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Drunken Irishman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:29 PM Original message |
Maybe my family is heartless, but this creeps me out. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:32 PM Response to Original message |
1. its very creepy. however if that helps with their bereavement is it really all that important to you |
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Drunken Irishman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:34 PM Response to Reply #1 |
5. I think it has more to do with the fact it's our family plot. |
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Dora (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:14 PM Response to Reply #5 |
28. Now that's what makes it creepy. |
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hedgehog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:32 PM Response to Original message |
2. Every culture addresses death differently. |
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Sheets of Easter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:33 PM Response to Original message |
3. It's not cool. At least I don't think so. |
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leeroysphitz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 07:40 PM Response to Reply #3 |
63. You've never been to Graceland have you? |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:33 PM Response to Original message |
4. I find it odd myself, but people do different things. |
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Drunken Irishman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:36 PM Response to Reply #4 |
8. My mom brought it up. |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:37 PM Response to Reply #8 |
10. Well I think your mom has every right to voice her concerns. |
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Inchworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:34 PM Response to Original message |
6. I think as far as it all goes |
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Symarip (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:34 PM Response to Original message |
7. Dude |
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MrCoffee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:36 PM Response to Original message |
9. Party at the tombstone = creepy. |
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malta blue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:37 PM Response to Original message |
11. IIRC, during the 18th & 19th c., holding a picnic |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 06:37 PM Response to Reply #11 |
58. It was fairly common in Victorian times, when the great garden cemeteries flourished in the U.S. |
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malta blue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 06:40 PM Response to Reply #58 |
59. thanks for the confirmation.... |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:38 PM Response to Original message |
12. It's rather out there, but |
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livetohike (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:40 PM Response to Original message |
13. I've seen picnic pavillions in small graveyards throughout |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:00 PM Response to Reply #13 |
18. Tents for the graveside service |
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livetohike (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:04 PM Response to Reply #18 |
22. Thanks supernova |
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Common Sense Party (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-19-08 01:06 AM Response to Reply #13 |
77. Nothing in the Mormon faith requires, suggests, or encourages |
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bif (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:46 PM Response to Original message |
14. In Mexico they celebrate the Day of the Dead |
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Drunken Irishman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:55 PM Response to Reply #14 |
16. They're not Mexican. |
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bif (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:04 PM Response to Reply #16 |
23. Actually, the part I find creepy is celebrating a birthday |
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Whisp (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-19-08 02:14 AM Response to Reply #14 |
79. can you explain why? I'm genuinely interested. |
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NJmaverick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:53 PM Response to Original message |
15. The whole things sounds creepy to me |
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MrsBrady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 02:57 PM Response to Original message |
17. people grieve in different ways |
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GCP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:08 PM Response to Reply #17 |
24. I had a full term stillborn baby |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:02 PM Response to Original message |
19. That's bizzare, and your mom is right to be offended. |
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ghostsofgiants (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:02 PM Response to Original message |
20. Kinda weird, but honestly, anyone wants to hold a party on my grave once I'm dead, go for it. |
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LeftinOH (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:03 PM Response to Original message |
21. A graveside birthday party for a stillborn infant... thats messed up, IMO |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:20 PM Response to Reply #21 |
29. Just because it is a stillborn infant doesn't make it any easier of a loss. |
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jobycom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:11 PM Response to Original message |
25. Never judge people for how they handle their grief. nt |
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SidneyCarton (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:13 PM Response to Original message |
26. As a Mormon, may I chime in? |
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Drunken Irishman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:10 PM Response to Reply #26 |
36. I kinda figured it wasn't a Mormon thing. |
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SidneyCarton (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:18 PM Response to Reply #36 |
39. I agree, it was insensitive, and their response was bizarre. |
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Common Sense Party (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-19-08 01:03 AM Response to Reply #26 |
76. I was just about to do the same thing. |
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Mad_Dem_X (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:13 PM Response to Original message |
27. I vote creepy |
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Sugar Smack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:28 PM Response to Original message |
30. It's the pizza thing that gives me pause. |
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Tangerine LaBamba (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:42 PM Response to Reply #30 |
32. What? |
