nadine_mn
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Mon Jul-21-08 04:57 PM
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I started a thread in GD and now I need love |
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:08 PM
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you didn't deserve any of that negativity found in that thread.
nothing (that i saw) that you wrote, impacted me as unfeeling or mean or whathaveyou.
children (i don't have any), are a big deal, and i think it's great that you and your SO have seriously talked about child rearing and having children. i don't think that happens enough.
i also have issues with whether i want a child. i grew up in a family that has been part of a huge cycle of abuse for a few generations, and let me tell you my biggest fear:
that i do to my kid(s) what my parents did to me.
i want to be the best mom i can be (and it seems that you feel the same way), and, imho, you are taking this 110% seriously.
:hug:
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kat_kringle
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:13 PM
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i think one can have the experience of raising a child (or at least close to it), w.o having one.
for example:
my mom and myself switched roles, ie i was the parent figure, i took care of her.
babysitting (while this isn't really that great of a comparison, it still provides great experience)
taking care of nephews, cousins, little sisters/brothers, pets, grandmas grandpas...etc
does that make sense? i mean , i really don't know if this is a valid statement, so feel free to disagree.
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:13 PM
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You really have to at someone who loftily claims that "having children is the key to understanding what life is all about."
I mean, I don't know whether to :rofl: , :cry: or simply :eyes:
I think I'll :rofl:
And I have 3 kids. :P
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Mon Jul-21-08 05:27 PM
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4. I didn't open that one |
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I could start one that said, "How many of you have had kids and shouldn't have"-- A category I fall into, although it worked out fine in the end. You should hear the stories my kids tell. Mom of the year I wasn't, young, immature, and selfish. I figured out what I was doing about the time I ended up with step kids, thank goodness.
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:03 PM
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5. I already had that person on ignore |
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So I was deprived of the benefits of their wisdom.
MPK
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Mon Jul-21-08 06:59 PM
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it could have been a lot worse! Only one person went off the deep end.
I really respect people who withstand the societal pressure to have children. I love my kids and I worry so much about their future on this deteriorating planet.
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:08 PM
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7. Sorry - I think that was my fault |
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I deliberately pointed out the language used by psycho-parent-poster. :mad: I ignored the first post but by the second one I just. could. not. resist. the urge to reach out and deck her. Oh sorry, did I say that out loud?
I'm sorry I derailed your thread.
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Mon Jul-21-08 11:06 PM
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9. no I was already there angry as well |
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there is such a double standard: If you are childfree you are "missing something" and should be miserable and not happy about it
and unfortunately if you are a parent you are fulfilled (whether you know it or not) and should be happy and never regret it
The reality is much more complex... I was so touched by how many made the decision not to have kids because of that feeling of "brokenness" that comes from having a crappy childhood.
you didnt derail nuffin... it was already well on its way
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Mon Jul-21-08 09:54 PM
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8. No, you said exactly what you should have! |
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It was a very thought provoking thread as a lot of people shared their views on an extremely polarizing issue. I think for the most part everyone handled the subject quite respectfully. Truth be told, in an area of personal preference that intense, if you DON'T get flamed a time or two, you probably didn't word the OP correctly!:)
I felt it was a very honest and sincere post, and showed no animosity or condescension to the opposing viewpoint. Nicely done.
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Mon Jul-21-08 11:13 PM
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10. heh - count me as one |
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who doesn't share your view but doesn't worry about whether or not you have kids. Peace. :)
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Tue Jul-22-08 12:14 AM
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11. how dare you not agree with me and all my wisdom ..huff huff |
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seriously.. the world needs parents esp loving ones... peace back at ya :hug:
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