Is Internet Sex Chat Adulterous?

[Mr. Ected]

Is adultery something committed between the sheets....or between the ears?

[Moondog]

1. The ears. The rest is just a fluid exchange.

[UndertheOcean]

2. I don't know , is masturbtion adultery ?

that also occurs between the ears

[rug]

4. I've been doing it wrong.

[ZombieHorde]

19. We ALL know that already, we all saw the tapes, quit posting them. nt

[rug]

22. Oh yeah? Wait till you see the ones doing it betwen the ears.

[Lyric]

3. I suppose it depends on the relationship.

For us, it would only be "cheating" if we were sneaking around and/or lying about it, or if one of us felt that the other was getting emotionally involved with someone without coming to an agreement about it first.

Random sex chat with a stranger that we don't intend to chat with again? Wouldn't bother either of us. We consider that to be just another form of erotica. But that's *us*. Other people have their own relationship parameters.

[Moondog]

8. Yes. You said it better than I did.

[jeff30997]

5. No.

When I do it I don't consider that I'm cheating on me.My life sucks. :cry:

[TrogL]

6. I'd draw the line if it's interfering with RL sex

Things can get pretty hot and heavy on SL where everybody has perfect bods and sex is acceptable, hell encouraged in public.

If you're getting better emotional benefit from your SL partner than your real partner, then there's a problem.

Now if your SL partner is your RL partner, that can get a bit complicated.

[Moondog]

7. Allow me to amplify.

I don't really accept the concept of "adultery" per se.

But, and this is a big but, in my current relationship, this would be inconsistent with the understanding we have with one another. So, for us, it would be something like "adultery" if either of us were forced to analogize.

[Sky Masterson]

9. Beats me?

I don't feel it is.
I don't think in black or white,right or wrong on some things.It depends on the individual situation i guess.
Not that I've ever gotten any cyber-action :mad: What am I? Chopped f'n liver :shrug: :yoiks:

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

10. Yes, if my wife was in a sex chat, I'd consider it cheating

Porn is okay by me, but no sex chat.

[mainegreen]

14. Haruka: ''Porn is okay by me"

All DU men: +1!!!

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

16. Yeah, neither of us care about porn or erotica

The sad thing about porn is that porn made for women just about universally sucks. Alt-porn for men is WAY better.

[mainegreen]

17. One thing flvegan said once I agree with: Amatuer is the hottest stuff.

Two normal people who totally *really* want to do it with each other, and go at it with real enjoyment and gusto. And mutual affection. That's universal porn.

With that, I'll be in my bunk.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

18. My cousin, Porno Jim, a porn movie called "Hookin' Up"

It's really good, but the lesbian scene sucks because it tried to make it appeal to lesbians too much.

[RiffRandell]

27. Totally agree. n/t

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

11. Yes

[LostinVA]

12. 100%

[GreenPartyVoter]

13. In my marriage yes, but we can't speak for other couples.

[TheManInTheMac]

15. Only if you do it right.

[seemunkee]

20. Would you tell your partner about it?

If you feel you have to hide it then yes.

[Xipe Totec]

21. Depends

Opinions tend to be divided along gender lines on this question.

[MrSlayer]

23. No.

Not anymore than thinking of someone else while masturbating or while actually having sex with your SO. You have to be physically with someone else to be cheating.

[Debi]

24. I think so

If you're putting your imagination and emotional energies into internet sex that they aren't going into real sex with your partner. If it takes away from your relationship with your SO then it can't be good for it.

[NJmaverick]

25. Ears

plus many ears end up in the sheets

[Tuesday Afternoon]

26. both................

[OwnedByFerrets]

28. According to my lawyer, NO.....but what the hell does he know?

[LeftyMom]

29. Up to the parties involved.

There's no standard set of relationship ground rules. Assuming there are just sets one up for conflict and hurt feelings. The best bet is to talk about it (whatever it is) before you do it.