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Sugar Smack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:09 PM Response to Reply #32 |
35. No, Tangerine LaBamba, it reminds me of FRAT PARTIES, |
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Tangerine LaBamba (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:12 PM Response to Reply #35 |
37. You had pizza at frat parties? |
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Sugar Smack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:14 PM Response to Reply #37 |
38. Heh! :D |
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Tangerine LaBamba (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:20 PM Response to Reply #38 |
40. What's ECU? |
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Sugar Smack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:39 PM Response to Reply #40 |
44. Sorry; East Carolina University |
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Tangerine LaBamba (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:41 PM Response to Original message |
31. It's rather life-affirming, in a strange way..... |
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Z_I_Peevey (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 03:57 PM Response to Original message |
33. First Sunday in May |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:03 PM Response to Original message |
34. this is really common in other cultures - when my uncle a missionary |
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Lex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:21 PM Response to Original message |
41. do they give other dead relatives birthday parties? |
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REP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:29 PM Response to Original message |
42. Vulgar and Tastless |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:31 PM Response to Reply #42 |
43. I don't get what you mean "fetishing". |
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Boudica the Lyoness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 04:51 PM Response to Original message |
45. How horrid |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 05:25 PM Response to Original message |
46. No... not wrong or heartless... that's frickin creepy. |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 05:39 PM Response to Original message |
47. I don't think there's anything there to be offended by. |
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Drunken Irishman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 05:40 PM Response to Reply #47 |
48. Fair enough, but obviously people do find it offensive. |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 05:43 PM Response to Reply #48 |
49. But the question always is, "Is it worth being offended by it?" |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 05:45 PM Response to Reply #49 |
50. Yeah... not like someone's hairstyle or shirt or something. (nt) |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 05:48 PM Response to Reply #50 |
51. Darn right! |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 06:06 PM Response to Reply #51 |
53. Yeah... |
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Drunken Irishman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 05:49 PM Response to Reply #49 |
52. It's a private cemetery owned by the local Catholic diocese. |
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My Good Babushka (966 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 06:18 PM Response to Reply #47 |
54. I don't find anything wrong with it |
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MilesColtrane (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 06:19 PM Response to Original message |
55. That part that gets me is... |
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sniffa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 06:28 PM Response to Original message |
56. Um, wow. |
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MrScorpio (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 06:37 PM Response to Original message |
57. I totally agree with you |
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knitter4democracy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 07:00 PM Response to Original message |
60. It's done in Russia. |
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Inspired (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 07:06 PM Response to Original message |
61. I see nothing wrong with doing this. I wouldn't but it's hardly disrespectful. |
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Drunken Irishman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 07:34 PM Response to Reply #61 |
62. Ok. |
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Quakerfriend (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 10:06 PM Response to Reply #62 |
68. Yes, and this, imo, is the essence of the problem. |
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RFKHumphreyObama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 09:14 PM Response to Original message |
64. Each culture has their own way of mourning their deceased loved ones |
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quakerboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 09:35 PM Response to Original message |
65. Its a little odd |
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DarkTirade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 09:53 PM Response to Original message |
66. Yeah, that is a little strange. |
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madeline_con (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 10:04 PM Response to Original message |
67. This reminds me of Darlie Routier |
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LibraLiz1973 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 10:06 PM Response to Original message |
69. It is different, for sure. |
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harmonicon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 10:22 PM Response to Original message |
70. I think that's totally fucked up |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 10:25 PM Response to Original message |
71. Well, now we know the next John Waters or Coen Brothers film. |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jul-18-08 10:31 PM Response to Original message |
72. How can they celebrate a birthday when no birth took place? |
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Runcible Spoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-19-08 12:21 AM Response to Original message |
73. you're entitled to your feelings, but honestly just let it go. |
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Danger Mouse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-19-08 12:23 AM Response to Original message |
74. Stillbirths...people go through some weird shit with those... |
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Whisp (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-19-08 12:53 AM Response to Original message |
75. neither wrong or heartless. different strokes for diffrent folks. |
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orleans (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-19-08 02:04 AM Response to Original message |
78. you said your cousin and his wife didn't know about it ahead of time? |
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Blue Diadem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Jul-19-08 10:06 AM Response to Original message |
80. It's not worth creating a family feud over it. |
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