How can you be mad at someone for something that happened only in a dream?

[WillParkinson]

Last night I had the worst nightmares. I dreamed that Paul told me he didn't love me and that he didn't want to be with me anymore.

Apparently I was crying in my sleep because when I finally did wake up 2 of the dogs were on me and Paul was holding me down because he said I was screaming.

Today I find I'm angry at him for what happened in the dream and for some reason I just cannot let it go. It seemed so real that I've been hurting and near tears all morning.

I feel stupid. I know it's a dream and I know he is not responsible for it, but I'm still upset.

[AngryAmish]

1. It just proves you are human

You have emotions. We all do. Buy yourself a cookie and try to think about good things. Cheers!

[vadawg]

2. ill never understand my wife gets pissed at me when she dreams ive donr something wrong

do i blame her when t-rex's are running rampant through the area, or zombie hordes are attacking me, no i dont.

[surrealAmerican]

3. Dreams do not exist in a vacuum.

The dream itself may well have been a response to a nagging emotional doubt, rather than its cause.

[WillParkinson]

5. After 22 years of being with him...

I still doubt why I'm so lucky. I keep feeling like at any moment it's going to be taken away from me.

Yeah, I know. I got the point. Doesn't make it any better though.

He did say one thing when I was telling him about the aches and pains I have due to my profession. I told him I'm falling apart. He hugged me and said we'll fall apart together.

[_dynamicdems]

4. Dreams can seem very real.

I've had the same feelings about dreams I've had. There was something that happened in a dream a few weeks ago and it was so real that it left a permanent impression, like a real memory. It was real enough to make me look up things like "mutual dreaming and "astral travel" on Google. The one thing that stood out was that supposedly (not saying I believe this) dreams are easily forgotten and astral travel is remembered clearly. I wonder if it is possible to tap into another person's unconscious in this way?

I've had the ability to send and receive messages at times in my life. Strong intuition perhaps? I've zero psychic ability and don't even believe in precognition, but aside from this, there seems to be something to mind-to-mind contact. Recently, I was trying to remember the name of someone who was a friend in high school, someone I hadn't thought about in over 30 years, but within 10 minutes of him coming into my mind, my sister called to tell me that she'd just read in the paper that his mother had died. The odds of this happening are just too great to be coincidence, especially when it happens on a regular basis.

Dreams may make a person more open to this kind of communication, if it does indeed exist, but I wouldn't worry about it being "real" or hold any kind of grudge based on the dream. There simply isn't enough known about these kinds of things to assume any real intent on the part of anyone in your dreams.

It may just take time to get over it, just like with real memories. You can't blame anyone for your dreams, but you also can't deny how they the dreams make you feel.

[qb]

6. My partner has vivid dreams and sometimes wakes up pissed at me.

Don't feel stupid. Be glad you're that connected to your feelings.