how often do you say 'i love you'?

[fizzgig]

in my family, we always, always, always say it any time we're saying goodbye, be it over the phone or in person, even if it's a cousin we talk to once or twice a year. we're also very demonstrative and there are always hugs and kisses when we're heading our own ways.

i've adopted the same philosophy with my friends (while respecting their boundaries) because i think it is one of the most important things you can say to someone.

what about you, loungers?

[bicentennial_baby]

1. i say it mostly to Sniffa, since that's who I interact with

24-7 (we haven't been apart overnight in over 2 yrs). We say it pretty much constantly, in every conversation. Some may think it's over the top, but it's sincere. :)

[fizzgig]

2. i don't think that's over the top at all

i'm sure the both of you know that you love each other, but, to me, it's important to verbalize it as well

[AlCzervik]

3. i tell my daughter every night when i tuck her in, she thinks she's too old for the tuck in

i say Horseshit, you live here, you're tucked in! And when i talk to my husband on the phone i always tell him i love him and i miss him because i really do, the house isn't the same when he's not here.

[fizzgig]

6. i miss having someone to tuck me in

you're daughter is lucky in her mother

[AlCzervik]

19. well if you ever to northern california and you stay here, you'll be getting

a "Nite nite, sleep tight, see you in the morning light".


:hi:

[fizzgig]

25. squeeeeeeeeee!

:bounce:

[laylah]

46. All you have to do is

come see your MaMa! I tuck you in, play "knock, knock, peeeeeeeeeeek in..." :rofl: Then smother you with MaMa kisses and tell you just how much I do love you! :loveya:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

4. Almost never.

[fizzgig]

9. any reason?

[Starbucks Anarchist]

12. It's just not my thing.

I'm not a touchy-feely person. I'm some sort of half-robot. :P

[fizzgig]

26. well, that explains a lot

:P

[ScreamingMeemie]

5. My husband used to tell me I said it too much...

while I thought it was never enough. This is the first thread I came to after holding my boy through a rough patch and repeating to him how much I love him.

[fizzgig]

13. those words are too important to not say, imo

:hug: for you and the kiddos

[ScreamingMeemie]

22. He got used to it. MrG that is...

I never heard it enough as a child and neither did he. We raised our kids (I hope) on as much love as they could handle. I know that my husband knew he was loved. He told me so.

[Pierre.Suave]

7. Every chance I get

I tell my Fiancee I love her all the time. At the end of phone calls, while snuggling on the couch, while snuggling in bed, while listening to her talk about anything she will catch me adoring her and ask what I am doing and I will say, discovering even more reasons to love you...


Etc...

[fizzgig]

15. that's how i am with my guy

then i wonder to myself if i'm being too mushy and then realize that i don't care if i am :)

[Pierre.Suave]

17. In the interests of full disclosure

She is the same way with me and it makes me love her more.

[1awake]

8. So often that

I couldn't count it. It's just me and my three children (all boys) and it is a staple of most conversations in our home. We say it in the morning, evenings, bedtime, and sometimes just to say it for no reason at all. I grew up in a home where the words "I love you" were never uttered (not an attack on my family) and I want my boys to feel comfortable expressing their feelings, especially love of one another. I do everything in my power so they know and feel loved.

I think people should express these things more often.

[fizzgig]

you're doing right by your boys

:yourock:

[cbayer]

10. I'm like you.

I say it to pretty much everyone I love when we part or hang up the phone and even in my e-mails. I say it to my husband about 10 times a day.

I was not raised this way. I think I picked it up during my years in New Orleans where people tend to be very affectionate.

[AlCzervik]

14. i wasn't raised that way either, my family was very undemonstrative and really

not affectionate at all, hell i'd still read Good night moon to my daughter if she'd let me but at almost 14 she'd probably be rolling her eyes at me. I think telling people that you love just that is important.

[cbayer]

20. I never saw my parents hug or say I love you.

But, like you, I made a point of doing it all the time and my kids are all openly affectionate. Hell, my youngest is 20 and he would love for me to read to him! Ahh, I miss him a lot tonight.

