A question about relationships/dating.

[Danger Mouse]

So let's say a girl says she's interested in me. Then over the weekend she has sex with somebody else. Then a couple days later she has sex with that same person again, multiple times, and then tells me about it in explicit detail.
Would it be safe to say that she's either:

[bicentennial_baby]

1. Other

It's entirely possible to be interested in someone and also have sex with other people. And it doesn't make you a "tramp".

[Danger Mouse]

5. I don't see it that way.

Especially since she knows how I feel about it.

[bicentennial_baby]

8. Well...

If you're not together, how you feel about it might not be relevant to her, honestly. Some people don't like to have their actions constrained, esp. by people that they're not even dating/in a relationship with yet.

And also, some people aren't built for monogamy. Not the norm, but it's true.

Good luck.

[petronius]

35. I think it's the telling him about it "in explicit detail" part that is key

It indicates a character flaw in this person that is totally unrelated to her views on monogamy, sexuality, or the OP. I wouldn't say she should be called a "tramp" or any other sexually derisive term, but cruel, insensitive, sadistic, etc. seem applicable...

[mcctatas]

2. Would you think a guy doing the same thing was a tramp?

freaking men and their dangly bits think they run the world! :hi:

[elshiva]

3. "dangly bits"

:rofl:

[Danger Mouse]

4. Yes, because I would NOT do what she is doing right now.

[Wetzelbill]

13. I got no real comeback

I tried, but nothing.

:rofl:

[flvegan]

6. Ooooo, I'm not touching this one.

:popcorn:

[mcctatas]

7. chickenshit...

:rofl:

[elshiva]

9. I didn't vote. I don't know what to say.

Sounds like you're hurting. I'm sorry. :hug:

[City of Mills]

10. She's a horny girl who's open with her sex life?

Maybe she doesn't want to be in a relationship but really enjoys sex.

[dawgmom]

11. Don't care for the "tramp" selection

She's got the right to explore her sexuality, and there's an implicit sexism in that term.

As I don't know the nature of the dynamics between the two of you, it's hard for me to judge accurately. My guess would be, judging from the fact that you've posted this, that it disturbs you. If she knows you at all, she must be aware that it disturbs you. So, at the very least, I would say that her telling you about it is unkind. Very unkind.

On the other hand, this could be her way of telling you that she's not looking for an exclusive relationship. So, perhaps that's useful information for you to have. Don't forget to wrap that rascal.

[Wapsie B]

19. That's a good way of putting it.

Can't add anything to that at all.

[Gidney N Cloyd]

12. She's definitely jerking you around.

And that's not a trait that'll ever quite go away. If you don't like playing that game, take a pass on her.

[last_texas_dem]

14. Could be one or several of the above, but mostly

she just sounds like she's worth staying away from...

[Dangerously Amused]

15. Are you interested in her?

[Orrex]

16. She says she's interested in you. Does she also say she's interested in this 'somebody else,' too?

Tell you what. You should go have sex with this 'somebody else' multiple times, and tell her about it in explicit detail.

See how she likes it!

[Orsino]

17. Different strokes for different folks.

Doesn't sound as though you're that into her.

[TZ]

18. If you are uncomfortable with this behavior

I would say you should take this as a warning sigh that you are NOT compatible with this person.
My advice would to look elsewhere for a relationship. I can't see anything good here for you.

[Wetzelbill]

20. That was a hurtful thing for her to do

Depending on how you feel about her it could be pretty humiliating.

But if she said she was interested in you and you are interested in her, you needed to go for it right away. If you care for her, tell her how you feel, and that it hurt to have her tell you that not just once, but to do it again and tell you in detail. But if she had sex with somebody that doesn't make her bad or a tramp or anything like that. Some people are just more open sexually than others, or maybe she likes you but doesn't believe in monogamy. If you still like her, talk it out and give it a shot. People deserve second chances. Just don't let her continually hurt you though.

[Jack_Dawson]

21. Been there. She's a whore. Get out.

It's her fucked up way of finding out "if you care or not." If you want her to care and grovel, blow her off 100%. No texts, no drunk dials, no taking her phone calls. That will show her you have a backbone and aren't some chump who wants to hear her about her sexual exploits. Be a man, and she'll be into you.

If you want her to be. Trust me on this.

-JD

[LeftyMom]

22. She's someone you do not want all up in your house with disease.

She doesn't sound like a real winner in terms of emotional stability either. You'll need a ten foot pole with this one. Then attach it to another ten foot pole, stick a condom on the end of that, douse the whole thing in bleach and light it on fire just to be sure.

[Danger Mouse]

26. Heh, yes, her emotional stability is questionable. I've left out a LOT...

of our past history. lol.

[kwassa]

23. She's manipulative and dishonest

and I'd turn around, walk away, and never look back. She is who she is, and there is no future there.

[CBHagman]

24. Compared to her brain, her you-know-what is celibate.

She tells you she's interested and then gives you all the details about what she's being doing with someone else? :puke: Not a person who is even close to well-adjusted. Recommend counseling and/or a support group for addicts and leave.

[crim son]

25. I voted for "other" (you're with her right now, aren't you?) :P

She isn't sure what she wants, but she does consider you somewhat disposable. It's possible she might change her mind but you must be wary.

[MilesColtrane]

27. She's teasing you.

The next time she starts in with that shit tell her in no uncertain terms that you don't want to hear it.

[LadyoftheRabbits]

28. I just get the general feeling

that anything with her probably wouldn't end well.

[Danger Mouse]

31. You were right.

:cry:

[LadyoftheRabbits]

33. I'm very sorry...

I wish I hadn't been. :( I know there's much better waiting for you. :hug:

[snailly]

29. Just because someone says they are "interested" in you

doesn't mean you're in a relationship. So what if she has sex with other people? It really isn't your business yet you're the one listening to the details and calling her a tramp when you should just move on. How's that for a run on sentence?

[MrSandman]

30. Other....

You are feeling jerked around enough to call her a name on one hand but allow leeway on the other.

What do you want and do you truly belief she has it?

[Lucian]

32. She's full of shit.

If she was interested in you, then she'd spend time with you, and not the other guy.

I'd get over her quickly and move on if I was in this situation.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

34. Do you really want to date someone who tells you about her sex life

with other men in explicit detail?

What makes you think she wouldn't do the same, i.e. have sex with you and then tell other men about it in explicit detail?