grasswire
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Tue Apr-22-08 01:06 AM
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why oh why didn't I marry a musician? |
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I adore musicians. Well, those who play certain kinds of music. But particularly those who exhibit a joie de vivre that comes with doing something that brings people pleasure.
Why didn't I know this before I married an accountant?
Think of all those years I wasted!
And then when the accountant and I had enough of each other thank you very much, my musician friends were all snapped up by others.
Live, learn, and regret.
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Tue Apr-22-08 01:23 AM
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1. Lucy Van Pelt wrote to 'Dear Agnes' |
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"I'm in love with a man who doesn't even know I'm alive. All he ever thinks about is his stupid ol' piano and that stupid ol' Beethoven."
Dear Agnes responded, "Never fall in love with a musician."
:hi:
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grasswire
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Tue Apr-22-08 11:26 PM
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I did. A long time ago.
But you've heard this story.
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Tue Apr-22-08 01:37 AM
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2. I can tell you all the horrible things about living with a musician. |
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I married one, so I know. Don't get me wrong, there are great and wonderful things, but there are also downsides.
The grass is never really greener.
It's about finding someone that you love for them, loves you back for you, and someone you can't even imagine living without.
:hug:
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Tue Apr-22-08 01:41 AM
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3. Because you have brains? |
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I worked at Berklee College of music for years and dated half the faculty and a smaller proportion of the students. These people... they live in an odd world. They could not play or sing or write without inspiration, seriously, and inspiration takes all forms. The marriages don't last. MHO.
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Tue Apr-22-08 02:40 AM
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4. Actually that great guy will be someone you never pay attention to. |
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He'll be somebody with a boring job and a boring life, but you won't pay attention to him, and neither will anybody else, because he's boring.
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Tue Apr-22-08 03:10 AM
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5. Because you like to eat? |
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Wed Apr-23-08 10:21 AM
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I married a guitarist. He's still having fun working in the film & TV industry and I get to hold down the real job with benefits.
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Thu Apr-24-08 01:58 AM
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30. I narrowly missed a lifetime of that with an indie filmmaker |
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Wonderful man, bless his soul, but I was not prepared to spend a lifetime covering his ass.
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Tue Apr-22-08 03:26 AM
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6. Guys with guitars will always break your heart. |
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I would focus more on how the person makes you feel and not their talent for making others feel good.
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Tue Apr-22-08 08:38 AM
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14. Good thing I'm a drummer |
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and only been married three times.Headin for the third divorce too. :evilgrin:
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Wed Apr-23-08 03:56 AM
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25. I WANT TO KICK SOME DRUMMER ASS |
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YOU WOULD BE A GOOD START :7
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Thu Apr-24-08 02:05 PM
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37. Am I on your Ignore List ?? |
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Thu Apr-24-08 03:20 PM
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Thu Apr-24-08 04:26 PM
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43. Whew...Good....I asked because last month..(while on vacation)...My.. |
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.."prick" exfriend used my account here on DU and from what I can tell...pissed everybody and his mother off... ..something about "all people from Minnesota are wimps and stupid..etc" (and that's just what I know of..)
I found it out by accident...anyway..Thanks Skittles :)
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Tue Apr-22-08 10:33 AM
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Date a drummer or pianist instead ;)
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Thu Apr-24-08 05:12 PM
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Tue Apr-22-08 07:33 AM
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7. Girlfriend, WHAT are you THINKING??? |
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:spray: Just asking as a female musician who in the past week has had to deal with 2 women driven to clinical insanity by their musician spouses. :rofl:
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Tue Apr-22-08 07:38 AM
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8. You can't go home again. |
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And you'd probably have a miserable life with a musician. Consider yourself lucky, grasswire!
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Tue Apr-22-08 07:41 AM
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9. I'm both an accountant and muscian.... |
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Here's a song I wrote for someone I love:
Debits on the left Credits on the right Let's not depreciate our assets honey I don't want to fight
You turn me on like no other When you work that Excel spreadsheet And when you put that pen to paper No one has you beat
So take my hand and show me Your revenue recognition policy And I will be a happy man As we punch the calculator with glee
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Tue Apr-22-08 08:15 AM
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10. I had a friend who was only going to marry a long-haired musician |
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well .... fifteen years later she married a real estate agent. First marriage.
