A friend of mine committed suicide last night.

[Shell Beau]

Not a really close friend, he is more of a close friend of some of my friends. No one had a clue. He was only 28. His dad also committed suicide a few years ago. So tragic and shocking.

The older you get, the more people you know die. Even at the ripe ole age of 30, I know at least 4 people who have committed suicide.

[RiffRandell]

1. I'm sorry.

So many people I know from high school have died, and I'm 39.

[applegrove]

2. So sorry.

[rurallib]

3. Hope he found peace

The worst thing about a suicide is those left behind to deal with the loss and the questions.
My sympathies to you also.

[Shell Beau]

6. I hope he found peace too. No one knew he wasn't at peace.

At least from what I can tell so far. His girlfriend is beyond shocked. I feel so badly for his mom. She lost her husband and now her only son to suicide. It leaves so many questions. I hope she can find peace too.

[Aristus]

4. Oh Shell...

I'm so sorry. He must have been in a lot of pain...

[no name no slogan]

5. Sorry to hear that Shell

:hug:

[Wapsie B]

7. I am so sorry.

[av8rdave]

8. That's truly horrible

What a terrible thing for his friends and family.

So sorry for the loss :(

[InternalDialogue]

9. Sorry to hear it, Shell Beau.

One is too many to lose to suicide. You've been through more than you deserve.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

10. I am so sorry, my dear Shell...

Sometimes when a parent does this, it becomes an acceptable escape for the child or other close friends and family...

Safe passage to him...

Hugs to you and to all who love him... :hug: :hug:

[bigwillq]

11. That's awful.

I am sorry. :hug:

[sammythecat]

12. Terrible tragedy.

I've been fortunate not to have any close experience with that yet. It has to be truly awful for everyone involved.

WHO statistics show 2,160 suicides everyday(1/40sec.) worldwide and that's with no data from Africa, or much of the Middle East and Indonesia. 87 everyday in this country.

[UndertheOcean]

13. I know 2 .

[mentalsolstice]

14. I'm so sorry!

Suicide is always difficult to understand. My grandmother committed suicide and my cousin (we grew up like sisters) has attempted several times, the last time she was so frickin' near successful. I volunteer for our local crisis center, but I stay with rape issues, as I can't be objective with suicide issues...the person who did it was suffering so much pain, yet those of us left behind have so many pieces to pick up.

[RagAss]

15. Sorry to hear it. I'm 50 and knew 14 so far...5 of them very close.....

Some people quit early and some stay too late.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

16. I'm so sorry...

If only he'd sought help... :hug::hug::hug:

[nomorenomore08]

21. No offense, but I don't know that it's really as simple as "seeking help."

That seems to be a rather standard response in cases like this, as if the right therapist or pill would have miraculously "cured" the person of whatever was wrong in his/her life. I'm just not convinced that this is universally true...

And I speak somewhat from experience here, having been to several different therapists, taken escalating doses of Zoloft for over a year, and deciding in the end to "go it alone" (no therapy, no medication) because none of this was "solving" what was wrong with me. And several years later I don't think I'm any worse off. :shrug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

25. I'm sure it isn't a miracle cure...

but at least it's an effort. Your therapy may not have produced the effect you expected; but you were able to discern that it wasn't working. Are you able to rationalize enough to avoid self-injury?
If you found yourself contemplating suicide, would you seek a friend, a therapist, or call a hotline?
They certainly would not take the pain away instantly; but they could keep you from killing yourself.

There's so much unknown about depression. Who knows when the next rennaissance occurs, and we find that popping a pill can work wonders?

[nomorenomore08]

27. I guess I can "rationalize" my way out of the worst thoughts, but I've kind of accepted

the underlying depression as a part of life, and I'm really no longer interested in any "professional" help. But I have no problem with other people doing whatever works for them...

[fizzgig]

17. i'm so sorry, shell

peace and healing to all those who knew him :hug:

[nuxvomica]

18. I'm so sorry

It's like sand slipping through your fingers. Peace to you and his friends and family. :hug:

[Dangerously Amused]

19. I hope he found peace.

And I'm sorry you have to deal with the aftermath.

[nomorenomore08]

20. Very sorry to hear about this.

Some people just can't handle living in this world, and while I don't want to glorify or romanticize the act, I don't condemn them either. There but for the grace of God, etc. etc., particularly so in my case - I've never actually attempted suicide, but I've come close to trying a couple of times. So I think I have a degree of insight into the motives of those who take their own lives, though of course each individual case is different...

[Shell Beau]

22. I think people must be in a world of hurt to do it.

I have never contemplated it. I never could either. I say that because of what it leaves behind. So many people hurt from it. His poor mama has to be suffering so much right now. It is just tragic. I hate that he was in so much pain that that felt like his only way out of it.

[nomorenomore08]

23. I think that some suicides, from their own distorted perspective, see it as the lesser of two evils.

The "greater evil" being not only continued unhappiness and lack of fulfillment for them personally, but perhaps also them being a burden (emotionally, financially, etc.) on family and friends. I guess they just figure the people in their lives, short-term grief notwithstanding, would be better off without them in the long run. :(

[Shell Beau]

24. You are right.

So sad.

[JitterbugPerfume]

26. that is so sad

My brother in law comitted suicide several years ago and it really messed my sister and her kids up


Later the youngest daughter comitted suicide by way of a car accident . It is not unusual for someone in the family of a suicide to also commit suicide


very sad