Eight years ago tonight, my 8 months pregnant sister was killed in a car accident.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

I remember my husband, who was then my boyfriend, and his mother's faces as they told me the news. I was at school, and they drove up the following morning to drive me back home. I remember repeating over and over "I can't do this." And rocking back and forth, just remembering the last time I saw her face.
The last day I spent with her, we went Christmas shopping together. We had had lunch at my favorite Mexican place, because it was her favorite. And When we got to Service Merchandise, I remember TJ, the baby that was to be born the next month, responding to my voice and kicking when I laughed before we got out of the car.
After eight years, not much has changed. I can still see her laughing. I still miss her and think of what might have been.
Thanks for listening.
Duckie

[BarenakedLady]

1. I'm so very sorry.

:hug:

[leftyclimber]

2. ..

:hug:

[auntAgonist]

3. I'm glad you can still hear her laughing ...

She'll always be alive in your heart.
Cherish the good memories.
:hug:

aA
kesha

[RevolutionaryActs]

4. Oh, I'm sorry.

:hug:

[applegrove]

5. Very sorry for you and your family. That is a tough one.

[grannylib]

6. Oh, dear Duckie...I am so sorry. What a loss, and it's SO hard

to have that anniversary around the holidays...
My oldest daughter was killed by a drunk driver 11 years ago, just after Christmas, and it still sucks.

I am so sorry...I am sure you still miss her terribly...
My heart goes out to you :hug:

[LynzM]

7. I'm so sorry...

My heart goes out to you... I'm glad that you can still see her smile and hear her laugh. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Quakerfriend]

8. Dear Duckie, please know

that she IS with you.

Years ago, in '98 when I had cancer, I had many a 'visit' from relatives who were on the other side- including my baby sister who 'crossed over' in '96.


It was only at that time that I experienced this. Most of my contact with my be loved ones came through dreams. They told me things that I was able to confirm with living family members!

The one dream I remember most vividly, is a perfect example. A women came to me in dream and said, "I am Jane. You will always be with your boys" - as in this life, and the afterlife.

My Aunt Jane had died of cancer when I was five. She left behind 3 young sons. At the time, my sons were 1 and 4. It seems that she was letting me know that, no matter what, we would always be together.

Aunt Jane's father happened to be a prominent oncologist.

The very next day after the dream, a friend of my mothers came to my door and gave me a book. When I opened the book to look through it I happened to open to page 454- And, there at the bottom of the page was a quote from Aunt Jane's father- the oncologist- He said, it was of utmost importance that the cancer patient keeps an optimistic outlook on life, and that this had the most profound effect on their survival.

I can only believe that she and he were sending me this message!

You see, They ARE with us! Many times I felt my relatives presence- as if they were only an arms length away. I have no doubts anymore!

As hard as it is missing your sister, I hope that this gives you some solice. :hug:

[flvegan]

9. What a horrible "anniversary" YRD.

I'm sorry.

[ThomCat]

10. Oh I'm so sorry.

:cry:

:hug:

I'm very sorry this happened. I hope you are well, and I'm thinking about you.

[SPKrazy]

11. so sorry sweetie

:hug: :hug: :hug:

if you need to talk, you know where to find me

I bet you do miss her...

hang in there

[RFKHumphreyObama]

12. I'm so sorry beyond words

My deepest and sincerest thoughts, prayers, sympathies and condolences:hug: :hug: I'm really so, so, so very sorry:hug:

[graywarrior]

13. Oh man, that is a tough thing to go through

I didn't know and I am sorry for your loss, YRD.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

14. big big hug for you, Duckie.

I never had a sister. May you always remember the good times you had. :hug:

[1gobluedem]

15. I can't even find the words to express my sympathy

I'm so, so very sorry. I'm glad she's still in your heart. :hug:

[UrbScotty]

16. .

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

17. Oh my dear Duckie, I am so very sorry, sweetie...

Oh god how awful. I have no words...

You are in my thoughts...

:hug:

[silverojo]

18. I don't think you ever really get over grief

No matter what anybody says. You may not cry as much or as often, but when it hits, it still hits you just as hard. :(