I need a HUGE hug

[greenbriar]

I just found out today that one of my students 12 years old tried to hang herself Friday and IF she lives, she will never be a whole person again.

She was deprived of oxygen for at least 20 minutes probably more. They do NOT expect her to live at all.

I tried to be strong for the rest of my students but after about the 100th kid crying and hugging, I told my principal that I had to leave and left 1 hour early.



I can NOT imagine that life is so horrible for a 12 year old that she could take such drastic measures.


:cry:

[Beer Snob-50]

1. i am soooooooo sorry

i cannot imagine what could drive a 12 to doing this.

:grouphug:

[Parche]

2. wow

Like you said, what would make a 12 year old feel like that?

Big hugs

:hug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :hug: :hi:

[GreenPartyVoter]

5. Some kids are accidentally doing this while playing the choking game :(

I am so worried that my own kids will try something like that or start huffing. But I have stressed for years that these things are dangerous and kill brain cells if not all of you. They are pretty proud of their smarts so here's hoping that will deter them.

[greenbriar]

9. this was no accident

she very well knew what she was doing

[GreenPartyVoter]

10. :^(

[GreenPartyVoter]

3. :^( A kid in my school hanged himself with an extension cord, and all because

he was ticked off at his parents and wanted to show them. :cry:

I am hoping for the best possible outcome for your student. :hug: May she surpass the doctors' expectations.

[bertha katzenengel]

4. oh, god

:hug:

[NJmaverick]

6. I am sorry, that is very sad

:hug: :hug: :hug:

You are strong, to have held up as long as you did

[CaliforniaPeggy]

7. My dear greenbriar...

Hugs for you, sweetie...:hug: :hug:



Safe passage to her...

And my deepest condolences to all who love her...:hug:

[easttexaslefty]

8. suicide is the fifth leading

cause of death from ages 5-14 years old
It is the third leading cause of death from ages 15-24 years of age
Her parents have a terrible road ahead of them.
I belong to a online support group for parents of suicide {POS}
The support there is invaluable
many, many cyber hugs for you and her family:cry:

[Why Syzygy]

30. I'm going to check out your links ...

But do you know if those number correlate with a rise in psychotropic drugs prescribed to those age groups?

[SeaLyons]

11. That's so sad....

very disturbing and traumatic for you. :hug:

[proud2BlibKansan]

12. Oh no

How very very sad. The poor child. :cry:

[greenbriar]

13. and to see the pain on the students who asked to leave their rooms to come to mine

because they trust and love me just broke my heart


to see big confident boys cry so hard that their eyes are bloodshot and their face is wet from tears just broke my heart even more.

[GCP]

14. OMG that's truly awful

That poor girl.
I really think that that stage of life is the absolute hardest, and she must have been in terrific pain to try and kill herself like that.
Hugs to you and all your students :hug:

[XemaSab]

15. Oh NO!

How awful! :(

[bigwillq]

16. That's awful.

:( :cry:

Have a hug. :hug:

[fizzgig]

17. terrible doesn't even come close to describing the situation

thank you for comforting those kids, but make sure you get the help you need, too.

many :hug: to all touched by this

[Blue Diadem]

18. I'm so sorry greenbriar

:hug:

She's so very young to be that sad to think that life isn't worth living. I think for some kids it can be so spur of the moment they just don't realize what they're doing is permanent. Especially for kids and young adults, one suicide or attempt can somehow make it seem ok for others.

It'll be 3 yrs in Sept. since my granddaughter(she was 6) found a teenager hanging on her other grandparent's property. The school he came from had several suicide attempts and at least two more who did die. I tell you this because your school should keep an eye out for students who may be vulnerable.

You are strong greenbriar. I wouldn't have lasted as long as you did. :hug:

[greenbriar]

19. Thank you. That is what the Grief Counselors are worried about

is repeat or copy cat incidents




I especially feel bad as two weeks ago...the first week of school, I had them do an assignment about themselves and in this assignment, she said she was depressed and had an aweful life...I didn't really do anything about it and maybe if I had, things might have been different. I just chalked it up to "teen behavior" and not getting along with parents

[easttexaslefty]

23. People tend to think

if only they had done something,had noticed, had called more,etc., etc, etc.
If you had any idea that this poor girl was going to attempt suicide, you would have done anything to stop her...you didn't know. Be kind to yourself :hug:

[Blue Diadem]

27. You had no way of knowing

So many kids go through rough times. It's understandable that you'd chalk it up to teen behavior.

When I was her age I could have written what she did. I remember feeling depressed and alone at that age due to a pretty awful childhood. From about 10-14 my father who had always been abusive, became worse. I became the object of his degrading and abuse, but suicide never entered my mind. I just counted the years until I would graduate and could be out on my own. I so wish your student had done that too. :(

Be kind to yourself greenbriar. My prayers are with you, the girl, and everyone at your school.

:hug:

[MissMillie]

20. jeez.... that really sucks

:hug:

[Haole Girl]

21. So sad

:-(

Sending hugs... :hug: :hug: :hug:

[skygazer]

22. Oh, my, I'm so very, very sorry

That's a horrible thing to bear with anyone but with someone so very young....

Please don't beat yourself up, greenbriar (I read your post about the paper she wrote). Kids are impulsive and dramatic and it's often very hard to tell when someone is truly depressed or at risk - especially just from a paper. :hug:

[SPKrazy]

24. How Awful

remember we never see what goes on behind closed doors though and whatever her burden was, for whatever reason she saw no other way out.

:hug:

sorry that you are dealing with this, its okay to show emotions too

[TK421]

25. That is terrible....did you find out a reason for that?

[SalmonChantedEvening]

26. Oh no

:cry:

Hugs and tears and love greenbriar: :hug: :hug: :hug: :loveya:

All the vibes I can muster are heading her and your way.

[greenbriar]

28. Thank you all. The family needs the prayers now

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x8056466

[SeattleGirl]

29. I'm so sorry.

:hug: