I got a compliment on my long hair today.... and now I feel guilty.

[Breeze54]

Made me smile though! :D She said, "Wow! look how long your hair is! It's beautiful!"

Then... she suggested I cut it and donate it... actually a good idea, donating, that is.

She said I can get a free hairstyle if I donate it and told me to do a search for Locks of Love.

Said she'd donated hers before. I like my long hair but now I feel like I HAVE to donate it.

I want to but I want my long hair too. I'd post the dilemma emoticon but it's missing! :wtf:

[some guy]

1. the dilemma emoticon is missing

because you don't have a dilemma. Keep your hair, and send Locks of Love a wig. :P

Long hair rocks! so - :yourock:

[Breeze54]

5. LOL! Well, it's not like I did anything special...

other than NOT cut my hair! :P It's actually a pain in the ass
when I shed or when it's hot out but I still like it. ;)

[some guy]

11. that *is* special

I have long hair too, and mine's wavy/curly. I know it can be a pain, and some times it's easy to think it would be much easier to deal with shorter hair. So, resisting the urge(s) to chop it off is an effort.

I say again, :yourock:

[Breeze54]

13. LMAO!! Thanks!!!

:D

You made me feel better, after a shitty day!

:yourock: too!! :toast:

[some guy]

15. then my work here is done...

ooh - drinks. :9 thanks much :toast:

:hi:

[hedgehog]

2. Don't feel guilty - there are a lot of questions out there about Locls of Love

http://hannah.tedpearson.com/?p=322

[Breeze54]

6. I've heard rumors too...

I don't know what to make of them, so I haven't acted.

[MrCoffee]

18. WOW...according to their 2006 tax filing, they made $695k on the sale of hair

"Funds received from sale of excess hair used to purchase manufactured hair custom prosthetics"

http://www.locksoflove.org/entire%202006%20990.pdf

It's on page 8, line 93A "Program Service Revenue"

[Breeze54]

19. Ugh... that totally bites!!!

:grr:

Users!! :grr:

'nouf said!!

Thanks!!

[redqueen]

3. Ah no... it's not like having hair saves lives. Makes them comfier, yes... but...

I've donated before... but I'm not cutting it again.

[Breeze54]

4. I know but my sister needed a wig, after she was diagnosed with breast cancer...

The day she got the diagnosis, she shaved her head and bought a wig.

She wouldn't let any of us into her medical crisis, business woman that she is and she rejected my efforts at clicking daily at The Breast cancer Site but I have and thought at the time, that I should've donated my hair.... I don't know.

[latebloomer]

10. Well, I wore a scarf for a year

after I came down with leukemia (I had a stem cell transplant in Dec and am doing very well, knock wood.)

If your sis is a very private person I can understand why she got a wig. Wearing a scarf- or walking around bald- is like a public display of "I HAVE CANCER" and invites all kinds of unwelcome attention.

I would have gotten a wig but the good ones are too expensive.

Keep your hair if you love it, and make a donation to a cancer charity.

[Breeze54]

14. I'm glad you're doing very well!! Awesome!!!

She could afford a wig, (or 100 of them, if she wanted to!) believe me,
but it was just the idea of it all to me... maybe it was that! Maybe it
was that she could so easily afford one that made me think of those that can't...

I'm glad you're 'on the mend'.... That's awesome you found a donor!!! :hug:

[latebloomer]

38. Thanks so much!

Yes, I was VERY lucky to find a perfectly matched donor. All I know about him is that he's a 35-year-old man. After a year I'll be allowed to contact him and thank him for saving my life. Amazing!

[Shell Beau]

7. Just take good care of your hair and when you are ready to cut it then

you can donate it. You don't have to donate it immediately.

[Breeze54]

8. I've been thinking about it for 3 yrs but haven't done anything except

wash and wear! I'm trying to figure out why I cling to it...
I have a few reasons why it's still important to me... It just is.

[Book Lover]

9. You know, I can sit on my hair and no one has ever said that ty me

That is way out of line - I'd tell them to go to hell, seriously. You are under no obligation to modify your body to please others.

[Breeze54]

12. Well; I think she meant well but it seemed like a

"side-winder" compliment... like she sort of had an agenda. I did tell her that I hear a lot about the "appropriate" length of hair for women over 50 now and because of that, I've refused to cut mine. She smiled at that but then went on to tell me about Locks of Love. It wasn't a bad conversation, while she made my appointment but made me wonder.

[InvisibleTouch]

35. "Appropriate length" - oh boy...

According to whom? Keep it the way you like it, and to hell with what anyone else thinks is "appropriate." (I have long hair too, and have told busybodies to go to hell with their opinions in the past. I don't tell them how silly I think they look in a chopped-off haircut, but maybe I should! ;) )

When I was about 4, I saw a woman at the mall with beautiful hair past her butt, and said, "That's how I want mine to be." And so it was. Just a few years ago, I saw an older lady (60's? 70's?) with beautiful long silver hair. I said, "That's how I'll be at 60/70/etc." And so I will surely be. :)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

39. I'm 64, and I have silvery hair down to my shoulders...

And I love it!

I think it looks great on me, and so do my friends...

