If you had to choose true love vs. comfort and security forever...

[TZ]

What would you choose? Would you pursue love even if you knew you would risk things that you knew and were comfortable with? Or risk a lifestyle you are accustomed to?
Once I told a friend that I would move to another country in pursuit of love..and they were astonished at the risk I would be taking. Personally, I think one needs to at least try or you will live with regret all your life. To try and fail is understandable..but to not even try because of fear of the unknown or fear of losing the status quo? That to me is a sad way to live.
I would be interested in hearing others perspectives on this.

[skygazer]

1. I've never chosen comfort and security over anything

I've always taken risks that other people have been jaw-droppingly astonished by. Had I not taken them, I never would have ended up anywhere or done anything, or landed where I am which is the best place I've been in my life.

I would absolutely risk all for true love - I would rather be insecure, poor and happy than comfortable and miserable.

[TZ]

2. "I would rather be insecure, poor and happy than comfortable and miserable"

Ah, I wish more people would have that attitude....

[AlCzervik]

3. i didn't have comfort and security until i met my true love.

[Fire Walk With Me]

4. True love.

Difficult to find, among fear-based people.

[TZ]

7. Indeed.

I think that is indeed correct. Love is much too scary for those types.

[BeachBaby]

8. I just found that out today.

Sad commentary of what our society has become.

[Deja Q]

5. Comfort and security

If love is fleeting and not eternal, then it is true that a job is more likely to outlive any relationship.

[Mrs.Matcom]

6. True love!

Finally found him, and I'm so glad I did! Can't imagine my life without him. Even after 15 years together, I am still excited to see him first thing in the morning and at the end of my work day. He is my world!

[BeachBaby]

28. That's what I want. n/t.

[redqueen]

9. But what is "true" love?

I'd still choose love over comfort and security.

If I put 'comfort and security' on one side of a scale, and 'love' on the other, there's no question which one holds more weight. IMO only of course.

[Marrah_G]

10. Either one would be nice to try.

Once I thought I had both, but it was an illusion.

The Gods have an odd sense of humor.

[PassingFair]

11. Are there children involved?

Security for them is my main concern.

My choices may be clouded by the fact
that I already have "true love" with
their father.

[rug]

12. How much comfort?

[Pierre.Suave]

13. true love

no questions.

[Fire Walk With Me]

14. True Love.

http://www.amazon.com/True-Love-Practice-Awakening-Heart/dp/1590301889

[quakerboy]

15. the comfort and security of true love...

ha. Check and mate, my friends.

[Jamastiene]

16. I see it the same way you do, basically. n/t

[Lydia Leftcoast]

17. You can always work with your true love to establish comfort and security

But seriously, some of the happiest days of my life were in graduate school and in Japan, when I was poor in material comforts (living without central heating in Japan, sometimes surviving on cereal at the end of the month in graduate school) but surrounded by interesting people and interesting things to do.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

18. What if you choose true love but, true love does not choose you?

then what?

[BeachBaby]

19. Hmmmmm.....

I am now convinced that you are my sock puppet. :P

:hi: :hug:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

20. yeah, have to remember that it takes two...

and they get to make a choice too. sucks but, there it is. :hug: :hi:

[BeachBaby]

21. Believe me, I'm all too aware of "choices"......

but when one chooses to make your happiness your #1 priority, only to do a 180 and decide "nah - I changed my mind", you really gotta wonder if any of this is worth it. It scares me how a guy can say soooooo many things that give a woman faith and hope in what they have together, only to take it back, out of fear.

FEAR.

Jesus.

Okay - I'm done. Sorry. :hug:

[TZ]

22. ....

Some people are just too foolish to know when they have a good thing, check that--a great thing. Although I'm not really a karma person, I do strongly feel that someone is really gonna regret bad choices made very very soon.
:hug: :hug: :hug:

[BeachBaby]

25. .....

Well, if your theory is correct.....

he's gonna have ALOT of 'splainin to do.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

23. stick a fork in me

cause I am done. ;) :hug:

[Deja Q]

29. Twice the comfort and security?

[RadiationTherapy]

24. "true" love? If it is "true" love, then how can there be a question?

Love is created, not fated. It has to be worked for and even forced sometimes. Whatever your choice is, the love is not going to be self-sustaining.

That said, I think life is for risk taking and never feel more alive than when I step out of line. Have fun!

[hippywife]

26. I already did.

I've never regretted it, and I would do it all over again. :hi:

[Iggo]

27. Love always.

I'm wired that way.

[dixiegrrrrl]

30. I found both, actually.

In one relationship.
They are not mutually exclusive, but we both were older and wiser about what we wanted in life before we met.