I'm drunk and lonely and bored. Ask me anything...

[Aristus]

We haven't had an "Ask me Anything" thread in a while... B-)

[elshiva]

1. Why do you like using this smilie so much?

This one: B-)

[Aristus]

2. Because everyone imagines he looks cool in sunglasses. I don't know if I do or not,

but I imagine I do... B-)

[elshiva]

4. You are cool. It doesn't matter what you wear or don't wear.

YOU. ARE. COOL. :hug: :*

[Aristus]

6. Well, right now, I'm not wearing much...

Just kidding.

Pajama bottoms and a tank top.

[elshiva]

9. That's sexy. Casual, but sexy.

:) :hug:

[Aristus]

11. Comfortable, too!

I need to lay off the pizza. My jeans are getting too tight...

[elshiva]

22. Good night, honey.

:hug:

[Aristus]

24. Good night, elshiva.

:hug:

[Pierre.Suave]

3. Where is Mrs. Aristus tonight?

having her there would cure the lonely and bored... ;)

[Aristus]

7. Down in L.A. visiting the kids and grandkids.

Today sucked. I drove my wife to the airport this morning, and this afternoon, my father went into hospice. I'm gonna drink until I pass out... :grr:

[Pierre.Suave]

10. Your wife will be back

Is your dad ok?

[Aristus]

16. No. He's unresponsive, and has no chance of recovery.

Thanks for asking. That was nice...

[Pierre.Suave]

18. I am sorry

:hug:

[Aristus]

20. Thanks, man.

:hug:

[reformedrethug]

14. Damn dude that sucks!!!

My wife just got certified as a Hospice volunteer in our town a few weeks ago. Sad thing is we just had to bury a family friend today who died 3 days after her doctor finally agreed to sign the paperwork for Hospice.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. My dear Aristus!

Why are you lonely and bored?

Where is your lovely wife?


Oh, and BTW...please don't ever change your sigline. I love that quote!


:hug:

[Aristus]

8. Well, my sigline would come in real handy tonight...

My dad went into hospice this afternoon. He's unresponsive and fading pretty fast...

Thank you for replying, CalPeg. You really are terrific. :hug: And I'm not just saying that because I'm plowed. I can still type straight...

[CaliforniaPeggy]

13. I am so sorry to hear about your dad...

I hope he will pass without pain...

I know you mean what you say...

You have always come across as a most honest and lovely man...and I mean that too, sweetie...:hug:

[Aristus]

19. You were a nurse, right?

His B/P was 104/52 and heart rate was 96. So he's a little hypovolemic. but he has orders for no extraordinary measures. They tried to get a line into him for parenteral morphine, but the veins were just too fragile. So they're hoping they can start him on some buccal morphine patches.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

23. Yep, I was a nurse.

BP is a bit low, but OK, but his heart rate is a little high. Right now he's compensating but eventually he won't be able to.

I suspect his death will be easy. Being in a coma helps. As do the morphine patches...

Hang in there...we've got your back.

:hug:

[Aristus]

25. Thanks...

...that nearly made me cry, but I'm being strong...

[BeachBaby]

12. I just posted to you in my drink thread.

You okay?

[Aristus]

15. Oh BeachBaby...

How I love Jersey girls...


I'm okay, thanks. :-) Today just sucked, that's all. I'm a guy. I have to suck it up, be a man, and be strong. But I know that I can come unglued around my DU friends and not be thought lame.

[BeachBaby]

17. I'm sorry about your dad.

:(

I know (from the pictures you've shown of him) that you are close to him.

We're all here for you - but you already know that. And your sensitivity to this makes you very much a man. Don't allow anyone to have you thinking otherwise.

A great big hug to you, sweetheart. :hug:

[Aristus]

21. Thanks...

The problem is, we haven't always been close. He was responsible for my parents' marriage breaking up. I hated him for years. We started getting closer again in the last ten years or so. And when he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in December of '07, in a perfectly understandable gesture, he started lashing out at his loved ones. And our relationship, always dicey, soured again. it's tough...

[BeachBaby]

26. Sounds rough.

Hang in there, babe. You know we're always here, whenever you need a shoulder. :hug:

[Aristus]

27. Thanks, babe.

Another rough patch was the start of the Iraq war. He's always been sort of a left-leaning moderate. Left-leaning, because he HATED authority figures. How's that for a career Army officer? Anyway, he turned hard-right on the issue of the war, and it got tough to talk to him. But in the last few years, it's been easier; When I visited him in November, he said: "I can't wait until we get that FUCKING IDIOT out of the White House!"

He cast what is almost certainly his last vote for Barack Obama...

[BeachBaby]

28. I think you already know that I spent many years doing volunteer work for Vietnam vets.

A lot of bitterness. A lot of loneliness. Those guys were left behind to deal with the ramifications of what they witnessed firsthand. Over the course of my 11 years of work, I'm pretty sure I've heard everything. And it's devastating to me.

I very recently got done explaining to a friend of mine, how someone can support the troops, but be against the war. I'm sure that people like yourself and your dad know where I am coming from. While it seems that you and your dad had some serious differences, you will always have that in common. Brothers in arms, and all that. It's a bond that can't be broken - but you already know that. ;)

Peace to you, babe. Try to get some sleep, k?