I hug my parents now and tell them I love them. They are awkward but I think they really appreciate it.

[fizzgig]

21. i think it's a good thing to pick up

[BeachBaby]

11. If I love him/her, I make sure they know that.

Not to sound paranoid, but when phone conversations are about to end, or someone is about to walk out the door, I tell him/her. I never want them to not know how I feel about them.

[fizzgig]

18. exactly

i always want those i love to know that i do

[Oeditpus Rex]

16. Don't get many opportunities

Anyway, those words don't roll off my tongue very easily. I grew up thinking "I love you" was an incomplete sentence; it was supposed to have "but" at the end.

[Haole Girl]

24. That's really sad

:-(

[fizzgig]

27. ...

:hug:

[Oeditpus Rex]

29. Thanks, girl

Y'know, you're one of the real good'uns. :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

23. My dear kagehime...

Every damn chance I get!

It is way too important to skip...

Oh, and BTW...I love you too, sweetie!

:loveya:

[fizzgig]

28. love you, too, peggy

:loveya:

[JackBeck]

30. Often, even though me sister begrudgingly recipricates.

With the man, though, that goes without saying. I'm usually in the shower when he's motoring out, so we air kiss through the glass door, I wish him safe driving, and the last thing we exchange is mouthed "I love you", as I'm either rinsing the shampoo out of my hair or washing the face soap off my face before it gets into my eyes.

And with the ones that I exchange emails with, they know how I show my love.

xoxo
JB

[Monk06]

31. To myself, not much lately. To my sis, recently.

[Skittles]

32. I have never heard it from my family

ever so it's not something I am comfortable with

[ScreamingMeemie]

33. That's how my family was.

My mother would actually say "ouch" whenever someone hugged her.

[Skittles]

34. aw I really don't like being hugged

it feels very alien to me

[ScreamingMeemie]

35. I found out, when it all happened, that I really don't care for being

hugged either. I hug my close friends and my kids...but that's about it. And don't get me started on people who want to kiss me on the mouth. I don't like crowds anyway and a whole crowd of "huggy" people was a bit disconcerting.

[Rhythm]

36. Dozens of times a day...

Oktoberain and OktoberKid are the recipients of this sentiment many, many times each day, be it in person, over the phone, or even in text messages...

[khashka]

37. Rarely.. I have to mean it

or it becomes just one of those things you say. It has to be true and it has to mean something.


Khash.

[bertha katzenengel]

38. Always. I never leave the house,

go to sleep, or hang up the phone without saying "I love you" to my beloved, my sisters, or their kids. And I frequently say it at other times.

[RetroLounge]

39. Never heard it as a kid...

So i tell my kids every time I see them...

and now I tell my parents everytime we hang up the phone.

RL

[lizziegrace]

40. ...

:hug:

Same here.

[Inchworm]

41. I say it hella now

never heard it much growing up except at bed time and other expected times.

As my daughter grew up she heard it quite often from moi.

:hi:

PS: I Love You! ;)

[BarenakedLady]

42. My parents and I always say it when saying goodbye on the phone.

I tell my kids all the time (and they back). My family are huggers and kissers too. I'm lucky to have extremely cuddly kids.

[LucyParsons]

43. Every day

To either my parents or boyfriend. And sometimes to my best friends. And I am not a touchy-feely person, at all.

[Shell Beau]

44. I tell my husband at least 3 times a day.

I know some say it doesn't mean as much when you say it so often, but I never have to worry about him walking out the door and not hearing it. I would never want my last words to him to be any thing other than "I love you".

The rest of my family, I tell them every time I talk to them.

You learn when you lose a loved one and never really told them that.

[Midlodemocrat]

45. All day long. To the kids and husband.

The dogs, not so much.

[unpossibles]

47. several times a day

barring any restraining orders.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

48. Never.

My family's not good with demonstrative emotion. The only person to whom I've ever said "I love you" is my cat. :D

[redqueen]

49. Every day, several times a day.

Always with my kids... nearly always with my sister... sometimes my brothers, too.

And sometimes my best friend, but rarely.