I wore it short for many years, and I wanted to change it...

So I did!

I think it's plenty "appropriate"!

:hi:

[Sequoia]

16. Don't cut your hair then. Free hairstyle...big deal.

I don't know...chairty is fine and such, but...she sounds creepy for some reason.

[Breeze54]

17. LOL... the more I think about it, I feel the same!

Good call! :P

:toast:

I probably won't cut it, maybe just to even it off but that's it. ;)

[Sequoia]

27. Now, for me I have to fight to get my hair cut short.

I used to have long beautiful black hair, so beautiful in fact that the girls in my dorm would put chewed up chewing gum on my pillow so it'd get stuck in it and I'd have to get it cut out. Years later a boyfriend told me it was because they were jealous. I really had no idea they were jealous of MY HAIR!! Anyway, I'm going down the grey road and it's too hard to keep it long and color it. Not to mention it comes out in batches so for me short is better these days.

As the song goes:

Give me a head with hair, long beautiful hair.
Shining, gleaming, streaming, flaxen, waxen.
Give me down to there hair, shoulder lenght or longer
Here baby, there, momma, ev'rywhere, daddy, daddy.

hair, hair, hair, hair, hair
Hair, hair, hair.Flow it, show it,long as God can grow it, my hair

[Breeze54]

28. LOL... I call the streaks of grey... "highlights"!

;)

I haven't used any chemicals on my hair... in the past I did (way past) but not in the last 25 years, at least. I don't mind it being grey at all. My son does and wants me to color it but I've resisted that too. It's me, I'm turning grey! Deal with it!!! ;) Ya know? :hug:

[SocratesInSpirit]

20. How incredibly presumptuous of her!

I'll never understand why people think they have a right to make choices about other people's bodies - as if they're public property. If you don't want to cut your hair, you shouldn't have to be made to feel guilty about it. :)

[Breeze54]

21. You're right but I think I 'guilt-tripped' myself maybe

it was the last thing on my mind, at the lab in the hospital today. I think she caught me off guard. Everyone here is just awesome. You all make a lot of sense and I think I was just feeling vulnerable after that fiasco of a Dr's appointment today and she was making my appt. for another test.

[SocratesInSpirit]

23. Yeah, I've had similar stuff happen

after I've had a really crappy day, and was feeling emotionally vulnerable, and wham! there's a college kid selling magazine subscriptions at the door and I am guilt-tripped into buying one because "you can donate it to the local women's shelter or children's hospital!", whereas normally I would have declined and sent them away (true story). It's like they have some freaky sixth sense and know just when to hit you. :)

[hippywife]

22. Mine is long, too...

and very curly. I get lots of compliments and I've had more than one person tell me that same thing. I'm not cutting mine again, ever.

[Breeze54]

25. LOL! Me too! Well, I might trim it though....

but I like the way it curls up at the ends, around my shoulder, when it's in a pony tail
(it's very straight!) but I like it still. ;) Gives me comfort, for some reason.

[Taverner]

24. Screw that

Honestly - you don't have to donate anything. Growing your hair long took a lot of work. If you don't want to donate it DON'T.

[Breeze54]

26. OK, I won't!!!

:P

I don't think I can really do it anyway...

[Mutley]

29. Do whatever you want.

It's your hair. :)

[Breeze54]

32. That's the guilt trip right there!! I always do whatever I want!!

:P

But I will maintain on this... it's MY hair, my psyche at stake. ;)

Thanks!

[suninvited]

30. I donated mine

but the timing was just right for me. I went in to get a haircut, and I wanted a new look. I had just lost about 30 pounds.

My hairdresser told me about the hair donation, and I thought a loss of all that hair would go well with my loss of all that weight.

[Breeze54]

34. I'd probably look thinner too but actually, who am I trying to impress?

That's what I think to myself because I really don't care what anyone thinks anymore.
Love me as I am or hit the road! :P That's a loose generalization of my re-newed philosophy! :rofl:

[suninvited]

36. I wasn't trying to look thinner

nor impress anyone.

I equated my hair loss with my weight loss, though, somehow. A new me, in a way. And I really liked the idea of a child with cancer getting a great wig made out of my hair.

I have always had really great hair.

By the way, that was six years ago. I could do the whole thing over again right now. My hair has grown back.

[Breeze54]

37. I was talking about me!! NOT you!!!

:eyes:

I lost a lot of weight too, after my 2nd was born... I weighed 122 lbs, soaking wet. After my 3rd
at age 34, I weighed 135 and dropped a whole lot of weight at age 35, down to 118 and wore a
size 5 or something like that. But I wasn't talking about you, I was talking about me.

:hug:

[LisaM]

31. Get some highlights.

Then it will have been chemically treated and you CAN'T donate it. End of dilemma!

[Breeze54]

33. LOL!

:P

:hi:

[harmonicon]

40. fuck that shit

A good friend of mine has been getting treatment for breast cancer for the last few years (gosh, I haven't seen her in almost a year!), and when she had to deal with the hair falling out phase, she just got el cheap-o wigs which worked just fine. If you like your hair, keep it. A wig isn't going to fight cancer.