Have you or haven't you gotten along with your Mother-In-Law?

[MrScorpio]

My Mother-In-Law, was the sweetest, kindest, most lovingest person in the whole wide world.

I miss her, dearly.

Mother-in-laws, or the mate's mom, in my opinion, is the most important link to a mate's family. outside of that mate.

[Symarip]

1. My ex's mom was a piece of work

Didn't hate her. Didn't love her. Just stayed away from her.

She was a religious nut.

[Crazy Dave]

2. I still get along great and told I'm still loved by my ex in laws

There's even relatives of ex girlfriends I miss more than them

[PassingFair]

41. All of my old boyfriends LOVED my Dad.

One time, a date came to pick me up, and
my Dad was sitting on the front porch with
THREE of my old boyfriends.

It was a very tense situation for my date. (And ME)
My Dad thought it was hilarious.

[meow2u3]

3. I was never married

Therefore, I do not, nor did I ever, have a MIL.

[Lincolngirl]

4. Mine was fine

until we moved 10 miles from her. Then, not so good!

[GoddessOfGuinness]

5. I got along with her

...but only with great effort.

When she passed away, I was sorry for my husband, my son, my stepkids, and those who would miss her. But honestly, I shed not a tear.

[shanine]

6. no, no, yes

[redqueen]

7. In my first serious relationship,

I liked his mom very much, we got along great.

In my marriage, that wasn't the case.

[cemaphonic]

8. Both my in-laws are great.

Feisty old Jewish liberal that loves life to the fullest and doesn't let anything slow her down. On top of that, she is very generous and thoughtful, and has a great sense of humor.

[flvegan]

9. I loved my Mother in Law before/during/after I was married.

And my Father in Law was an absolute blessing. Even after the divorce, they were very kind, incredible people.

Hell, if my ex-wife was more like my Mother in Law...things might not be like this.

[DarkTirade]

10. I'm reminded of an incident that happened about 10 years ago.

Both my mom and her mother-in-law read murder mysteries. One day I came home from school to see a murder mystery entitled, "How to Murder a Mother-in-law" lying on the counter. I jokingly asked my mom if that was educational reading. She responded with, "Oh, grandma sent me that one. She thought I'd like it."

I did a double-take and asked, "Which grandma."

"My mother-in-law."

Let it never be said that my grandma doesn't have a sense of humor. :P

[NanceGreggs]

11. I lost my dear MIL, Sweet Eileen ...

... last year.

From the moment we met (sixteen years ago), she was my best friend, my confidant, my mentor - and everything I wanted to be when I grew up (assuming I ever would).

We shared a million laughs. We loved the same books, the same movies, the same jokes, the same music - and, oh yeah, and I think she loved the way I love her son, 'cause mothers are kinda like that and all.

I'd say I miss her every day since she's gone - but she's with me all the time. And I can feel her arms around me as I type these words ...

[NMDemDist2]

12. the first two, not so much, this one's a keeper though

just like her son

:evilgrin:

[Connonym]

13. my ex-MIL is part of the reason I have an ex

Nasty, nasty bitch who did everything she could to wreck both her sons' marriages (and succeeded with both). I hate that she's the grandmother of my children.

[old mark]

14. Both my in-laws wre wonderful to me - better in many respects

than my parents. I feel very fortunate in having had them.
They are both dead now, but I still think about them frequently.
(My father in law was a rabid Phillies fan, and he would have really felt vindicated by the World Series win - We bought Phillies T shirts in his honor.)

mark

[Arkansas Granny]

15. My MIL and I were never close, but we respected each other and always

got along with each other, even after the divorce.

[Haole Girl]

16. I still have never met her, and it's been 15 years

That must be a record, huh?

:rofl:

[av8rdave]

21. That's amazing. Do you guys communicate?

[Haole Girl]

26. Yes, we've talked on the phone many times

She seems like a very nice lady. I will get to India, eventually, since his parents always have one excuse or the other not to come here!

[av8rdave]

28. Hmmmmmm...

I wonder what airline you should take...

[Haole Girl]

29. One that might have some availability?

:rofl:

[LostinVA]

17. I do when she isn't having a crazed faux bipolar moment

And, I mean that, seriously. She isn't bipolar, but her freakout moments are very similar to bipolar maniac episodes.

[Tommy_Carcetti]

18. Against every bone in my better nature, I do.

The woman is a staunch Fox News watching republican, driven by fear and xenophobia, easily agitated, will pick petty fights with customer service, and just simply not the brightest bulb in the box. Compared to my own mom's cooking, her food is rather dull and utilitarian--the saddest part is, she's Italian. What sort of Italian simply pours out a jar of Ragu on pasta without doing anything special to it?

But she has a great sense of humor, loves her children and her grandchildren, and watches my daughter 5 days a week. And that saves me several thousands of dollars a year that would otherwise have to go to day care. And when a tough situation came up earlier where I had to help her and my father in law out, I didn't hesitate twice to step in on my behalf and was able to resolve it.

So despite all her flaws, we get along fine. Whenever she says something off the wall or stupid, I just kind of smile, bite my tongue and steer the situation away from global politics.

