ronnykmarshall
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Fri May-16-08 10:57 AM
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Planning wedding #2!! SOS!! |
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Now that California has legalized same sex marriage, I am faced with the planning wedding #2.
We already had a wedding in 2001 in Las Vegas. But now we need to do the legal part.
My husband is driving me nuts.
My suggestion was simple. Get the licenses as soon as possible after the 30 days when they start issuing them. Get one of our friend Tina to take one of those "Minister for a day" things and she can marry is in the back yard of our house, then go to brunch. OH NO!! He starts in with "well you should have your mom and step-dad there. And my SISTER has to be there. And don't you think some of your friends at work would feel left out?" I was about ready to file for divorce BEFORE we got married.
We are having a house warming part at the end of the month. So it's not like we aren't going to see a bunch of our friends.
The thing is that 99% of the people I wanted at our wedding WERE at our wedding in 2001. The only exception was my step-dad who was recovering from surgery and my dad and step-mom (there WERE in Vegas, but my dad was too sick and they had to go home).
My suggestion? We fly to SF get married at City Hall. MAYBE have my step-mom meet us there since she missed our 1st wedding.
GGRRRRRRRR!
Suggestions?
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Fri May-16-08 11:01 AM
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1. I'll be glad to sing...I'll do it for free. |
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"Islands in the stream, that is what we are...hmmm hmmm hmmm hmmm hmmm....how can we be wrong...sail away with me...hmmm hmm hmmm hmmm hmmm...and we rely on each other ah ah."
Congrats. :loveya: :hug:
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Fri May-16-08 11:08 AM
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Fri May-16-08 11:09 AM
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3. I think you should have a big ol' blowout |
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Edited on Fri May-16-08 11:09 AM by MonkeyFunk
caterers, flowers, the works. And invite me.
Oh, and an open bar.
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Fri May-16-08 11:10 AM
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4. I Can Do Your Honeymoon!! |
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Fri May-16-08 11:15 AM
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5. it's useless to fight this. |
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Give him the wedding he wants and save yourself from arguing about it for the next 20 years. :)
Could you push your house warming party to a later date and combine that with a wedding?
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ronnykmarshall
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Fri May-16-08 11:25 AM
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9. The house warming is set, so we can't change it. |
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I think we are looking at the SF City Hall thing.
Which was always MY dream to do.
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Fri May-16-08 11:16 AM
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6. Fly to SF, get legal and then come back home and have a big ol' reception/party |
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Edited on Fri May-16-08 11:17 AM by terrya
For what my opinion is worth.
If you don't want to invite me, that's fine.
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ronnykmarshall
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Fri May-16-08 11:28 AM
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11. I think that's what we're gonna do. |
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The house warming will be also a pre-wedding reception.
I'm playing the "getting married in SF City Hall has always been my dream" card.
He got his house.
I get my SF civil wedding.
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Fri May-16-08 11:20 AM
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My suggestion - get the legal part OVER with. You know its going to be standing room only in the clerk's office. To have an entourage accompany you past the steps would be unfair to the other couples.
But what seems to be a popular wedding photo is the pic of the two of you marching down the steps (it's a beautiful building) hand in hand after the deed is done.
You just want to get this in BEFORE the Phelps' of the world bring to a halt. You know they will try.
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Fri May-16-08 11:24 AM
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8. I sincerely hope the Phelps... |
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Edited on Fri May-16-08 11:25 AM by terrya
are all on one plane and the plane crashes, killing all on board.
I'd be sorry for the pilot and co-pilot on the plane. I'd have a big party for everyone else.
Edit, yes this will be deleted. I don't fucking care.
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Fri May-16-08 11:26 AM
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10. Plane crashin's too good for him! |
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Tar and feather the rat bastard and his family of freaks (anyone who watched John Adams knows it's not at all like the cartoons)
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Fri May-16-08 11:30 AM
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12. Well let's just hope it a private plane |
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with one of his asshole supporters flying it.
Crashes into that volcano I had Chi-Chi use during the Nevada caucuses, no mess to clean up.
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Fri May-16-08 11:34 AM
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13. I'm sorry I posted that in your thread |
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I know the bigots are already trying to fight this. I was reading about it at Yahoo news.
I don't want to be reminded of that.
This is a time to celebrate a huge victory so that good folks like you and your partner, and MonkeyFunk and his boyfriend, and all of the other gay and lesbian couples in California can FINALLY get their commitments and their loving relationships legally recognized.
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Fri May-16-08 11:34 AM
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Fri May-16-08 12:57 PM
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15. Can I come to the reception and dance the Chicken Dance? |
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Because you KNOW it ain't really a reception until they play the Chicken Dance and the Hokey Poky.
On second thought, maybe that is a kinda Illinois/Midwestern thing. You folks out there on the coast might do stuff differently. I dunno if I can do anything other than those two dances except maybe a polka or two...
Amyhow, have the kind of wedding you two can feel good about and screw worrying about everybody else and how they will feel. If you want to go to City Hall, then by gawd go to City Hall and know that our happiness goes with you.
:hug:
Laura
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Fri May-16-08 01:18 PM
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17. I'll do the Chicken Dance at City Hall in your honor!! |
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Fri May-16-08 01:10 PM
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16. Combine the house warming and your 2nd wedding |
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Have a huge party and have fun. :)
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Fri May-16-08 01:26 PM
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18. That would be perfect. |
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BUT they will start issuing licenses until around June 15th and we have the party set in stone for the end of this month.
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Fri May-16-08 01:33 PM
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22. Meh have the party then just get the licenses after |
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Most importantly, have a big party.
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Fri May-16-08 01:27 PM
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19. Ronny...the 'dream card'.... |
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hey I would love to have my 2nd wedding (reinstatement of vows) in San Francisco.
Go for it..It will be crowded, yes. But to be there with all that excitement...:)once in a life-time opportunity
Tikki
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Fri May-16-08 01:34 PM
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To be where it all started and be one of the first!
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Fri May-16-08 01:32 PM
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21. Ronny, I'm gonna make this real simple for you: Weddings=Gifts |
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And let's face it, you would have done the wedding a bit more of the traditional way if you were actually legally able to so so back in 2001.
So now that California is coming to the 21st century I say you have yourself a great wedding, get yourself registered somewhere for some nice (but reasonibly priced gifts) and invite a few DUers to join in the celebration.
You deserve the very best!
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