[easttexaslefty]

50. Everytime I talk to my family and friends

When I lost my son, the fact that I always told him I loved him, everytime I spoke to him and when I saw him in person I would hug him and tell him I loved him, gave me some comfort. He knew how much I loved him....and he always told us he loved us too

[JackDragna]

51. People say that?

Real people? I thought it was just for movies and the mentally deranged. My family typically displays affection one of two ways:

A) Verbal abuse
B) Physical abuse
C) Both at the same time

Crap..that's three. I broke my own rule. *commits hara-kiri*

[Guava Jelly]

52. I say it a few times a day

.

[LadyoftheRabbits]

53. All of the time

My family's like yours, saying it all the time. And I tell ZombieNixon quite often, too. :loveya: :D

[Bullwinkle925]

54. all the time . . .

and i also love hearing it as well.

[sniffa]

55. At least two dozen on busy, apart days

More than I can count on weekends and such. :loveya:

[bigwillq]

56. Often

with both family and friends.

[lost-in-nj]

57. I say it

when ever I can
to the ones who matter
to the ones I love


I learned to early and to late

there is never a guarantee of tomorrow



:hi:


lost


LET THEM KNOW!!!!!

[SalmonChantedEvening]

58. Have I told you lately...

As often as I can kagehime, to those most special to me.

And you are among them. :loveya:

[GOPisEvil]

59. I say it every day.

Only with my kick-ass girlfriend.

I don't normally say I love you to my parents. :shrug: I guess it's understood. They're just not the touchy-feely, lovey-dovey type.

[grannylib]

60. A lot. Always. My oldest daughter died suddenly about 10 years

ago, and I am SO GRATEFUL that the last words we ever said to each other were "I love you"
I cling to that.
We say it to each other, to our kids, our grandkids, our moms, our siblings - each and every time we talk to them. (Well, not necessarily every CONVERSATION, but every day, for those we see every day).

[Forkboy]

61. Everytime I think of myself.

Kidding... :P

I say it to one person. I have to mean it to say it.

There's a second person I would say it to, but it makes her uncomfortable to think of love as it's not something she has trust in. But I think she knows I do feel it.

[Lyric]

62. I couldn't even count the number of times I say it every day.

Almost every time we pass each other in the hall, or catch each others' eyes from across the room. First thing every morning, several times, and several times again before bed. Just...constantly.

I love easily, too. I have no problem saying it (and meaning it) very early in relationships. I told ThinkBlue1966 that I loved her about 12 hours after meeting her, and we're working on anniversary number nine. :)

:loveya:

[Aristus]

63. 5-6 times a day to my wife. Would it KILL her to say it back even ONCE?!?!?

:+:crazy::silly: :P

[Missy Vixen]

64. Several times a day

I say it when my husband goes off to the office, when we say "goodbye" when we're talking on the phone, before we go to sleep at night. We say it to our family and to most of our friends when we say goodbye to them after a visit or a phone conversation as well.

How could anyone ever say "I love you" too much?

Julie

[Roon]

65. I always say it to my family

when we say good-bye on the phone. Or when we part company...always. I just never thought about it before..

[Roon]

66. I do have to admit

I once said "I love you" to my ex and he replied,"Must we say that every hour of every day?!"...that is how I knew he was off his meds.

[Fox Mulder]

67. I haven't said it in years.

My family isn't like that.

[quakerboy]

68. many times per day

My wife and I say it early and often. Except for one emergency trip to see a dying grandma, we haven't been apart a day since our 6th date, years ago. I love her. I say it. It often leads into and out of each conversation. Probably sounds retarded to anyone who happens to be listening to us, but I don't really care.

[Sultana]

69. .

In my family, NEVER and no hugs either. It's all too foreign for us. :P

[Fleshdancer]

70. I say it all the time

I've never had a problem with the word and I use it as often as I can. Life is too damn short not to.

[SPKrazy]

71. Some not often enough...

and most as much as I can...

btw Kagehime

I love you !!!

:loveya:

99% of the people in my life hear me say I love you as often as I can.

The other one percent, well, they are missing out and it might be their own fault.

:hug: