb-13-04 02:13 PM
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4. I wouldn't want it done for me |
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My husband passed in Oct last year. I still lose it (my composure) if someone brings it up or reminds me that he's gone
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Fri Feb-13-04 02:24 PM
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8. My deepest condolences... |
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I am so sorry to read of your loss.
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Fri Feb-13-04 02:53 PM
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9. I am so sorry for your loss |
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and the losses of the others here. May time ease your pain.
:hug: if I may.
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Fri Feb-13-04 02:13 PM
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3. I would take a nice arrangement |
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but not roses. And definately not a single rose. :-)
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Fri Feb-13-04 02:14 PM
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5. I think that would be a nice gesture. |
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Fri Feb-13-04 02:14 PM
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6. you could invite him for dinner |
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It might be nice to not have to spend the first anniversary alone. Of course, it might be more painful to spend it with a "couple."
From my experience, any act of kindness is appreciated. And if you can figure out what the widower would actually like, so much the better.
Your heart is certainly in the right place.
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Fri Feb-13-04 02:19 PM
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7. Dinner? Flowers? Nearly anything will be fine... |
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____________________ >>From my experience, any act of kindness is appreciated. And if you >>can figure out what the widower would actually like, so much the >>better.
>>Your heart is certainly in the right place. ____________________
I second that... It's the thought, they always say. Be natural, be sympathetic, and treat him like he's made of flesh and bones, not glass.
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