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Thu Aug-14-08 12:52 AM
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would you tell your SO if you had a sex dream about one of their co-workers? |
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and yes...i am asking for myself
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Thu Aug-14-08 12:53 AM
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After all, it was only a dream.
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Thu Aug-14-08 12:55 AM
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Because it might be made into something even if it's harmless. Even though we can't control our dreams, sometimes an SO might not take that in mind.
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:03 AM
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9. that's where i'm hedging |
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my guy is super laid back and likely would not care (i mean laid back to the point that he would not care if i lit the house on fire while cooking)...but part of me does not want to broach that subject with him
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:28 AM
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21. I wouldn't see it as keeping anything from him either. |
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Because you really can't control dreams.
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Thu Aug-14-08 12:55 AM
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Some things are better left unsaid.
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Thu Aug-14-08 12:57 AM
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Edited on Thu Aug-14-08 01:02 AM by CasualWatcher9
i tell my "so" any and every thought that comes into my mind, regardless of how that might make her feel.
because i believe in the truth...
and i don't care one shit about my "so".
hurt her? whatever. these are my thoughts. this is who i am. screw her...
:sarcasm:
eta. necessary? i don't think so, but lately?...
i tell her them pants make her look fat too. that's just how i roll...
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Thu Aug-14-08 12:57 AM
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5. Um...no?? Why would you? n/t |
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:08 AM
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Thu Aug-14-08 12:59 AM
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(Unless there was a better-than-even chance that a threesome would result, of course.)
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:01 AM
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7. if it involves some sort of furry henson creature, yes |
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otherwise no. skexis be damned.
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:04 AM
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11. i have no shame in my love for fizzgig |
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:13 AM
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:01 AM
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8. in truth, probably not, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't necessarily have them.... |
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Personally, I think the CONTENT of dreams is pretty meaningless-- it's just stuff substituted for sensory input to exercise neural pathways while we sleep, drawn from memories and associations constructed from memories. I dream about sex with some of my students occasionally-- god I hope none of them read this-- but it doesn't mean anything at all.
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:04 AM
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You have no control over your dreams, and they are not of consequence to your SO anyways. The only exception would be dreams about famous people. :)
Just think of the situation in reverse, I'm sure your SO has had dreams about others besides you, do you really want to hear about them?
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:09 AM
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13. I never have sex dreams anymore. Even in my dreams I remember I'm |
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monogymous and I've turned down Jessica Alba, Alicia Silverstone, and several girls from my old high school in my dreams.
I've told my girlfriend, and she finds it hilarious I can't even cheat in my dreams. I don't find it so funny.
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:10 AM
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:14 AM
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Hell no. I wouldn't tell my SO.
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:19 AM
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17. Depends how good the sex was. |
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:19 AM
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You can't control your dreams and I don't believe it necessarily indicates some underlying secret desire to schtupp your coworker. I think it would be sort of cruel to tell your SO and make him/her feel bad. Telling might assuage guilt on your part (however I don't think you need to feel guilty) but I don't think that's worth the risk of hurting your SO.
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:20 AM
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We talk about everything, and it's pretty difficult to control what you dream about. :hi:
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:26 AM
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:38 AM
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...and describe it in all it's orgasmic minute detail... :eyes:
Seriously, it isn't something I would want to burden my wife with, nor expect her to feel a need to share with me...but that is just the way our relationship is.
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Thu Aug-14-08 01:39 AM
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23. Speaking of my ex, HELL NO!! |
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She was so possessive and got hysterical over much less. She was even jealous over my straight friends, and my own sister.
Did I mention the Domestic Violence? Something like that would have surely pushed her into another hysterical episode.
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Thu Aug-14-08 02:00 AM
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24. I definitely would tell her |
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Edited on Thu Aug-14-08 02:00 AM by mokawanis
even though it might make her uncomfortable for 5 minutes. I even told my wife I had a dream about having sex with her sister on a crowded city bus, and I really don't know why I'm posting this on a public forum.:crazy:
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Thu Aug-14-08 02:02 AM
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25. keep that crap to yourself. |
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Thu Aug-14-08 02:37 AM
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dreams don't mean anything
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Thu Aug-14-08 03:33 AM
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27. Is the co-worker male or female? |
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This would make all the difference. :)
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Thu Aug-14-08 03:41 AM
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28. Uh...that would have to be a no. |
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Because that might make some waves on the home front.
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Thu Aug-14-08 05:28 AM
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29. Don't volunteer the information. |
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If he asks you, "Hey, do you ever have a fantasy about a co-worker?" If he really wants to know, tell him the truth, but remind him that everyone has fanasties, it does not mean he's not your guy...
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Thu Aug-14-08 05:45 AM
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Don't say a word, keep it to yourself!
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Thu Aug-14-08 06:29 AM
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31. No...my dreams are my own business....as are my SO's |
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That's a can of worms I would prefer not to open!
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Thu Aug-14-08 07:22 AM
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32. I would but I want to talk about something else... |
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don't tell the person you had the sex dream about. I am speaking from experience. My former roommate did that to me, telling me about the horribly-vivid dream his wife had about me. She's one of my best friends but I would be hard-pressed to think of a friend less attractive to me. He's amused that she had this dream. She's amused that she had this dream.
I am not amused. Nor flattered.
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Thu Aug-14-08 07:50 AM
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33. yes. Maybe even in detail |
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My wife and I always tell each other these things, actually. Or at least most of the time, I suppose; I'm sure there are many which get forgotten. But what it comes down to is that it's just a dream. Hell, we usually laugh about them - she once had a sex dream about a teacher of hers (in grad school) who she could not stand, and she thought it was funny and disturbing.
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Thu Aug-14-08 07:52 AM
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I once had an absolutely inexpicable dream about Steve-O, and CMW still hasn't let me live it down. :rofl:
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Thu Aug-14-08 08:07 AM
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35. Who doesn't have wicked dreams about Steve-O? |
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Wait, did I just say that out loud?
D'oh!
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Thu Aug-14-08 08:08 AM
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I have _no_ idea where the Steve-O dream came from. I find him repulsive in countless ways. :rofl:
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Thu Aug-14-08 10:12 AM
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:cry: I feel for you girl!! :P
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Thu Aug-14-08 10:34 AM
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44. I would take that dream back a thousand times if I could. |
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Even when I was dreaming, I couldn't believe it was happening. x(
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Thu Aug-14-08 10:37 AM
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45. We all have our nightmares! |
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Thu Aug-14-08 10:38 AM
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47. Thank you for validating me. |
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Thu Aug-14-08 08:22 AM
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37. I'm not that fucking stupid - or selfish. |
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Thu Aug-14-08 08:25 AM
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39. hell no. it's YOUR dream, not theirs. nt |
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Thu Aug-14-08 08:29 AM
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40. No. I don't see why they would need to know. It is just a dream, |
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but it could hurt their feelings and make you think you have a small thing for that worker. I wouldn't say a word. There is no point.
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Thu Aug-14-08 10:06 AM
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Thu Aug-14-08 10:15 AM
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43. no why hurt her unnecessarily? if i feel guilt about this, its my responsibility to resolve it |
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Thu Aug-14-08 10:38 AM
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46. I would, because we'd both find it interesting. Dreams are cool. |
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