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Tue Apr-22-08 08:22 AM
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11. I was married to one for 18 years |
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he was a professor and performer. He ended up having an affair with a former grad student. He was also married to his music. (Lelapin hates when I say this, be careful what you wish for...)
;)
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Tue Apr-22-08 08:30 AM
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And I love him dearly. But there are many downsides to daily life with a musician: no concept of time, working weekend nights, endless rehearsing, and head in the clouds all of the time.
Sometimes an accountant seems pretty darn appealing....:D
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Tue Apr-22-08 08:35 AM
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13. Did you get your new car? |
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Tue Apr-22-08 09:38 PM
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It's beautiful, fun, and -- I'm told -- cool!
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Tue Apr-22-08 09:39 PM
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21. Then that makes you cool too |
grasswire
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Tue Apr-22-08 11:22 PM
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....my accountant turned out to be an emotional batterer and a pathological narcissist, as well as a cheater. And I met him in church!
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Thu Apr-24-08 03:43 PM
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39. I'm sorry you had to go through that |
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I shouldn't have been so glib.
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Thu Apr-24-08 02:20 AM
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Now there's irony for ya. :P
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Thu Apr-24-08 03:43 PM
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40. As in..."I'm going into the studio to do one thing, will be done in an hour" |
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And emerging five hours later, firmly believing it's only been one.
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Tue Apr-22-08 08:56 AM
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15. Perhaps you should consider a part-time musician? |
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For example, among the fine gentlemen in my band (www.thevibetribe.net, available for weddings, private parties, corporate events, etc.), we have a programmer, a realtor, a public relations officer for a bank, and a teacher (that one is me...admittedly, I'm a music teacher, but still...). Yes, there are gigs on the weekends (we're booked almost to the end of the year), but the financial rewards make it worthwhile. And we're all able to do most of our part-learning away from rehearsal, so full rehearsals don't take up too much time. (Hell, I often learn tunes in the car while driving to and from work.)
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Tue Apr-22-08 09:00 AM
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16. There's a certain joie de vivre that comes with |
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not worrying about when your next paycheck is coming, too. ;-)
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Tue Apr-22-08 10:28 AM
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17. you can't hold the hand of a rock and roll man very long |
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Or count on your plans with a rock and roll man very long. http://youtube.com/watch?v=Eh9Z8OsfxEo
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Tue Apr-22-08 11:25 PM
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23. God, not rock and roll. |
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That's not the kind of musician I know. My best friends for many years were jazz musicians. Nearly always with a day job -- a career. But with that especially interesting joyful spirit that musicians have.
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Tue Apr-22-08 10:29 AM
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18. I've always wanted to |
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I feel like it'll happen, as I'm a total groupie for musicians of every stripe.
;)
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Wed Apr-23-08 08:40 AM
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26. as a musician - if it helps - not everyone appreciates us |
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I get frustrated sometimes as a musician.
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Wed Apr-23-08 09:52 AM
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27. Honey, there are musicians, then there are bagpipe players. |
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At least an accountant isn't playing Scotland the Brave in the basement at 6am. It registers on the Richter scale. "Divorce? Never. Murder ....?"
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Thu Apr-24-08 07:43 AM
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32. Definition of a Gentleman: |
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One who knows how to play the bagpipes but doesn't.
Why do Bagpipe players march so fast?
To get away from the noise...
What's the difference between a Chainsaw and a Bagpipe?
You could tune a chainsaw if you had to...
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Thu Apr-24-08 08:24 AM
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34. What's the difference between a terrorist and a bagpipe player? |
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You can reason with a terrorist.
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Thu Apr-24-08 02:04 PM
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36. LOL!..I'll have to remember that one. |
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Thu Apr-24-08 04:00 PM
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42. ...and accordion players |
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Use an accordion, go to jail. Its the law.
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Thu Apr-24-08 08:13 AM
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33. Musicians are pretty chill, but unless you want to put up with their insane schedules, |
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get an amateur, someone who plays very well but doesn't bother to do it for the money.
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Thu Apr-24-08 08:34 AM
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35. "Are you the police?" |
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Musicians can be an odd lot. Just imagine being married to one of these guys. :P http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tjGfnsjdJec:hi::hug:
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Thu Apr-24-08 03:58 PM
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41. ...'cause you like eating and being able to pay bills? |
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I am a musician. I went into my studies knowing it was like taking a vow of poverty. At least I was not disappointed (I am poor).
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