[Aristus]

29. Thanks.

I'm gonna stay up for a while. I'm listening to some Tangerine Dream. Great mood music.

Thanks for being here...

[stewartcolbert08]

30. Why are you drinking alone and what are you drinking!

[Aristus]

31. 'Cause my wife's down in L.A. with the grandkids while I study for Mid-Terms.

And I'm halfway through a great bottle of Stimson's Merlot.

I hit the liquor store after closing time, so I hoofed it over to Safeway, where they were all out of Pinot Noir...

[stewartcolbert08]

33. Sweet!

At least you have some quiet time to study, yet you are not really studying ............hmmmm LOL Sounds like a little ADD?

[Aristus]

34. No. I'm too bummed about my Dad to study. I'll start tomorrow, after I've had some rest.

Right now, I just want to drink and forget...

[stewartcolbert08]

46. I understand that

I am sorry to here about your dad too! :grouphug:

[Dammit Ann]

32. So sorry to hear about your dad. That's hard, my husband and I both have been through it.

Drinking til you pass out, best medicine.

Hmmm, I was supposed to ask a question...


Do you like Kings of Leon? Will that do?

[Aristus]

35. I don't know who they are. Good music group, or something?

I'm typing slower and slower, because I have to go back and re-type things I misspelled... :beer:

[Dammit Ann]

36. yes. they are pretty awesome.

on the cover of the rolling stone and all...
you should check them out, all over le youtubes.

[Aristus]

37. I will.

If you promise to check out Roger Clyne and the Peacemakers. Great liberal rock group.

Actually, they're pretty apolitical. They are all about drinking, rock-and-roll, peace, and having a good time. That's pretty liberal as far as I'm concerned...

[Dammit Ann]

38. totally done.

and thank you, right up my alley.

[Aristus]

39. Cool.

I checked out your profile. Right now, I'm crying in my wine...

[Dammit Ann]

41. why?

I spread only joy and happiness.

[Dammit Ann]

42. oh yeah, well... sometimes.

not tonight so much. Salt and red wine, reminds me of my twenties.

[Aristus]

44. I'm just having a pity-party cause my dad is dying...

And I've got a dreadful case of hiccups!

the wine is good, though...

[Dammit Ann]

47. pity party much deserved.

I really am so sorry. There truly are no words. You do survive it, I promise.

[Aristus]

48. Thank you.

And thanks for staying up with me... :-)

[Dammit Ann]

49. Totally welcome. I've been there, honey. You need to giggle.

Let's see...

Do you find retarded cats at all funny because this is guaranteed to make you pee your pants.

I'm not kidding. MUST WATCH RIGHT NOW!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fOJw-4xGxro

[Dammit Ann]

40. listening right now. LOVE IT!

thank you!

[lizziegrace]

43. I'm so sorry

:hug:

Is your dad in the NW near you?

[Aristus]

45. LIZZIE!

:hug: Mmmmmmmmmm!

It's so good to see you!...

Yeah, He's in a hospice north of Seattle. it's about a forty-mile drive from where I live, but I spent about four hours with him this afternoon. I know he'd be happy; he's where he wanted to be for the end of it...

[tainted_chimp]

50. Aw fuck.....Aristus.....im so sorry.

Having lost both my parents, i soooo much feel for you...

just keep breathing.

[lizziegrace]

52. ...

:hug:

You've been missed. :*

[sarge43]

51. I am so sorry to hear about your father, Aristus.

:patriot::cry:

[Aristus]

53. Thank you so much, sarge...

You know, I just respect the hell out of you. I would have been privileged to serve with you. :patriot:

[sarge43]

58. Good going, Aristus. Now you've made a noncom tear up.

We did serve together as did your dad. The time and place doesn't matter. In the words of a former naval officer friend, "We all wore snappy uniforms and did insane shit."

FWIW. The worst thing that can happen to a person is losing a child. My parents lost two. I took what comfort I could when my father and mother died in thinking that at least they wouldn't have to grieve for me. I could bear the burden; they couldn't.

So, from a British Tommy

I am wounded, but not yet slain.
I'll lay me down and bleed awhile,
Then rise and fight again.

For your Dad, soldier and healer

Ave atque vale, frater.

[ThomCat]

54. Can you feel this virtual hug that I'm sending you?

I'm sorry you're home alone. I hope you're at least drinking something good.

I can't drink anything with alcohol, so please enjoy it for me. :9

[Aristus]

55. Thanks, Thom. A Calvin and Hobbes hug even. Those are the greatest!

:hug:

This was last night, though. Tonight, I'm at hospice visiting my dad. My brother is here, we're playing my dad's favorite music for him, and I'm as sober as a judge. Well, as sober as SOME judges...

We're giving him a good send-off...

[Left Is Write]

56. I know this is from last night and you're not drunk anymore...

and I'm not drunk (though I'm working on a little buzz), but I am bored and lonely.

:hug:

[Aristus]

59. Thanks for being here, LiW.

I appreciate it. :hug:

[Haole Girl]

57. Aw, I'm so sorry I missed this last night

Are you ok? :hug:

[Aristus]

60. Well, you're here now, and that means so much, HG...

:hug: