Dropping the F-U or F-O bomb

[BeachBaby]

This is a big deal to me, sweeties - so help me out here.

I'm almost 40 years old - and up until this point, I have NEVER EVER used the "Fuck you" or "Fuck off" bombs on ANYONE. I know that alot of people use it in different contexts (messing around with their friends and such), but I've never had the desire or the need to say it. Yet. But I may be getting there.

I imagine it's alot easier to say it to someone I don't know, than to someone I know and care about. Here's a couple examples:

Jersey/NYC traffic - Lord knows I've done the whole "What the fuck!" or "fucking moron!" thing when I get cut off, or someone slams on their brakes for no apparent reason.

Eagles games - a couple Dallas fans sitting in front of me, turning around and looking directly at me and other Eagles fans, taunting us, ON EAGLES TURF, and doing their victory dance. In the past, I've said "Are you out of your fucking minds? You *do* know where you are, don't you?" or "Take your fucking star and get the fuck out of my face!"

Phillies games - same scenario as the above example, but with drunk Mets fans sitting behind me, very loudly cursing out the Phillies. I turned around and said "What's your fucking problem? GO HOME."

As for people I know, this is as far as I've gotten with it:

To my boss - he didn't file a motion in time, his client got pissed, tried to get a continuance, got reamed out by a judge, and so he took his frustrations out on me. You know, blame the legal staff. My reply: "What - so *you* fuck up, and *I* get shit for it?" (My boss and I are pretty close and I'm friends with his wife)

To my ex-husband - I find out he's cheating on me, and when I tell him I'm done with him and I'm leaving, he makes a snarky egotistical comment, tries to stop me, and I respond with "Get the fuck out of my way".

For whatever reason, I could never bring myself to say "Fuck you" or "Fuck off" in any of these situations. I guess I've always considered those two phrases to be two of the lowest blows that dialogue ever produced.

So.....I need you all to tell me your perception of these two phrases. Do you use them frequently? Infrequently? Rarely? Never? And if you *do* use them, could you give me an example of when you do?

And PLEASE - do not think for a second that I think any less of people who use the expressions. I often wish I had the nerve to say it myself, when needed. I imagine it can be very effective when used in particular situations.

[madinmaryland]

1. Ahh!! So you were the Sore Loser that didn't like looking at my star!!!!!

:rofl:

[BeachBaby]

3. Um, actually.....

we won that game.

And sorry about our Philly cops being so rough on you - did your jaw heal properly? :rofl:

[Heidi]

2. Very, very rarely.

It's sure not something I aspire to do more often. I just know that when I use the "f word" it sounds unnatural, and it seems that it says more about me than about whatever it is that p!ssin' me off. I've heard plenty of other people use the "f word" and I have to admit, it sounds perfectly natural sometimes when other people say it, like an appropriate response to certain situations. It just doesn't feel natural to me. :shrug:

[DarkTirade]

4. I tend to curse a lot, but not AT people.

I do recall saying 'fuck off' once here on DU though... someone kept trying to twist my words to make me look like a bigot, finally when I realized that no amount of explaining myself would work, that person was either A) purposely twisting my words to try to get my goat, or B) had already made up their mind about me before ever actually talking to me. So I said, "Y'know what? Fuck off. I explained myself perfectly well. If you want to keep misinterpreting what I said, that's your problem. Not mine."

[curse of greyface]

5. Sometimes I swear like Gordon Ramsey at a Taco Bell.

Hey it is effective and cathartic at the same time.

[SoxFan]

6. "Like Gordon Ramsey at a Taco Bell"

:spray:

[Heidi]

7. Or "Like Gordon Liddy in a Speedo."

That'd prolly coax the F word outta me. :wtf:

[curse of greyface]

8. You really need to post a warning with that. nt

[Heidi]

9. What part of "Gordon Liddy in a Speedo" caught you off guard?

:rofl:

[curse of greyface]

11. I'm one of those illiterates that looks at the pictures before reading.

:dunce:

[Heidi]

12. You can't fool me.

You're clearly far from illiterate, smarty pants. :pals:

[Jamastiene]

14. I'll second that.

:scared:

[Heidi]

15. WARNING: This post contains recursive David Hasselhoff!!!!!!

[Jamastiene]

19. OMGOMGOMGOMGOMG, I may never be right again!

My eyeballs. My brain. BLEACH!!! OMG, :scared: :tinfoilhat: :cry:

Why did I click the link? Now, I gotta try to remember all that gibberish * said about Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, I'm a fool, something like that.

Note to self: Heidi does not play. *whimper*


:P

[billyskank]

10. Come to think of it, I don't ever actually use them

although I may think them sometimes... ;)

:loveya:

[BeachBaby]

17. Hi honey!

Why doesn't that surprise me? :hug:

Enjoying your stay in the United States of Obamamerica? ;)

Any chance you're heading up Philly way? :hi: :loveya:

[billyskank]

18. Awww

Thanks. :hug:

I really wish I was headed up your way. I didn't have enough money this year for lots of travelling. :( But we can arrange to do it next year if maybe you like...

:loveya:

[Jamastiene]

13. Fuck, I don't know.

I mean, I don't say it in a "Fuck off" or "Fuck you" kind of way unless I'm thoroughly pissed off at someone.

I do say it in other non insulting ways, though. It's not that big of a deal in those ways to me at all. :shrug:

[Iggo]

16. All day every day.

It's how I talk. It started probably in the 6th grade. Much like other little boys, I perfected it as I moved along through junior high to high school. Saw no need to change it when I was a huge stoner in my late teens and twenties. Again, no need to change it when I became a serious drug addict around 29 or 30. And again, no need to change it as I moved on to be a drug procurer and provider. It was kind of an asset in jail. And now that I'm in the construction industry, it's normal language. One has to be careful around the chronically offended, but that's about it. Basically, it's just the seasoning in my salty language.

I don't really use it as fighting words. (When I want to start a fight I use polite sounding questions about decidedly impolite subjects. I'm a dick like that.)

[lost-in-nj]

20. I say them both

but usually Fuck you.....

and I say


go fuck yourself......

usually out of frustration

:hi:


lost

[LanternWaste]

21. Very rarely...

Very rarely, and then usually when I allow myself to lose control a bit. Getting up in the middle of the night and stubbing my toe on the bed post can easily elicit that phrase from me. So too can spilling coffee onto my lap in the mornings.

But for the most part, any cursing I do is at a minimal level, instead replaced with nonsensical phrases ("monkey stuffing meatballs!" is one example I got called on to explain on Monday).