[BarenakedLady]

19. I didn't for many years.

Then we got closer and then she died.

[av8rdave]

20. I've been very fortunate

All of my in-laws (current and ex) are good, decent people that I am more than happy to spend time with.

Kind of a neat little in-law story:

My maternal grandmother passed away in the mid 90s. I always assumed my Dad got along well with her. If he didn't, he and she sure did a good job of keeping it private!

My assumption was confirmed at visitation, the day before her funeral. My father and I stood at her casket, paying our last respects to my grandmother and his mother in-law. My father turned to me and said, "you know, because of her, I've never been able to tell or enjoy a mother in-law joke. I just didn't get them."

[Mad_Dem_X]

22. I chose Other...

We get along for the most part, but we have butted heads many times. I won't get into details, but sometimes she makes me want to scream. :grr:

[guitar man]

23. she passed in '03

We had our differences and our agreements. We didn't get along so well at first, but later on we came to understand each other. I had to show her the door once early on, seems she got a little confused about who's house she was in. After that,she learned to respect me.

[Aristus]

24. My relationship with my m-i-l is a little strange.

I love her dearly. She is kind, generous and loving.

But she's also an ultra-conservative, right-wing fundie whacko who thinks God put B*sh into the White House, that the occupation of Iraq is a holy crusade ordained by God, and that the "End Times" are coming, because the "Left Behind" books say so.

And yes, like I said: I love her. I just tend to roll my eyes when she talks talking about anything other than family. Evidently, the wi-fi reality signal from the outside world doesn't reach her brain...

[BarbaRosa]

25. Never got to meet my MIL

but if daughter is anything like Mother, I think we would have gotten along great.

[surrealAmerican]

27. Like yours, she is one of the nicest people I have ever met.

The rest of his family is also wonderful.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

30. While I do not have a MIL

This reminds me of the anecdote about my maternal grandparents. My maternal grandparents initially had reservations about my Dad (although they didn't show it in their dealings with him) because he was from a different culture from my mother. But they grew to love him so much that they once told my mother that if they ever divorced, Mum could go her own way and they'd keep Dad!

[grannylib]

31. I've been incredibly blessed by my in-laws...my FIL is gone now,

but my dear MIL is still living on her own at 86 and doing really well. She's amazing, and I love her to bits, and I couldn't have picked a better one if I'd tried. In many ways I get along better with her than I do my mom.

[latebloomer]

32. used to get along great

till she suddenly moved in with us 15 months ago (long story). Her annoying habits-- smoking on the porch all day, never getting dressed, monopolizing the LR with the TV blasting constantly and the lack of personal space and privacy drive me out of my friggin mind.

This is supposed to be temporary but I just don't know.

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[kentauros]

34. I never met her.

She died shortly after we got married. Eight years later we separated.

I may get to meet the future MiL in NZ soon

[mokawanis]

35. We get along well

but I'm still glad I only see her a few times each year.

[madrchsod]

36. i told my mother in law to go get fucked.....

we were best friends after that...i was the only one in her "family" ever to call here out!

[SeattleGirl]

37. My former mother-in-law passed away nearly 20 years ago.

She was a wonderful, kind, loving, and funny woman, and to this day, I miss her.

[yellowdogintexas]

38. depends on which one!! My current husband's mom was the BEST!

I am happy she was my daughter's grandmother, and I still miss her. (been gone 10 years now)

My first MIL however was truly a mental case. She had been in and out of mental hospitals several times before I ever met her. Interestingly, all 3 of the kids first marriages failed miserably. The second marriages for them seem to have gone OK.

My second marriage was infinitely better, and would have been regardless of MIL/FIL issues.


Oh and my husband if he were here would remind me that he told some of our friends that he married me to get my cat and my mother. (joking of course) He adored my mom.

[AirmensMom]

39. I wasn't good enough for her son

34 years ago and I'm still not. Too bad she drove him away as well.

[NNadir]

40. Most of the time, no, but she has her good moments as she ages.

Eventually they become sweet old ladies.

My grandmother was hell on wheels to my mother, but I always thought of her as a sweet old lady.

I didn't really know my mother-in-law that well in the first decade of my marriage, as we lived far away, but my wife had a lot of complaints. I didn't get it until we moved closer.

[RetroLounge]

42. My ex-mother-in-law is a wonderful woman whom I love

her daughter on the other hand...

RL

p.s. and to be clear, i loved my first ex-mother-in-law too...

[Saphire]

43. I haven't spoke to my MIL in 8 years...and have no intentions

to ever speak to her again. Ironical, she lives only a few blocks away.

[fortyfeetunder]

44. Too bad there is no category for "Hell No"

I have chosen not to deal with this woman.
I won't resort to name calling but you can imagine :evilgrin:

[crim son]

45. My inlaws made my early married life miserable.

When my FIL died it became a little easier but my MIL has never stopped trying to turn my kids into good little jew-hating Catholics, despite my endless explicit requests that she keep a lid on it. The thing is, she has an intense personality and so do I so even when we're getting along, we're not. Still, my kids will be celebrating Thanksgiving with the STBE husband and his family. I don't dislike her so much that I'd try to keep her from seeing her grandchildren.