OK....What do you do?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

When someone you used to be friends with has you on ignore...

And you can't talk to them?

You can't PM them...

And if you go in their threads, they won't see you?

Of course, they have a perfect right to do it...

But...

What do you do?

:cry:

I wish I knew, I really do...

[greenbriar]

1. who in the world would put you on ignore

you are the most supportive friendly person here

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. My dear greenbriar...

I can't say...

But someone does...

Someone's mad at me...

You can't please everyone, and that's it...

Thanks, sweetie...

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

2. Aw, Peggy.

I'm sorry to hear that.

I don't know what I'd do. I'd feel sad and hurt though, if I had no idea why.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

6. My dear SeattleGirl...

Actually, I do know why...

But yeah, it hurts...

Thanks...:hug:

[Robb]

3. Compose your message

PM a friend, have them PM said user. :)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

7. My dear Robb...

Yeah, that's a thought...

I hate to put any friend of mine in a position like that, though...

It might be awkward for my friend...

Thanks...:hug:

[greenbriar]

15. I would help you if you wished

just pm me

[CaliforniaPeggy]

22. That's really sweet of you...

But I think it would be better if I asked someone who already knows both me and the person who is ignoring me...

:hug:

[Inchworm]

18. I'd do it for you

if you wanted. I live awkwardly anyhow :D

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

23. Thank you, my dear Inchworm...

But I think it would be better to ask someone who knows both of us...

:hug:

[Inchworm]

26. You're probably right

hmm..

or someone who knows neither of you..

Good luck either way :)

:hug:

[Robb]

21. Lookit that

...Everyone and their dog (that's me) offering to help. :)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

25. My dear Robb!

You never know how many friends you really have till you're in trouble, do you?

Thanks, sweetie...

I think it would be better if I asked someone who knows both of us...

And you are no dog!

:hug:

[LeftyFingerPop]

4. Jesus!!

Who the heck would ignore you?

This place drives me nuts sometimes...people overuse ignore.

If you really need to talk to this person, maybe you can consider typing something up and having a friend send it...but I don't know if that is frowned upon or not.

Anyway Peggy...:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

8. My dear philboy...

I've done that for two of my friends who were in a fight...

And it worked...

Thanks, sweetie...:hug:

[Lethe]

9. how do you know if someone has you on ignore or not?

sorry it's a little off topic but i am curious

[CaliforniaPeggy]

11. My dear ikhor...

No worries!

I can certainly tell you!

If you try to PM the person, and you can't...

Then you know...

[struggle4progress]

28. Not necessarily true CalPeg:

There's a radio button
Allow other registered users to send you private messages?
in
Home » Discuss » User Options » Preferences

[CaliforniaPeggy]

31. Ah! I didn't know that...

Learn something every day!

Thanks...

[The Straight Story]

10. If they have YOU on ignore, I will put them on ignore

cause that is just plain wrong :)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

13. My dear Straight Story!

No, you will not, sweetie...

First off, you don't know who it is, and I won't tell you!

And even if you did know, that's just not right...

I haven't ever seen you interact with this person, anyway...

Thank you, though...:hug:

[The Straight Story]

17. Well if I have not interacted with them, they might be on my list

only have two people on there, and I will never remove them. Which might explain why you never see me interacting with em :)

can you tell me the first letter of their name on here :)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

20. I'll PM you...give me a moment...

[ceile]

12. Miss Peg....

If someone has you on "ignore"----they do not appreciate you like we do. Don't fret, luv!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

14. My dear ceile...

That's probably true...

But we used to be friends, and I hate like anything to lose one...

You are a sweetheart!

:hug:

[ceile]

27. But....Miss Peg

We all have "fall outs" now and then....I hope it works out, but really don't worry! And - if someone treats you poorly...well, you've got the entire Lounge behind ya! We're protective of the regulars!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

34. Thank you, my dear Ceile...

Your support means so much... :hug:

[Critters2]

16. Someone has YOU on ignore?!!!!

Oh, man! That makes my brain hurt!!

Honestly, when someone has me on ignore, I'm usually as angry with them as they are with me. At least at first. So, I don't mind. I've never, to my knowledge, been put on ignore by someone who bothered me by doing it.

All of which is a long way of saying...'fraid I can't help ya.

But still...someone has you on ignore? Well, I can die now. I've seen everything.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

19. My dear mycritters2!

Yup...'fraid so...

It makes my brain hurt too...

x(

[leeroysphitz]

24. Me personally? I just remember the magic cat picture.

And I'm not being a smart ass. (this time!)

Online friends can be very dear but your dearest virtual friend is still a "virtual" friend.

JMO. Good Luck Peggy.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

29. My dear leeroysphits!

Ah...but this person was sort of a RL friend too...

We did chat once...

But, still, your points are well taken...

Thanks for the LOLcat!

:hug:

[Robeson]

30. Then, I would have to ask the question Peg, "Did they really think...

...of YOU as a friend?" I don't know the details, and don't mean to be presumptive. But were they the friend to you, that you were to them? :shrug: And if they were, how could that "friend" put you on ignore...:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

32. My dear Robeson...

Well, I thought we were...

We used to chat amicably...

I don't know...

And you may presume all you wish, sweetie...

You have a very good and honorable heart... :hug:

[Ptah]

33. I would forget them.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

35. My dear Ptah...

You're probably right...

But it's hard...

Thank you, sweetie...:hug:

[Ptah]

36. There are some people that will never fit into my community.

:hug:

[HamstersFromHell]

37. Give it time

People often do things in haste or a moment of anger that they later regret.

Dollars to doughnuts they'll come around in a bit.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

38. My dear HamstersFromHell...

I have...it's been over a year...


Great username, BTW!


Thank you...

:hug:

[HamstersFromHell]

41. As Dangerously says below...

it's their loss.

You didn't put them on ignore, they made that choice, and it may be what they feel as somehow right. They may also have forgotten you're even on the list!

Life's way too short to be taken seriously. Folks accept me as I am, and I do likewise and we're gonna get along fine. We can civilly agree to disagree, or we can do molotov cocktails at 5 paces...their choice. Either way I'm gonna enjoy myself.

And remember....friends help you move. Real friends help you move bodies. :crazy:

And thank you kindly for the comment on my name. I just chose it to reflect as I am in real life...maybe not what you expected.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

42. Real friends help you move bodies!

I love it, lol!

Thank you...

:hug:

[Dangerously Amused]

39. What do *I* do?

Heh. Shrug and/or laugh, and let it go. Their loss.

I remember someone saying, long ago, that out of every ten people you met in life, five will like you, three will be indifferent and two will think you're a bum. And you can't alter the formula, because if you change your behavior to win over the 20% who don't like you, then some of the ones who already like you will think you are selling out (and you are, really), and decide you're not so cool after all, etc. etc.

Better just to accept the fact that no matter what you do or how hard you try, there are always going to be some people in life who - for reasons you may never know about or understand if you did - simply don't like you. No biggie. So if you discover that someone doesn't like you, just go, "Oh. You're one of the 20%. Okay, whatever." And go on with your life. They may decide they like you at a later time and if so, great. But you can't make people like you, so why waste your time trying?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

40. My dear Dangerously Amused...

I agree with everything you've said here...

But...

This person and I used to be friends...

And then something happened...

A disagreement, over which I had zero control...

That's why this still bugs me...

I can't try...I can't even talk to the person...

It's very frustrating!

Still, I appreciate your very cogent thoughts...