Some people really should not have kids

[Tektonik]

Moms in La Jolla are the worst.

Many of the yuppie moms around here shop together with friends and bring like 3-4 kids along with them. The moms talk to each other, while the kids run amok screaming. Then the moms try to discipline the kids by telling them to stop it, but without any actual punishment other than limp threats, the kids still act up. Sometimes the moms are crazy enough to threaten physical punishment while in public. :crazy: The last thing the moms do though is interrupt their chat, shop, and much times with their friends.

Two things tonight while I was at work broke my heart. In the store I work at, there is a cafe attached where people can sit down and order food to eat. This mom and her kid were sitting down, and one of my coworkers noticed that the six month or so old had a pacifier on, not just any pacifier, but it was fucking taped to the kid's mouth .

The next thing there was a kid in a cart alone in the middle of an aisle who was talking to anyone who would pass by him. I thought nothing of it, but I kept an eye on him for about ten minutes, and holy hell he was still alone. His mom did come back, but I still felt sad. :(

[sammythecat]

1. I'm right with you on that.

It could never be done, for all sorts of reasons, but I wish we had some sort of super-wise and super-respected board of some kind that would have to give approval before couples could have a baby. We have license requirements for practically everything else, but any damn fool can be a parent. And it seems all the damn fools are the ones having the most kids.

[harmonicon]

2. no shit

I've been in San Diego the past few days helping my gf get moved into her new place, and it is a fucking jungle out there. We were in ikea the other day (I know, not La Jolla, which I know is even worse), and this woman was wheeling around this kid who was just shrieking at the top of his lungs, as if all was ok. Some woman she walked past covered her ears, and the lady with the shrieking kid takes the time to say to her husband/friend/person, "that woman's covering her ears like she's never heard a screaming kid before".

I've noticed this more and more lately: parents no longer raise their children. The shit that I see go down on a daily basis around here would have gotten me in such total deep shit when I was a little kid, that I wouldn't have even been bold enough to try it. Now it's just seen as being totally normal.

[Tektonik]

9. That Ikea is a nightmare on the weekend

All of Mission Valley gets to be a nightmare on the weekends.

Whatever happened to taking a kid out of a store if they are acting up?

[harmonicon]

16. Mission Valley is breaking my brain

I've been to some store there - a few multiple times - every day for the past 3 or 4 days, and I think today it just melted my brain.

[BlueIris]

3. Taped? Jesus Christ.

:cry:

[Kutjara]

4. Unfortunately, we're in about the third or fourth generation...

...of the era of "valueless parenting." These kids' parents don't raise them right because they weren't raised right themselves. It isn't a case of parents who should know better simply being lazy or rude. Most of these parents don't know any better, because they themselves were raised by clueless parents, more interested in "being all they could be" than wiping snotty noses. They're products of the "me first" generation, where the only reality is the one going on inside their heads, and the star of of the show is them. You, me and the rest of the world are just extras in their fabulous movie. Even their children are just bit-part actors.

[lady raven]

5. This made me sad

I was at the hospital last night to check in for a sleep study. You check in for those at the ER. While I was waiting, a couple came in with a baby boy about 12-15 months old. He was FILTHY- visible dirt everywhere. He was barefoot (and walking around the ER waiting room) and he had on nothing but a diaper. It was baggy because it was full and obviously hadn't been changed in awhile. Both parents were yammering away on nice looking cell phones but didn't bother to bring a diaper bag. I was very sad for the child.

[gbate]

6. Aw, poor kid.

It's cases like that in which I hope that they just ran out of diapers and had to bring the child in with them before giving him a bath.

[Arkansas Granny]

12. I've seen this more than once in grocery stores and other places.

Mom will be dressed nicely, hair done, makeup on, and baby will be sitting in the basket or following her around dressed totally inappropriately for the weather, face dirty, nose running, hair not combed. I feel that they must have no pride in their children at all and total disregard for their comfort or self-esteem.

[lady raven]

18. Not to mention their health!

This baby's diaper had obviously been on for quite some time (rash, anyone?) and he was walking around an emergency room waiting area in bare feet. God only knows what's on that floor.

[Bombero1956]

7. I had to yell at my youngest daughter last week

we went out to dinner and she let my granddaughter go to the lady's room by herself. Apparently she's never heard of kidnapping kids from public places. I told her that if she didn't escort her I was leaving.

[yellowdogintexas]

22. I stop total strangers and tell them to not lift their child by one arm esp if the

child is resisting in any way.

dislocated elbow, trip to ER anyone?

[distantearlywarning]

8. Those little kids grow up into university students like this one:

http://rateyourstudents.blogspot.com/2008/08/some-shitty-college-has-job-openinglike.html

[Symarip]

10. Occasionally I had to work La Jolla

And Del Mar, servicing appliances. Never again.

Shitty attitudes, shitty kids, shitty people.

Thank god I only had to spend an hour or two with most customers because I was always afraid I'd catch 'suck' by proxy.

[Tektonik]

11. La Jolla would be perfect if all the people left.

[undeterred]

13. ...

[elshiva]

20. AWWWWWW! That is so sweet.

:loveya:

Good mommy... :)


buffy

[LiberalEsto]

14. Cell phone parents piss me off

Everywhere I go in suburban Maryland I see parents yammering away on their cell phones, totally ignoring the kids with them. It's a real hot button with me.

It seems like it's more important for them to have a moronic conversation with some moronic friend instead of taking time to interact with their own child. Most of these people work full time, and get very little time to spend with their children. When they DO have time with the kids, they spend it yakking with adults on the phone.

I feel so sorry for these kids. What kind of message are they getting? Their parents are showing them that they are unimportant to them, and not worth interacting with. Kids are only young once. When they grow up they will very likely ignore these parents the same way they were once ignored by them.

When my kids (now in their early 20s) were little, I talked with them when we shopped. I tried to teach them good store manners, and talked about the items in the store. I taught them about being thrifty and shopping for bargains. I wasn't a perfect parent, but my kids like to come home to visit and spend time with us. They talk with us. I don't think the parents of these little kids will be able to say that when these kids grow up.

:rant:

[yellowdogintexas]

21. I talked to mine when she was barely old enough to keep her eyes open

as if she could answer back. I would ask her opinion on what we should get for supper, all kinds of things. This while she is sitting in the Infantseat in the cart.

An elderly lady came up to me and said " You just keep on talking to that baby like that. That is how they learn vocabulary, and I am a retired teacher, and I could always tell the ones whose parents talked to them like this"

Heck I was just doin' what my mother did.

My daughter is almost 24 now.

Oh yeah if I was out with her and she broke into a screaming fit we just left, or only stayed long enough to get the food, if it was grocery shopping. She was not inclined to have screaming fits over anything though.


(edited for a really dumb typo)

[Radical Activist]

15. La Jolla?

Some kind of regional chain store I take it?

[KitchenWitch]

17. La Jolla, CA - Just outside of San Diego

Yuppieville USA

[Tektonik]

19. Just a rich beach city suburb bordering San Diego

It's a great area, just the people suck.